Let Them, Let Me: A Heartbreak Healing Journey

Let Them, Let Me: A Heartbreak Healing Journey This page is a safe space for anyone walking through the pain of heartbreak, the emptiness of loss, or the heavy waves of grief.

We offer therapeutic listening and coaching. Reach out if you feel lost, unheard, heart broken and want to be heard!

If it hurts, let it hurt. One day it won’t hurt as much, not because you will forget, but because you will be healed.
10/24/2025

If it hurts, let it hurt. One day it won’t hurt as much, not because you will forget, but because you will be healed.

A must read! She learned early that love is inconsistent, that connection must be worked for, and that silence means she...
10/20/2025

A must read!

She learned early that love is inconsistent, that connection must be worked for, and that silence means she needs to try harder.

Every time her father pulled away, she felt responsible. Every time he shut down, she thought she’d done something wrong.

That belief never left her. It just grew up with her.

When an avoidant man enters her life, something deep inside her wakes up. The inconsistency feels magnetic. His distance feels familiar. Her nervous system remembers this kind of love.

The push and pull, the waiting, the hope, the fear…

It’s the same dance she once did with her father.

She doesn’t want to chase, but her body does it for her. It’s trying to finish an old story that never got resolved.

So she keeps running after men who mirror the same wound. Men who withhold affection. Men who turn away just when she starts to feel safe.

And until she heals that father wound, she’ll keep going for the familiar pain and believe that she’s the problem.

Let me know if this sounds like your story

I think I’ve come to understand what it means to outgrow people you never thought you’d lose. When the messages go unans...
10/20/2025

I think I’ve come to understand what it means to outgrow people you never thought you’d lose. When the messages go unanswered, when the replies get shorter, when the laughter doesn’t sound the same anymore. That’s when I realize the connection isn’t broken, it’s just fading.

The conversations feel heavier, the silence even louder. And then one day, I stop reaching out because I finally understand I can’t save something that no longer wants to stay alive.

If you have an avoidant attachment style, you must read this.Copied!!!Avoidant attachment starts in childhood when being...
10/20/2025

If you have an avoidant attachment style, you must read this.

Copied!!!

Avoidant attachment starts in childhood when being alone felt safer than being close.
When emotions were ignored.
When needing love felt risky.

Healing starts by staying when you want space.
That moment teaches your body that closeness can be safe.
When you keep leaving, love always feels too much.

Then feel before you withdraw.
Let yourself notice what’s under the urge to shut down.
When you avoid the feeling, you keep avoiding connection.

Name what you need.
It reminds your system that your needs matter.
When you stay silent, you keep the wall up.

Let support in.
It breaks the belief that you have to do everything alone.
When you push people away, the loneliness only grows.

Be emotionally honest.
Say what’s real, even if it’s small.
That’s how trust builds with yourself and with others.

Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about forcing closeness.

It’s about learning that love and safety can exist in the same place.

If anything sums up this group's core belief about how to handle your breakup, it surely is the following statement. Onl...
10/13/2025

If anything sums up this group's core belief about how to handle your breakup, it surely is the following statement. Only you can save yourself and turn your life around.

Hang in there 💚

The more emotionally intelligent you become, the less you take things personally. You start to see that other people's b...
10/09/2025

The more emotionally intelligent you become, the less you take things personally. You start to see that other people's behaviours are often reflections of their own struggles, not a statement about your worth.

With time, you learn that many people act out of their own pain, fears, insecurities. Their words and actions often come from what they are carrying inside, not from who you are as a person. When you understand this, you no longer feel the need to argue, prove yourself, let their negativity affect your peace again. Emotional intelligence teaches you to respond with calmness instead of anger, patience instead of frustration. It gives you the strength to step back and realise, “This is not about me. This is about what they are going through.” And in that moment, you choose peace over conflict.

You also start showing more compassion, even when people are unkind. You may not agree with their actions, but you begin to see the hurt behind them. This shift allows you to forgive more easily, detach from unnecessary drama, carry a softer heart without being weak. You begin to value your own energy more and you stop giving away your happiness to every passing mood or opinion of others. You see clearly that your worth does not decrease because someone failed to see it. Their behaviour is simply a mirror of their own battles, not a judgment of your value.

In the end, emotional intelligence helps you carry yourself with grace. You do not take things to heart so easily. You learn to protect your inner world and you realise that the way others act is their story, not yours.🥀

— Dorothea.

10/09/2025

📣📣📣Believe them!!!

When they tell you they are

-Not ready
-Unsure
-Confused
-Lost
-Still figuring it out
-Scared
-Guilty of something
-Not worthy of your affection

Believe them!!! Because who else would know them better than themselves…

So simply believe them
See them for who they say they are

Don’t hope they will change anything for you, because if they know all that about themselves and they havent changed anything yet, they WONT

The irony of heartbreak pain is, we want to be comforted by the very person who hurt us.- Let us be the comforter for ou...
10/06/2025

The irony of heartbreak pain is, we want to be comforted by the very person who hurt us.

- Let us be the comforter for ourselves
- Let us give all the love, care, validation, affection, reassurance to ourselves Let us

10/02/2025

Let’s Reflect: What Is Exactly Hurting You?

Heartbreak is rarely just about someone leaving.
Sometimes, it’s deeper.

Is it their absence that hurts—or the feeling of being replaced?

Is it losing them—or losing the version of you that felt loved beside them?

Is it the end of the relationship—or the dreams that will never happen now?

Take a quiet moment today and gently ask yourself:

What is exactly hurting me right now?

When we name the wound, we give our heart permission to begin healing. 💕

Share in the comments if you feel safe—sometimes, putting it into words is the first step forward.

10/02/2025

🌿 Let’s Reflect: What Is Really Hurting You? 🌿

Sometimes in heartbreak, the pain feels overwhelming—but if we pause and reflect, we may find the truth:
💔 Is it their absence that hurts?
💔 Or the dreams we built with them that no longer exist?
💔 Is it their rejection… or the way it made us question our own worth?
💔 Is it the silence now… or the love we never truly received, even when they were here?

When we sit with our pain and gently ask, “What exactly is hurting me?”—we start untangling the knots in our heart.

This reflection doesn’t erase the hurt, but it gives us clarity. And in clarity, we find the first steps of healing. 🌸

✨ Let them go where they need to.
✨ Let me face what is hurting me, so I can truly begin to heal.

Sometimes the biggest mistakes in life aren’t about money, careers, or opportunities—it’s about the mates we choose. Too...
09/30/2025

Sometimes the biggest mistakes in life aren’t about money, careers, or opportunities—it’s about the mates we choose. Too often we pick people who look good on the outside but don’t truly fit us on the inside.

Love isn’t just about attraction—it’s about alignment. The right partner should sharpen you, not strip you down… should complete you, not leave you feeling incomplete.

Bad choices in mates teach us lessons, but the right choice can help us build a life."**

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