11/12/2025
ALEX: Okay, fix your hair and be serious. ME: 💁🏻♀️
Quickly approaching the big 4-6 (am I still mid-forties?!?) and all I can say is… WOW, WHATTA RIDE. But for all its woes (which are A LOT), aging HAS blessed me with one ABSOLUTELY beautiful thing I would NEVER trade for anything in the world—freedom. 💃
You spend decades carefully constructing your future (and—to be fair—some stability) within the confines of one thousand societal expectations, constantly addressing questions about when you’re gonna get married, why aren’t you having kids, are you really quitting your six-figure job? But here’s the thing about your forties… you DO. NOT. CARE. anymore. 🙅🏻♀️
Let’s, for one moment, forget about the fact that you’re going on the hormonal rollercoaster of your lifetime and are just trying to survive this life one day at a time without going to prison. (Because alla THAT is completely impossible to ignore.) 🎢
You reach a point where your ONLY goal in life is simply… to be happy. This ONE thing. And you know what? I don’t need the impressive job title, the biggest house, the best things, or the approval of others to do it. In fact, I’m happier than I’ve EVER been. 🙌
What I DO need: to do what I love (travel + create), to UNAPOLOGETICALLY be myself (for better or worse), and to surround myself ONLY with people who love me for ME (doesn’t matter whether it’s 2 or 20). 🫶
I see a lot of reflection posts from 20- or 30-somethings (“I’m not afraid to admit…” type things)… BUT—and I mean this in the LEAST patronizing way it can be said, though I’m sure it still comes off that way (sorrynotsorry, you’ll know when you get there)—just know: THE BEST IS YET TO COME. Because the DGAF is reeeaaalll. And it’s AMAZING. 😂
If you’re a fellow 40-something woman who’s struggling to navigate the insanity inside your brain, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. It’s messy, it’s unhinged, but it’s also glorious. And I’m here for you. 😉
And YES, that IS a drinks bracelet on my wrist. Because WHY…?!? 📣