Soul of Solace

10/19/2025

Narcissist in the bible is known as the jezebel spirit

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Be the villain in their story — just don’t lose your peace in yours. 🖤

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Sometimes an obstacle
in your path is a gift meant to redirect you in the right direction.

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Healing Hearts

10/19/2025

This is so true. For years, decades actually I never heard a complaint about my cooking skills and the effort I put into making delicious meals and desserts…
Until !
I started receiving praise from others who thoughtfully complimented me about the food I had prepared for them.
My narcissistic ex partner could not stand me being in “his spotlight” and comments like, how he didn’t care for my cooking efforts “he just needed to fill the hole In his belly” started so as to remind me I wasn’t so special. At least in his eyes.

The only way to “keep the peace” with a narcissist is by being at peace with the fact that things will always be an un-peaceful cyclone of bu****it with this person.

Because peace with them is never genuine — it’s conditional, manipulative, and built on control. You’ll spend your days trying to manage their moods, apologizing for things you didn’t do, and over-explaining yourself just to prevent another explosion. You’ll suppress your truth, silence your feelings, and shrink your existence just to avoid their next outburst.

Narcissists don’t seek harmony; they seek dominance. They twist conversations, play the victim, and gaslight you into believing that you’re the problem. They want you to doubt your reality so they can stay in charge of it. The “peace” they offer only lasts until their ego is bruised or their supply runs low — then the chaos begins again.

True peace doesn’t come from appeasing someone who thrives on conflict. It comes from recognizing that you can’t fix, heal, or reason with someone committed to misunderstanding you. It comes from walking away from the drama and finally choosing yourself — your sanity, your silence, and your stability — over their never-ending storm.

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Marrying a narcissist costs more than peace — it drains your identity. At first, it looks like love, but slowly, you start trading your joy for their approval, your confidence for their control. You forget how to exist without walking on eggshells. The real price isn’t the breakup — it’s how long it takes to find yourself again.

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When a narcissist has a little tantrum over you having the audacity to prioritize yourself over their nonsense, it's not because they're actually hurt.

It’s never about your feelings, your needs, or the choices you make for your own well-being. Narcissists are incapable of processing genuine empathy in the way a healthy person does. They see the world only through the lens of what benefits them, what serves them, and what maintains their illusion of control. That “tantrum” you witness—the cold shoulder, the dramatic accusations, the passive-aggressive digs—is not a reflection of anything you did wrong. It is a deliberate, instinctive reaction to losing access to something they consider theirs by right: your energy, your attention, your love, your validation.

What they are truly reacting to is the loss of supply. You, by setting boundaries, by standing up for yourself, by choosing your own life over their demands, have taken away the sustenance they feel entitled to. Their world, which is built on manipulation, control, and feeding their ego through others, suddenly feels threatened. And because they cannot process or accept that anyone could exist outside of their influence, they attempt to punish, guilt, or intimidate you back into compliance.

This is not personal. It is a pattern. Narcissists do not experience “hurt” in the way humans understand it; their feelings revolve around power, control, and validation. When you refuse to participate in their game, they lash out—not because of your choices, but because the rules of the game have been taken from them. Every snide comment, every sigh, every dramatic show of anger is a reflection of their entitlement and insecurity, not a measure of your value.

You must remember: choosing yourself is not cruelty. Protecting your energy is not selfish. Walking away from manipulation is not betrayal. Each step you take toward your own autonomy and self-respect weakens their control and strengthens your own life. And yes, it may provoke storms from them—but those storms are evidence that you are reclaiming what they thought they could always take.

Stand firm. Protect your boundaries. Prioritize your peace. The tantrum is theirs; your growth is yours. And in the end, it is your choice, your life, and your power that matters—not the fragile ego of someone who has never truly cared.

10/19/2025

Sometimes, you give your heart fully, invest your time, your energy, your love, and what you get in return is not even a reflection of what you put in. You encounter people who are incapable of meeting you on your level, people who are too selfish, too immature, or too toxic to truly see the value of what you offer. And when that happens, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you — it means they are exactly who they are, and you are exactly who you are.

You are not someone who will stoop down to their level, pretend to be something you’re not, or compromise your standards just to make a broken connection work. You are not built to settle for manipulation, dishonesty, or emotional laziness. And the truth is, letting someone like that go is a victory in itself. It’s choosing yourself over the chaos they bring, your sanity over their drama, your growth over their stagnation.

Sometimes, people are mirrors, reflecting back the energy they themselves possess. When they’re filled with toxicity, selfishness, and emptiness, it’s not a reflection of your flaws — it’s a reflection of their own. And the beautiful thing is, recognizing this frees you. It frees you from the false belief that you need to fix them, change them, or stay to prove anything. You are allowed to walk away. You are allowed to protect your heart. You are allowed to wait for people who actually match your energy, your love, and your integrity.

Life is too short to give your best to people who don’t even see it. You don’t owe anyone your heart who isn’t willing to honor it. And in the end, letting go of the wrong people doesn’t close doors — it opens them. It opens the doors to people who are worthy of your time, your effort, and your love. People who will rise to meet you, not drag you down. People who won’t settle for less because you are not someone who settles for less.

You are too good for the wrong people. And sometimes, the hardest truth to accept is also the most liberating: the fact that they were never meant for you is the reason your life can make room for what actually is.

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