21/12/2025
“My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?”: Finding the God of relationship in the Silence of the Cross.
On the cross, Jesus spoke seven significant cry out phrases. One of them references Psalm 22:1. However, some Christians do not know exactly what this means.
መዝሙር 22:1 “አምላኬ፡ አምላኬ፡ ለምን ተውኸኝ? እኔን ከማዳንና ከጩኸቴ ቃል ሩቅ ነህ።”
Psalm 22:1 "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning?"
To understand this, we must ask: Who is God?
When the world was created, on the sixth day, God said, "Let us create man in our image." The plural expression here implies that God is a God of relationship. God the Father, God the Son, and the Holy Spirit do not exist without relationship.
Some Christians believe that when Jesus cried out, "Eloi, Eloi, Lama Sabachthani" ("My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?"), the relationship between the Father and the Son was cut off. However, this does not mean the bond was broken. When we look at the cross, we see that the bond remained intact; in fact, the work of the cross was the very plan that the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit were accomplishing together.
ኤፌሶን 1:11 “እንደ ፈቃዱ ምክር ሁሉን የሚሠራ እንደ እርሱ አሳብ፥ አስቀድመን የተወሰንን …..በክርስቶስ ደግሞ ርስትን ተቀበልን።”
ኤፌሶን 3:11 ይህም በክርስቶስ ኢየሱስ በጌታችን የፈጸመው የዘላለም አሳብ ነበረ፥
Ephesians 1:11 "In him we were also chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of him who works out everything in conformity with the purpose of his will."
Eph 3:11 “according to his eternal purpose which he accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
According to the book of 4 gospel authors report , Jesus called out to God seven times. In Luke (23:34 and 23:46), He addressed God as Father: "Father, forgive them" and "Father, into your hands I commit my spirit." Yet, in the midst of suffering, we also hear Him quoting David’s song: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?"
መዝሙር 22:1 “አምላኬ፡ አምላኬ፡ ለምን ተውኸኝ? እኔን ከማዳንና ከጩኸቴ ቃል ሩቅ ነህ።”
Psalm 22:1 "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from the words of my groaning?"
Here, Jesus is referring to the author of the Psalm, David. Jesus was experiencing anguish just as David did. When David wrote this, he was in the pain of betrayal and unfair judgment by his enemies, feeling forsaken by God. When we go under oppression, are challenged by enemies, or go through times of deep distress, this is how we all feel.
This was not just David’s cry; it is the sound of all of us. Jesus felt this exact emotion in that moment. But did God actually leave or turn His back on David? No. David simply didn't hear God responding, so he felt abandoned. Was that the reality? No!
In the same way, Jesus was in a moment where He was misunderstood, delivered into the hands of the Romans, and His friends were not around. What do we see here? Jesus is a partaker with people who go through suffering. The penalty for sin had to be paid through suffering; Jesus could not skip this moment. It was a time of crying out and challenge where God seemed quiet and distant. It was real suffering.
Jesus knows the feeling of being without the evident comfort of God. He knows the feeling of betrayal, the silence of God, being misunderstood, and injustice. Just as God didn’t leave David, God the Father didn’t leave Jesus. However, He allowed death to happen to Him. He didn't interfere to save him because He willed that moment to happen.
Why? So that Jesus could become the brother of all those who go through challenging times. He became like those who suffer.
Many have found comfort because of the suffering Jesus endured. There is a story of a woman named Joni Eareckson Tada who was paralyzed in a diving accident. She couldn't walk and was filled with pain and anger. Finally, she wrote in her book that she found comfort through Jesus. She realized: "Jesus knows what I feel." Just like her, the God who can do everything was nailed to a cross, unable to help Himself even to drink water. He is our ultimate comforter through Holy Spirit.
We learn three lessons from this groaning cry of Jesus:
1. Identification with Human Suffering:
When Jesus says "My God," He is identifying with David’s suffering and declaring that He is a partaker in all the pain human beings go through. He is not distant from our pain; He is in it. He is relating to us.
2. Faithfulness in the Silence:
The second lesson is that even when we go through pain and suffering, we must remain faithful in our relationship with the Lord. Even if we are dying, He is still our Lord. He is the One who deserves to be called "My God."
Our relationship is not transactional. Whether we are in good times or bad times, He is still our God. Our bond is unbreakable. We learn to stay in a steadfast relationship with Him regardless of the circumstances.
3. The Revelation of Love:
The third lesson is that Jesus is God revealed in human form; He demonstrates the true nature of God, which is Love.
When He said, "My God, why have you forsaken me?" it did not mean God had turned His back on His Son. In John 8:29, Jesus said: "The one who sent me is with me; he has not left me alone, for I always do what pleases him."
ዮሐንስ 8:29 “የላከኝም ከእኔ ጋር ነው፤ እኔ ደስ የሚያሰኘውን ዘወትር አደርጋለሁና አብ ብቻዬን አይተወኝም።”
The cry of the Lord, in fact, shows the pinnacle of the revelation of Love on the cross. It is the time and place where the love of God was revealed through Jesus, showing us what love truly means: Love is to live or die for others.
It’s also a revelation of the relationship between the Son and the Father. When Jesus prayed, "If it is your will, let this cup pass from me," it revealed the eternal counsel they shared.
Luke 22:42 "Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me; nevertheless, not my will, but yours, be done."
John 6:38 "I have come down from heaven not to do my own will but the will of him who sent me."
ዮሐንስ 6:38 ፈቃዴን ለማድረግ አይደለም እንጂ የላከኝን ፈቃድ ለማድረግ ከሰማይ ወርጃለሁና።
These reveals Jesus’s perfect submission to a plan they already shared. The work of the cross was the plan established earlier between the Father and the Son.
ኤፌሶን 3:11 ይህም በክርስቶስ ኢየሱስ በጌታችን የፈጸመው የዘላለም አሳብ ነበረ፥
Ephesians 3:11 "According to the eternal purpose that he accomplished in Christ Jesus our Lord."
In another place, Jesus revealed His and His Father’s eternal plan in the following way:
John 17:5 "Father, glorify me in your own presence with the glory that I had with you before the world existed."
ዮሐንስ 17:5 አሁንም፥ አባት ሆይ፥ ዓለም ሳይፈጠር በአንተ ዘንድ በነበረኝ ክብር አንተ በራስህ ዘንድ አክብረኝ።
John 3:17 "For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world…"
John 17:4 "I have finished the work you gave me to do."
ዮሐንስ 17:4 እኔ ላደርገው የሰጠኸኝን ሥራ ፈጽሜ በምድር አከበርሁህ፤
All these show that Jesus endured this suffering willingly; the mission was agreed upon by the Father and the Son, and sealed by the Holy Spirit.
Human wisdom would dictate that He reveal Himself as a Mighty God, destroy everyone, and save His own life. But He didn't do that. His love, which we had never known before, was being revealed. We were experiencing the love of heaven for the first time.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 1:25: "For the foolishness of God is wiser than man’s wisdom." The counsel between God the Father and His Son was in perfect harmony, and it was not similar to human thinking.
1 ቆሮንቶስ 1:25 “ከሰው ይልቅ የእግዚአብሔር ሞኝነት ይጠበባልና፥ የእግዚአብሔርም ድካም ከሰው ይልቅ ይበረታልና።”
Our "wisdom" says to destroy the enemy, but His "wisdom" chose to submit to the weak and willingly die. Giving up His soul became the revealed wisdom of heaven. His way, which seems like foolishness to the world, became the wisdom that saved humanity.
This work of heaven’s plan did not end in defeat or suffering; it ended in victory. It ended with the report: "It is finished!" This is the sound of victory; the mission was fulfilled.
The author of Psalm 22 was crying out to God earnestly because he was in a situation he didn't choose. However, Jesus chose this way, willingly came into this suffering with full knowledge and full obedience.
ፊልጵስዩስ 2:7 ነገር ግን የባሪያን መልክ ይዞ በሰውም ምሳሌ ሆኖ ራሱን ባዶ አደረገ፥ በምስሉም እንደ ሰው ተገኝቶ ራሱን አዋረደ፥ ለሞትም ይኸውም የመስቀል ሞት እንኳ የታዘዘ ሆነ።
Philippians 2:7-8 "...but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death— even death on a cross!"
The author of the Psalm tells us by the end of the chapter that God didn't leave him forever. We hear God answering his prayer around verse 24.
መዝሙር 22:24 የችግረኛን ችግር አልናቀምና፥ ቸልም አላለምና፤ ፊቱንም ከእኔ አልሰወረምና፥ ነገር ግን ወደ እርሱ በጮኽሁ ጊዜ ሰማኝ።
Psalm 22:24 "For he has not despised or disdained the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help."
In fact, the story ended up in praise and worship.
Psalm 22:25 "From you comes the theme of my praise in the great assembly; before those who fear you will I fulfill my vows."
መዝሙር 22:25 በታላቅ ጉባኤ ምስጋናዬ ከአንተ ዘንድ ነው፤ እርሱን በሚፈሩት ፊት ስእለቴን እሰጣለሁ።
God heard David and answered. The same thing happened on the cross. The author of Hebrews tells us:
ዕብራውያን 5:7 እርሱም በስጋው ወራት ከሞት ሊያድነው ወደሚችል ከብርቱ ጩኸትና ከእንባ ጋር ጸሎትንና ምልጃን አቀረበ፥ እግዚአብሔርንም ስለ መፍራቱ ተሰማለት፤
Hebrews 5:7 "During the days of Jesus’ life on earth, he offered up prayers and petitions with loud cries and tears to the one who could save him from death, and he was heard because of his reverent submission."
God answered His prayers not by saving Him from dying, but by saving Him through death. Why?
Hebrews 12:2 "...who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God."
ዕብራውያን 12: 2 “እርሱ ነውርን ንቆ በፊቱም ስላለው ደስታ በመስቀል ታግሦ በእግዚአብሔር ዙፋን ቀኝ ተቀምጦአልና።
When God seems silent, it doesn’t mean he is not at work. That is why we see, During the silence, the curtain was torn apart.
The law and sin cannot hold us anymore now because they couldn't hold Jesus. On the third day, He rose again. "O Death, where is your sting?"
Paul understood this well. He did not care about the power of death. In fact, it became too difficult for him to choose between life and death. He said, "If I stay with you, it’s for me to preach the gospel, but if I die, it’s for my benefit." His preference, however, was to die and go to Jesus.
ፊልጵስዩስ 1:20 ይህ ናፍቆቴ ተስፋዬም ነውና፤ በአንድ ነገር እንኳ አላፍርም ነገር ግን በህይወት ብኖር ወይም ብሞት፥ ክርስቶስ በግልጥነት ሁሉ እንደ ወትሮው አሁን ደግሞ በስጋዬ ይከብራል። ለእኔ ሕይወት ክርስቶስ፥ ሞትም ጥቅም ነውና።
Philippians 1:20-21 "I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death. For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain."
ፊልጵስዩስ 1:23 በእነዚህም በሁለቱ እጨነቃለሁ፤ ልሄድ ከክርስቶስም ጋር ልኖር እናፍቃለሁ፥ ከሁሉ ይልቅ እጅግ የሚሻል ነውና፤
Paul was unable to choose between living on earth or going to Him. Some people cry out in fear because they are too connected to this world. But if we are connected in a strong relationship with the Lord, we may feel the same way Paul felt. We would be in a situation where it is difficult to choose which is better: to stay here and serve Him, or to die and live with Him forever.
Paul, however, preferred to die; he had no fear of death because he had seen Jesus come back from death. The sting of death had been taken away, and he demonstrated no fear of death.
Philippians 1:23 "I am torn between the two: I desire to depart and be with Christ, which is better by far;"