28/06/2025                                                                            
                                    
                                                                            
                                            🤣Narcissists will have everyone believing@@@ that because you speak up and talk about how they treated you with others, or because you cut contact with them, that you are out for revenge, or holding a grudge.
In reality, all you are doing is using boundaries and holding them accountable.
This distortion is part of their defense mechanism. They cannot bear to see themselves as anything but the victim or the hero—never the villain. So, when you dare to disrupt that narrative by telling your truth, they scramble to discredit you. They call you bitter, dramatic, unstable. They may accuse you of "smearing" them, when in fact, you are simply reclaiming your voice and sharing your experience, often after years of silence and internal torment.
To the narcissist, your healing looks like rebellion. Your distance looks like betrayal. Your strength is threatening because it proves they no longer control you. So they spin the story to others: “Look how unreasonable they are,” “They just can’t let go,” “They’re obsessed with me.” And some will believe it—because narcissists are skilled at image management. They curate charm like armor, and your truth becomes inconvenient.
But here’s what’s real: speaking up is not vengeance. Going no contact is not cruelty. Boundaries are not punishments—they are acts of self-respect. Holding someone accountable is not about grudges—it’s about no longer enabling abuse.
You don’t owe anyone silence to make them comfortable with your pain. You don’t need permission to protect your peace. Stay grounded in your truth. You are not vengeful. You are free.