07/04/2025
🚨Someone in our community trusted us with their story about witnessing a terrifying situation: a married man threatening another woman because she found someone new who wanted to marry her. These stories are far more common than we think, happening around us while many remain unaware.
The full account shared on Bitaleaf Media's page powerfully illustrates why our "Woman's Worth" campaign is so crucial. Read it, share it, and join us in breaking the silence around relationship violence.
🚨 A Married Man Threatens to Kill His Ex at 1AM – Right Here in Our Mini Cité
What happened last night was violent. It was loud. And it was terrifying. In the still silence of early morning, our mini cité became the stage for an incident no one should ever have to witness or experience.
It involves a woman trying to escape a situation that's clearly gone too far.
Before I walk you through what unfolded, allow me to introduce the people involved in this story. I am using pseudonyms to keep their identities concealed. We'll refer to the place where this incident took place as Cité Matango to protect the real location.
We'll refer to the young, unmarried woman living in Cité Matango as Blanche. Her abuser will be called Boris. Blanche is in a relationship with Boris, but it's far from healthy.
Blanche has a confidant and friend, a woman in her early 40s, who lives in Cité Matango with her son. We'll call this woman Mama Jacob.
Blanche also has a new man who has asked for her hand in marriage; let's call him David. David is completely unaware of the toxic atmosphere surrounding Blanche.
Roger is a tenant in Cité Matango. His sleep was disturbed by the incident and, along with others, he's been trying to make sense of the situation. He brought this story to our ears.
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📌 THE BACKSTORY
For a while now, Boris has been a problem. On "normal" days, it's shouting, verbal abuse and sometimes banging on the door and Blanche coming out with fresh bruises. Her neighbors have had to intervene more than once. And each time, Blanche would downplay it, saying "that's just how Boris is."
But on a certain Friday, things took a sharp turn.
Blanche finally told Boris directly that she had found someone new who is also ready to wife her (David) and that since Boris is already married with no chance of them ever getting married, she wants to move on with her life.
According to Mama Jacob, Boris didn't explode right away after Blanche told him this. Instead, he just stared and said something chilling:
"Nobody will have you besides me. Even if you leave town, I will hunt you down."
After hearing this segment of the story, my immediate instinct was "PSYCHO, Serial lover vibes."
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⚠️ THE ESCALATION
The next day started as a regular one until Boris began blowing up Blanche's phone later in the afternoon but couldn't reach her. Blanche was ignoring his calls because of the "I'll hunt you down" statement he made the other day.
In the evening, Boris showed up only to find out that Blanche wasn't around. Since he had her key, he made himself at home and waited. Evening passed and night came, he called but Blanche's phone was switched off. Blanche had gone as a result of her anticipating he would show up.
What Boris didn't know was that Blanche had already made up her mind to stay away that night—for her own safety. She didn't return until early morning after Mama Jacob tipped her off that Boris had finally left.
But by evening the next day, Boris came back. This time, his rage had multiplied.
He knew why Blanche had stayed out: in his mind, she was with David. And he wasn't wrong. Blanche had gone out with David to cool her head with alcohol and find a momentary escape from her predicaments. Dying inside but pretending to David that she was okay.
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💥 THE INCIDENT
"At 1 a.m., I was woken by loud banging and the kind of shouting that shakes your chest," Roger said.
Boris was back, but this time, he was breathing fire. Blanche had escaped to hide in Mama Jacob's house for her safety since Boris had the key to her house. So Boris went straight to Mama Jacob's door and started banging it.
"Open this door or I'll break it and kill you inside!"
That's what he screamed.
At first the tenants in the cité thought they were being attacked by thieves until Mama Jacob started calling Roger for help and the other men in the cité.
"We came out and threatened Boris to leave or else! Knowing he had no chance facing 5 able men, Boris left while uttering threats of dealing with Blanche mercilessly the next day," Roger recounted.
Let that sink in: a married man, still living with his wife and family, threatening to kill a single woman because she found hope for a life of peace with another man?
This isn't the first time. But this time, it felt like the last straw.
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🧩 THE UNANSWERED QUESTIONS
What fuels Boris's terrifying confidence in his actions, knowing he already has a family elsewhere?
Why does Blanche, despite her clear cries for help, hesitate to involve the police—even when her life is in immediate danger? What kind of power does Boris have over her?
Is it money?
Is it blackmail?
Did they make some dangerous promise in the past?
Let's not forget, David—the man who genuinely loves Blanche—has no idea this is happening.
What happens if Boris is able to locate him?
Is his life also at risk? Should Blanche tell him what is happening so that he can protect himself?
These questions leave us with a powerful challenge: How can we break the cycle of abuse and ensure that no one continues to suffer in silence?
I invite you to share your thoughts in the comments on what you believe is driving Boris's dangerous behavior, and what must change to protect those in our midst?
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👉 YouTube: https://youtu.be/8MIP7VeHDpA?si=64rBvdd4hDU7cPrV
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👉Audiomack: https://audiomack.com/marc-eff-of-kovapot
👉Boomplay: https://www.boomplay.com/songs/202064801?from=search&srModel=COPYLINK&srList=WEB
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