Healing Hands

27/03/2025

25/03/2025

YOU’RE NOT IN LOVE WITH HER
if you don’t notice the way her voice softens when she’s tired,
if you don’t feel your world shift when she smiles.
If you can watch her cry and feel nothing,
if you can hurt her and sleep just fine.
Love is not about wanting someone—it’s about feeling them,
in every breath, every glance, every second they exist.

25/03/2025

Sometimes, love isn’t about how much time you spend together, but about how much effort you put into making each other feel special.
A simple "I miss you" can mean the world.
A random call just to check in can brighten someone’s day.

The little things—thoughtful words, small surprises, and consistent care—are what truly matter.
Love isn't about grand gestures; it's about showing up, even in the smallest ways, every single day.

25/03/2025

Make sure you respect your partner more than you love them. You can do a lot of damage to them while still loving them. When you respect them, you’ll think about them before you make any decision and you will think about the impact it will have on them.
Love can fade, but never respect.

10/10/2024

WHEN TO LEAVE THAT RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE:

Knowing when to leave a relationship or marriage can be a difficult and personal decision. Here are some signs that may indicate it's time to consider leaving:

*Immediate Deal-Breakers:*

1. Physical or emotional abuse
2. Infidelity with no willingness to work through issues
3. Addiction or substance abuse with no effort to recover
4. Neglect or abandonment
5. Severe financial exploitation

*Red Flags:*

1. Chronic dishonesty or manipulation
2. Emotional unavailability or detachment
3. Lack of communication or conflict resolution
4. Disrespect or contempt
5. Unwillingness to work through issues or seek help

*Long-Term Signs:*

1. Persistent feelings of unhappiness or resentment
2. Lack of intimacy or emotional connection
3. Unfulfilling or toxic dynamic
4. Feeling trapped or suffocated
5. No growth or progress in the relationship

*Personal Indicators:*

1. You feel emotionally drained or exhausted
2. You've lost sense of identity or autonomy
3. You're consistently unhappy or unfulfilled
4. You've tried addressing issues with no resolution
5. You feel unsafe or unsupported

*Marriage-Specific Signs:*

1. Irreconcilable differences
2. Lack of shared values or goals
3. No mutual respect or trust
4. Chronic conflict or arguments
5. Feeling like roommates rather than partners

*When to Leave:*

1. Your physical or emotional well-being is at risk
2. You've tried counseling or therapy with no progress
3. You've set clear boundaries with no change
4. You feel emotionally checked out
5. You've realized you deserve better

*Before Leaving:*

1. Seek counseling or therapy
2. Communicate your concerns with your partner
3. Set clear boundaries
4. Evaluate your own emotional readiness
5. Consider separation or trial separation

*After Leaving:*

1. Prioritize self-care and healing
2. Seek support from loved ones or therapy
3. Focus on personal growth and development
4. Rebuild your sense of identity
5. Take time to reflect and learn from the experience.