04/05/2026
15 years of Mrs Foncette ✨
1st May 2011, when I said ‘I do’ I didn’t know where life would take us… but the truth, saying ‘I do’ wasn’t the hardest part.
Coming from a traditional culture, being the only girl with three brothers, choosing my own path, and my own partner, meant stepping into my womanhood early.
Not everyone understood it. Not everyone showed up. Not everyone supported me and my decision to marry outside the culture. But in time, the cold hearts softened, and things AND people finally found their way.
Then life threw us a curveball and changed everything.
Cancer. A day after celebrating our 6th chapter as ‘The Foncettes’… bang.
We became patient and carer overnight. But at its core…best friends. I’ve spoken about this many times.
Those years changed me and us in ways I’m still unravelling and ways we’re still picking up pieces from.
But also ways in which we’re constantly celebrating. Starting a charity together, learning more about our deepest and most darkest fears and triumphs.
And now, we have Atlas. Our little miracle (our little horcrux 😂)
And I’m learning how to be both a mum and a wife… without my mum here to guide me.
No real village. Just figuring it out as I go.
But through it all , I’ve grown into a woman who stands in her choices, her love, her life and her voice. Still going against the grain, as some in my community would call it, going against misogyny tbfh, still hell bent on going with my gut , changing the world and still very much saying ‘I do’ - not just to Matt - soppy soppy - but to the hard parts of life. The invincible contracts if you like.
15 years ago, I signed the biggest contract of my life at 25. Out of madness out of love out of a good gut feeling out of holding on to hope…? But, I’m fulfilling my contractual obligations because if I’m one thing, it’s a good , damn, wife!
Every damn year the 1st May comes along, so does the 2nd of May. We’ve had ups we’ve had downs, but here I still stand.
40 years young and ready for more inshallah. Keep going against the grain too my loves.
Love Mrs Foncette
Ps, this is the song I had on repeat on the tube rides home from uni - young and in love.
