25/08/2025
Why did marriages in the past last longer than marriages today?
It wasn’t always because love was stronger or respect was deeper. In many cases, it was because our fathers kept our mothers in positions where they had little or no financial independence.
A woman who didn’t have her own money had no real choice but to stay. Even in toxic or unhappy marriages, the questions were always the same: “Where would I go? How would I feed myself and the children? Who would pay their school fees?” Out of fear and dependency, many of our mothers endured situations they never deserved.
But times have changed. Women today are more financially independent, and with independence comes freedom of choice. Modern women demand better treatment, respect, and partnership in marriage. And if they don’t get it, they can walk away, because survival no longer depends on staying.
This shift is not about women being reb3llious, it’s about dignity and self-worth.The dynamics have changed. In today’s world, love must be built on mutual respect and responsibility, not control and dependency.
Now that survival no longer forces women to stay, what do you believe should be the bond that keeps two people together?
Do you think men are ready to build marriages based on equality, or will some still try to cling on control?
What in your opinion, is the real foundation of lasting marriages in today's world?
Nerys Lyl