Narcissism ናርሲሲዝም

30/11/2025

A narcissist doesn’t love you.
They love the way you tolerate their behavior.

They don’t connect with your heart,
they connect with your compliance.
Your patience feels like permission.
Your forgiveness feels like fuel.
Your loyalty becomes their leverage.

Narcissists don’t seek partners—
they seek providers of validation, attention, and control.
They study what you’ll accept,
what you’ll excuse,
and what you’ll sacrifice.

The more you endure,
the more they take.
The more you bend,
the more they break you.

It’s not your love they crave—
it’s the comfort of knowing you’ll stay
even when they show you their ugliest sides.

But the moment you stop tolerating them,
the illusion shatters.
Their "love" evaporates,
their charm fades,
and their true intentions finally come to light.

They never loved you—
they loved the access you gave them.

30/11/2025

Narcissists truly believe that what they did to you was not abuse.
To them, they were just mistakes.
"Nobody's perfect," they'll say, and you're just exaggerating.
In their mind, you become the abuser for not forgiving them and for refusing to forget it all.

This is the twisted logic they live by—a world where their actions are minimized, justified, or erased, while your reactions are magnified and condemned. They cannot handle accountability because it threatens the carefully crafted image they hold of themselves. So instead of owning the harm they caused, they rewrite the situation to make *you* the unreasonable one.

If you cry, you’re “too emotional.”
If you confront them, you’re “attacking.”
If you walk away, you’re “cold,” “cruel,” or “heartless.”

They weaponize your humanity against you, using your empathy as leverage while insisting that their own behavior was harmless or accidental. And when you refuse to quietly accept their excuses, they paint you as the problem. They’ll accuse you of holding grudges, being dramatic, or overreacting—anything to avoid facing the reality of what they did.

But here’s the truth: acknowledging harm is not abuse. Setting boundaries is not cruelty. Refusing to be mistreated again is not unforgiveness—it’s self-respect. You’re not responsible for their inability to face their own reflection. You’re not obligated to minimize your pain to soothe their ego.

Narcissists rewrite history because the real version exposes them. But you don’t have to live in their revision. Your feelings are valid, your memory is real, and your decision to protect yourself is justified. Healing begins the moment you stop accepting their distortions and start trusting your own truth again.

30/11/2025

A narcissist isn’t interested in raising children, they just want to look like a good parent to the world, while making their own family suffer their abuse behind closed doors.

They care more about the performance than the parenting.

More about the image than the impact.
More about applause than affection.

To outsiders, they’re charming, devoted, “such a great parent.”

But behind the scenes, the kids walk on eggshells, the partner carries the emotional weight, and the whole household feels the damage no one else sees.

A narcissist doesn’t nurture — they manipulate.

They don’t guide — they control.
They don’t love — they possess.

The real victims are the ones forced to survive the reality behind their mask.

A narcissist isn’t interested in raising children, they just want to look like a good parent to the world, while making their own family suffer their abuse behind closed doors.

They care more about the performance than the parenting.
More about the image than the impact.
More about applause than affection.

To outsiders, they’re charming, devoted, “such a great parent.”
But behind the scenes, the kids walk on eggshells, the partner carries the emotional weight, and the whole household feels the damage no one else sees.

A narcissist doesn’t nurture — they manipulate.
They don’t guide — they control.
They don’t love — they possess.

The real victims are the ones forced to survive the reality behind their mask.

30/11/2025

**You can't argue with a narcissist.
They don't want understanding. They want obedience.**

They aren’t interested in hearing your side, your feelings, or the truth. They don't seek resolution — they seek dominance. Every conversation becomes a battlefield where logic is twisted, facts are denied, and your emotions are used against you. What you think is a discussion, they see as a threat to their power.

With a narcissist, winning is the only goal. They will interrupt, deflect, project, and manipulate until you’re exhausted and questioning your own reality. They don't care about fairness or clarity. They care about maintaining control and protecting their fragile ego. If they sense you're gaining ground, they'll shift blame, change the topic, or play the victim just to keep you off balance.

Trying to reason with them only pulls you deeper into their chaos. They feed off your frustration and confusion because it keeps you emotionally entangled and easier to control. They want you to give up, to accept their version of events, to agree even when you know they're wrong.

The truth is, the only winning move is refusing to participate. Silence is stronger than arguing with someone who has no intention of listening. Your peace cannot survive a debate with someone who thrives on conflict. Walking away isn't weakness — it's wisdom. It’s reclaiming your power from someone who was never going to meet you at the same level of honesty or respect.

30/11/2025

Narcissistic mothers won’t just gaslight you.
They’ll run to the rest of the family, cry about how you’ve changed, and recruit a whole army of flying monkeys to guilt you back into submission.

It’s a vicious cycle. They’ll manipulate your emotions, twist your reality, and when you finally start setting boundaries, they’ll turn everyone against you.

They’ll play the victim, making it seem like you’re the one who’s ungrateful or disrespectful. Meanwhile, you’re just trying to protect your peace and sanity.

But don’t let their games pull you back in. You are allowed to stand your ground. Your mental and emotional health come first.

30/11/2025

A Narcissist Isn’t Interested in Being a Good Parent — Only in Looking Like One

A narcissist isn’t interested in being a good parent — only in looking like one.

Their focus is never on the child’s emotional needs, safety, or development. Instead, it’s on creating the appearance of being the perfect mum or dad.

Parenting becomes a performance, not a responsibility.

Behind closed doors, they may be dismissive, unreliable, or even emotionally harmful.

But in public, they transform into the doting, selfless parent who “does everything” for their child.

They take photos, make grand gestures, and tell dramatic stories about how hard they try — all designed to win praise, not to meet their child’s needs.

A narcissist will show up for the school event where others can see them, but ignore everyday parenting tasks that require patience and consistency.

They love moments that boost their image: birthdays, social media posts, public affection.

Yet they avoid anything that doesn’t feed their ego: discipline, emotional support, genuine care.

Worse still, they may use the child as a prop to gain sympathy or admiration.

If challenged, they blame the other parent, claiming they “do everything” while taking credit for work they never did.

For a narcissist, parenting isn’t love — it’s image management. Recognising this helps you protect both yourself and your child from their emotional games.

A Narcissist Isn’t Interested in Being a Good Parent — Only in Looking Like One
A narcissist isn’t interested in being a good parent — only in looking like one. Their focus is never on the child’s emotional needs, safety, or development. Instead, it’s on creating the appearance of being the perfect mum or dad. Parenting becomes a performance, not a responsibility.
Behind closed doors, they may be dismissive, unreliable, or even emotionally harmful. But in public, they transform into the doting, selfless parent who “does everything” for their child. They take photos, make grand gestures, and tell dramatic stories about how hard they try — all designed to win praise, not to meet their child’s needs.
A narcissist will show up for the school event where others can see them, but ignore everyday parenting tasks that require patience and consistency. They love moments that boost their image: birthdays, social media posts, public affection. Yet they avoid anything that doesn’t feed their ego: discipline, emotional support, genuine care.
Worse still, they may use the child as a prop to gain sympathy or admiration. If challenged, they blame the other parent, claiming they “do everything” while taking credit for work they never did.
For a narcissist, parenting isn’t love — it’s image management. Recognising this helps you protect both yourself and your child from their emotional games.

For more information about understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse, click the links below.

https://overcoming-narcissist-abuse.teachable.com/p/break-free-from-the-narcissist

Check these out!

Behind The Mask: The Rise Of The Narcissist

https://a.co/d/czX7KT2

15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.

https://a.co/d/g4H2bxG

A Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C87NNBNP?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_VKQZHN0VXE8W4WXTQQ20

Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ583RL8

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future

https://amzn.eu/d/044yGFS8

(Sponsored.). https://betterhelp.com/elizabethshaw

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30/11/2025

Nobody finds a
"soulmate" faster than a narcissist
who can't be alone with their own emptiness.

A narcissist doesn’t “fall in love” fast — they panic. They scramble for a new host the moment their mask slips, because silence feels like death to them. They can’t sit alone with their own thoughts, their own guilt, their own hollowness. So they rush into the next person’s life, pretending it’s destiny, pretending it’s love, pretending they’ve “finally met their match.”
But it’s not romance — it’s survival.
It’s not connection — it’s escape.
And it’s never love — it’s just their fear wearing a disguise.

Narcissists thrive on attention, manipulation, and control. They show you what you want to see, but it’s never the whole truth.

Their charm is intoxicating at first, but soon, you realize it’s all a façade. They gaslight, twist your words, and create doubt where there should be trust. They convince you to question your reality, leaving you feeling lost and confused.

A narcissist’s love is conditional. It’s based on how much they can control you and how much you cater to their needs. The moment you stop giving them what they want, they’ll discard you like an old toy.

The truth is, they never loved you—they loved the version of you that served their ego. And when they can no longer use you, they move on, leaving emotional destruction in their wake.

Don’t let their games fool you. Your worth isn’t defined by their lies.

30/11/2025

Nobody finds a
"soulmate" faster than a narcissist
who can't be alone with their own emptiness.

A narcissist doesn’t “fall in love” fast — they panic. They scramble for a new host the moment their mask slips, because silence feels like death to them. They can’t sit alone with their own thoughts, their own guilt, their own hollowness. So they rush into the next person’s life, pretending it’s destiny, pretending it’s love, pretending they’ve “finally met their match.”
But it’s not romance — it’s survival.
It’s not connection — it’s escape.
And it’s never love — it’s just their fear wearing a disguise.

One day you’ll realize losing the narcissist was the best thing that ever happened to you.

You won’t see it at first — the pain, the confusion, the withdrawal from the chaos you got used to will cloud everything. But as time passes, the fog lifts. You start breathing again. You start thinking clearly. You start recognizing yourself in the mirror.

You’ll notice the peace.
The silence that once felt strange becomes comforting.
The freedom to feel, speak, and exist without walking on eggshells becomes priceless.

And then it hits you: losing them wasn’t a loss.
It was the beginning of your healing, your strength, and your life.

30/11/2025

Nobody finds a
"soulmate" faster than a narcissist
who can't be alone with their own emptiness.

A narcissist doesn’t “fall in love” fast — they panic. They scramble for a new host the moment their mask slips, because silence feels like death to them. They can’t sit alone with their own thoughts, their own guilt, their own hollowness. So they rush into the next person’s life, pretending it’s destiny, pretending it’s love, pretending they’ve “finally met their match.”
But it’s not romance — it’s survival.
It’s not connection — it’s escape.
And it’s never love — it’s just their fear wearing a disguise.

30/11/2025

A narcissist will purposely trigger an insecurity in you. They do this to bring down your self-esteem, break your spirit, and to try to ensure that you won't go anywhere.

It’s a calculated move, often disguised as a joke, a passing comment, or even "helpful" criticism. They zero in on the vulnerabilities you might already feel sensitive about, amplifying them to make you doubt yourself. The goal is to make you more dependent on their validation, to keep you in a state of seeking their approval, and to control the narrative of your worth. Over time, this erosion chips away at your confidence, making it harder to see your own value, harder to imagine a life outside their influence.

The insidious part is how it feels personal, like you’re the one who’s flawed, not them. But it’s a tactic, a way to deflect from their own shortcomings and keep the power dynamic tilted in their favor. Recognizing this pattern is a huge step toward breaking free. You’re not the problem; their need for control is. Healing starts with naming it, setting boundaries, and rebuilding your sense of self with support from people who uplift you. Surround yourself with reminders of your strengths, and know that walking away is an act of reclaiming power, not a failure. Do you want strategies for handling these triggers or talking to someone who can help you process this?

30/11/2025

How Narcissists Twist Reality to Protect Their Ego
Narcissists are confusing people, especially when it comes to the stories they tell about you once their behaviour is exposed. One of their favourite tactics is projection — accusing you of the very things they’re guilty of. They’ll tell their flying monkeys you were the “jealous one,” even though they were the ones cheating, flirting, and deliberately provoking jealousy to keep you insecure and off balance.
They’ll also call you “bitter,” but this bitterness is really their own. It appears the moment you stop tolerating their manipulation, stop excusing their behaviour, and stop feeding their ego. Rather than reflect on their actions, they simply assign the emotion to you.
And of course, they’ll label you “crazy,” not because you are, but because you caught their lies, questioned their inconsistencies, or refused to stay silent. To a narcissist, anyone who sees the truth becomes a threat — and must be discredited.
The pattern is predictable: every accusation they make is a mirror of who they are. Their jealousy, their bitterness, their instability, all wrapped in a story where they play the victim and you become the villain.
Understanding this helps you detach from their narrative and recognise their lies for what they are — pure projection.

For more information about understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse, click the links below.

https://overcoming-narcissist-abuse.teachable.com/p/break-free-from-the-narcissist

Check these out!

Behind The Mask: The Rise Of The Narcissist

https://a.co/d/czX7KT2

15 Rules To Deal With Narcissistic People.: How To Stay Sane And Break The Chain.

https://a.co/d/g4H2bxG

A Narcissists Handbook: The ultimate guide to understanding and overcoming narcissistic and emotional abuse.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C87NNBNP?ref_=cm_sw_r_mwn_dp_VKQZHN0VXE8W4WXTQQ20

Boundaries with Narcissists: Safeguarding Emotional, Psychological, and Physical Independence.

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CQ583RL8

Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: A Guided Journal for Recovery and Empowerment: Reclaim Your Identity, Build Self-Esteem, and Embrace a Brighter Future

https://amzn.eu/d/044yGFS8

(Sponsored.). https://betterhelp.com/elizabethshaw

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30/11/2025

When you are in a relationship with a Narcissist,
there is always a whole secret life going on behind your back.

They don’t live one life — they live two.
The one they show you, and the one they hide from you.
With a narcissist, nothing is ever what it seems.
Their charm is a mask, their routine is a cover, and their words are bait.
While you’re loyal, committed, and transparent,
they’re busy creating hidden connections, secret conversations,
and private worlds you’re never supposed to discover.
You’re not “overthinking” — your intuition knows
you were never the only reality they were living in.