28/08/2026
AIO for asking my husband's female friend to set boundaries with him?
I’m a married woman, and we’re part of a server with a group of friends. Most of the group is guys, though some have wives, including me. The wives tend to come and go from the server. While the guys are usually in there.
A new woman, “Crysty,” started hanging out with everyone. At first, I had no problem with her. She claimed we were friends, but I eventually noticed that she seemed much more interested in my husband than in actually being friends with me. I could DM her and get ignored while she would respond to my husband almost immediately. I literally tested this by messaging her while she was messaging my husband and got ignored for days.
The group has a pretty crude sense of humor, and that’s normal for everyone. Crysty joined in with the jokes, but I started noticing that some of the jokes were specifically directed toward my husband and felt more flirtatious than the way she interacted with everyone else.
I noticed that when I hopped in voice, she would go quiet, then leave. She would stay gone until I left, then almost instantly return. At first I thought it was a coincidence, but I also tested this by joining and leaving several times, and she did this every time.
She also started randomly DMing my husband things like, “You look pretty.” She began calling him her best friend, while not having much of a relationship with me, and whenever she had personal drama going on, she would go to him to talk about it.
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