01/09/2026
1. Stop putting yourself at the bottom of the list and calling it love. You can adore your family and still have needs, dreams, hobbies and a life that belongs to you too.
2. Donāt wait until your kids need you less to figure out who you are without them. Motherhood can be a huge part of you without becoming ALL of you. Keep something thatās yours.
3. Stop trying to change your body as quickly as possible. Walk. Get strong. Sleep. Eat well. Build boring little habits you can actually keep. And for goodness sake, enjoy the body you have while youāre building the one you want.
4. Keep dating your person. One day thereāll be fewer drop-offs, lunches and kidsā schedules to talk about. Keep laughing, flirting, touching, adventuring and getting to know who youāre BOTH becoming.
5. Stop waiting until youāve āarrivedā to enjoy your bloody life. Wear the swimsuit. Take the photo. Buy the flowers. Start the hobby. Use the fancy dishes. Book the trip.
Your future self isnāt coming to rescue you.
Sheās being built by the choices you make now. āØ
And trust me, Iāve got a LOT more than five after the last decade. š
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