09/12/2024
My husband's friend came around sometime ago. He came to drop something for my husband and when he was leaving, he asked that I give him a hug cuz he was feeling lonely, his wife travelled abroad earlier this year.
I reluctantly gave him the hug because he's a friend. I realised he hugged me too tight and when he was about freeing himself, he kissed me on the lip and rushed out.
I didn't say anything, I tried to understand why he did it but later just ignored. I thought he might just be missing his wife.
Some days later he sent me a text asking if I reported him to my husband and I said NO.
From there, he started texting regularly and passing by the house to give me gifts and other things when he knows hubby isn't around.
We both lost control one time and had s3x. I always knew it could happen so I tried to keep my distance but it eventually happened and I couldn't control it.
I wasn't happy we did what we did, though I enjoyed it, I admit that. S3x with hubby was honestly one way. The change was fun.
I knew it may continue and I didn't want that. I am not a cheat so I told hubby's friend not to pass by anymore and I didn't want to see his face ever again.
He wouldn't listen, he sent a lengthy text explaining how he enjoyed it and how much he has come to love me, even more than his wife.
I don't know why but, I started feeling like I loved him too. I ignored him, but I couldn't boldly ask him to stay away from me. I entertained him when he comes around often so the s3x thing started happening again and this time, more regularly.
We spent time together and even went on trips sometimes. We had s3x in his car and at hotels on several occasions.
Beginning of this November month, he started withdrawing. He wouldn't call, text or ask to see me as usual. I asked why and he said his wife was coming home this December and he wanted to end things with me before she does, adding that he didn't want to have any issues with his wife nor my husband later.
As I type this, he has blocked and ghosted me completely. I feel hurt, used and played by my husband's bosom friend. I really don't know how to pay him back for what he has done to me. He has disrespected and taken advantage of me. How am I supposed to handle this? What do I do to hurt him back?
