10/09/2026
The straight boy being called âgayâ needs SOGI support, too.
So does the gay boy hearing his identity used as an insult.
Picture them in the same classroom.
One gets mocked because he cries easily, likes dancing or doesnât seem âman enough.â The other hears the laughter and wonders what will happen if anyone finds out who he is.
One learns that heâs being a boy âwrong.â The other learns that being himself could make him a target.
Both are being taught to hide. Both deserve better.
SOGI means sexual orientation and gender identity. Everyone has these, including straight and cisgender people.
SOGI resources help educators support LGBTQ and non-LGBTQ students alike.
They give teachers tools to interrupt the insult, challenge the stereotype and teach children that someoneâs identity is never a reason to humiliate them.
They also give the child repeating those insults a chance to learn another way. Children can learn kindness when we take the time to teach it.
If youâve heard that SOGI hurts children, I understand wanting to protect your child. Every parent should be able to trust that their child will be safe at school.
But what I want you to do is look at what these resources help educators address: bullying, shame, exclusion and the pressure to become someone else just to be accepted.
A boy deserves to be gentle without defending his masculinity. A girl deserves to follow her interests without being told theyâre âfor boys.â LGBTQ children deserve to imagine a future where they are accepted and loved.
Taking away resources wonât change who those children are. It leaves educators with fewer tools to support them.
And it doesnât remove a school districtâs legal responsibility to protect students from discrimination.
Failing to address discriminatory bullying can lead to human rights complaints, legal expenses and compensation payments, pulling money and staff time away from supporting students.
Removing the tools doesnât remove the obligation.
These children are already in our classrooms. Public education has a responsibility to serve every one of them, as they are.
They should be learning how to understand themselves and respect each other. They should never have to learn how to disappear to keep everyone else comfortable.
If our version of âprotecting childrenâ requires them to hide who they are, weâre protecting our comfort. Not their safety.
I hope this helps explain why SOGI resources support every student, LGBTQ or not, and help make our schools safer, more inclusive places where everyone can learn and belong.