31/05/2026
THE SILENCE OF MAY TAUGHT ME HOW TO SPEAK
I disappeared from the media for a while, and if you know me, you know why. May is that month that never asks permission. As a teacher, May means sleepless nights, red pens, final grades, and pouring the last of yourself into other peopleâs futures. So I logged off. Not to hide, but to breathe. To build. To listen to my own life without the noise.
And in that quietness, something powerful happened. When you step back, you start to see clearly. You see the patterns. You see the games. You see the truth.
I saw how easy it is to lie without saying a word. Ladies, I have to say this with love: some of you are breaking hearts in high definition. Youâll let a man give you his time, his energy, his hope... while youâre already committed to someone else. You call it âjust vibing.â But when he falls, wish he will, that fall is on you. If youâre dating, be dating. If youâre not free, donât advertise freedom. The most beautiful thing a woman can wear is honesty.
And gentlemen, weâre not innocent either. We let confusion live in our houses. We let a woman cook in our kitchen, wash our clothes, spend her weekends making our life softer... and we never give her the security of a title. We call her âjust a friendâ to everyone else while enjoying every benefit of a girlfriend. Brother, that isnât smart. Thatâs selfish. If sheâs doing wifey things, you owe her either commitment or clarity. Indecision is a decision to hurt her.
May stripped all the excuses away for me. It showed me that a lot of our heartbreak isnât bad luck. Itâs bad communication. Itâs blurred lines weâre too scared to redraw.
So as we close this heavy, beautiful, exhausting month, Iâm coming back with a different energy. Iâm still building what I started in the silence, and when itâs ready, youâll be the first to know. But for now, this is my prayer for all of us heading into June:
Relax. Breathe deeper. Say what you mean. Ask for what you want. Stop entertaining what you donât want. Let people go who need to go. Hold the ones who deserve to stay.
Life is too short for half relationships and half truths. Letâs make the next month softer, clearer, and real.
Evangelist Emmanuel Fondze
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