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I help women launch a heart-led business online💕 🌱Over 40’s Business＆Mind Health Tips

06/08/2025

You weren’t born doubting yourself.

You were handed that special little gift (don’t miss the sarcasm in my voice there).

Piece by piece, in a system built to make you small, compliant, and agreeable.

So now, even when you feel the pull to do something bold, something wild, something new...
that old programming kicks in.

*insert internal chatter here*

Mine sounds like this…

Who do you think you are? Stay in your lane. No one cares. Do it quietly. Remember how your excitement and joy upset others? Stop showing off…

And so on.

Thankfully I’ve learnt where it comes from and am able to keep it gagged for the majority of my day -

It’s loudest when I’m walking into a new level of boldness.

The same noise that used to hold me back. I know how debilitating it is to think it’s factual.

Here’s your reminder,

That voice in your head, it’s not yours.
It was planted.

And you should make it your mission to rewrite the whole script.

I’m here holding the torch for you and lighting the way.

And you get to pay that forward for the next brave soul stepping into their power.

You are amazing and your own unique voice has its own unique place in the world 🗣️

No boss, no burnout, no bu****it!
Love K x

03/08/2025

Chasing success was the smokescreen.
It was an automatic drive to feel safe.

Safety meant: Stability. Approval. Belonging.

A nervous system that could only function in that space.

That idyllic life I was expecting to reach never materialised - just like the horizon, always ‘over there’.

I continued …

Performing. Perfecting. People-pleasing.
Saying yes as default.
Always appearing to be on top of it all.

All for that illusion of security that never came.

I named it ambition but that was someone else’s label - I was actually just moving along a pre built path that society had created for me.

Stopping was not an option because this was a case of survival.

And survival mode doesn’t dream.
It calculates.
It performs.
It protects.

Until one day, the body says no.
The mask slips.
The truth can’t be swallowed down anymore.
And that’s when the real work begins.

Not the healing retreats (although it started there!)

The actual work
of choosing differently,
of sitting with discomfort,
of backing yourself when everything else is shocked and unsupportive.

That’s the path I’m on now.

Starting a business is the personal development journey I did not ask for but it’s absolutely what I needed to start being honest with myself and dig down to the cold hard truth,

It is so freeing!

If you’ve read this far, you probably feel it too and are ready to face your truth.

Begin with asking why you are doing what you’re doing and the honest answer will likely surprise you.

No boss, no burnout, no bu****it.
Love K x

02/08/2025

There’s a version of me that used to think hustling meant success: long hours, fast pace, always on the go.💨

Now I can see that was survival mode.

I was constantly trying to outrun the fear that resting would make me irrelevant.

The shift wasn’t instant though.

It’s taken unlearning years of corporate praise and performance, a lifetime of trying to prove my worth to my parents. 😔

After a little shadow work, I realised I was bashing the feminine, thinking its energy was weak, using language like ‘man up,’ believing I needed to be strong all the time.

What I learned: feminine leadership isn’t fluffy.

It’s fierce, clear, intuitive, and deeply self-led.

If you’ve sat in your masculine energy as long as I did, believing you’re only paid well if you work hard, the shift will at first feel lazy, unproductive, and empty.

I stopped fighting for space in a system never built for me and started creating something that is.

But I couldn’t escape myself, so I got to the root of why giving all of myself away felt good.

I had to bring the feminine back to myself, instead of just giving to others.

Masculine was moving me; feminine was nurturing everyone else (oddly masculine, as I was giving instead of receiving).

So I turned that focus inward, started saying no, started listening, prioritised rest and slowed down.

I’m still sitting in the discomfort of this transition, and the universe is testing me HARD, daily, seeing if I’ll revert to hustling for safety instead of trusting.

Already, it’s given me space to see life, behaviors, the world, and people behaviours (and my own) more clearly.

With every evolution, there are adjustments and new challenges, but I’m embracing them with self kindness.

This is the feminine way, the only way to fill my cup so I can give energy where it’s actually needed without anything to win or prove

No Boss, No Burnout, No Bu****it.
Love K x.

****it

30/07/2025

Here’s the wildest part…

We don’t even question these things anymore.

Because they’re so embedded in how we function at work, in life, in conversations.

Apologising constantly.

Filtering every thought.

Dressing down who we are just to get through the day.

This isn’t you.

It’s what happens when society grooms strong women into silent workers.

And calls it success.

It’s time to unlearn all of it.

Because you don’t need a title or a promotion.

You need your voice back. Your energy back. Your sparkle back ✨

You were certainly not born to fit into a box and play small.

I know you know, so now you know I know, you can do something about it 🤪

Ready to use that box as a stepping stone into your greatness and stop blindly climbing the ladder?

No boss, no burnout, no bu****it!
Love K x

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23/07/2025

I don’t talk about this enough…
Corporate gave me a lot 😮   Not peace. Not balance. Not joy. But skills that I use every single day in my business. 
✨ It taught me how to show up when it’s uncomfortable.

💥 How to lead people who didn’t want to be led.
 🤯How to deal with egos, chaos, moving targets and shifting expectations and still deliver.

👀 How to read a room.
 🗣️ How to speak to people who weren’t listening and gain their attention
 💪🏼How to back myself when I was underestimated.  🌗 And how to trust my gut when something felt wrong, even if no one else could see it. 
I walked out with an edge.
And now I get to use every single piece of it to build something that works for me. 
Something that feeds me, instead of draining me.
 Something built on truth, not people-pleasing. 
Impact, not politics. Freedom, not performance.

So no, it wasn’t a waste. It was training.
 And I’m grateful for all of it (just wish Id got out sooner that’s all!) 
Because everything I learnt there is now fuelling the life I was actually meant to live. 
📩 DM me with an emoji if you’re ready to start building yours.

No Boss, No Burnout, No Bu****it. Love K x

****it

18/07/2025

I used to think it was conscientious. That detail-oriented and considered got better results. 😅  But that only works when you are an employee risking someone’s else’s time and money and protecting your reputation, your role, your nerves (and the £75m budget you’re responsible for).  If you’ve been in a senior position within retail, you’ll know the pressure I’m talking about.  Getting slammed in a meeting for a slightly different shade to the Pantone ‘colour of the season’ and thinking it matters is f@cking mental really…  Buyers spending their days checking colours in the lightbox and triple checking details like our lives depended on it … because thats how it felt. 🎨

After a year in the game - your nervous system was on high alert and pre-prepared for anything.

And there would always be something we didn’t get right.  Looking back now, it’s so sad.

And I didn’t see it at first but I carried that energy here. 🫣  I was adjusting to protect myself.
From judgement. From failure. From the vulnerability of putting something out there that might not land.

The irony is, nothing gets better that way. You just lose time. And energy. And the chance to learn what actually works.

The longer you wait, the heavier it feels.
 And high standards turn into self-sabotage.

What I’ve realised is this:
Action creates momentum. Momentum builds confidence.
 And clarity only arrives when you move.
Not when you’re perfect.
 Not when the plan is flawless. But when you start.  I’ve built a system and support network which removes the overthinking so you can glide forward with ease and not be stuck in perfect procrastination mode.  You can have your own business but you don’t have to figure everything out alone and thats the game changer.

No Boss, No Burnout, No Bu****it Love K 🩷

****it

16/07/2025

✨ DM ‘Me’ to build a business around YOU! ✨

Not the Instagram version, the masked version and certainly not the people pleaser or rule following version.

You’re not just a wife, a mum or your job role - you’re you!

The real essence of you is so beautiful & powerful - she was brought here to do great things.

I know you feel that.

No boss, no burnout, no bu****it - let’s go girl!
 Love K x

12/07/2025

They call it a salary.
I call it hush money.

A neat little number wrapped in 'security', that keeps you quiet, compliant, and just comfortable enough to forget you’re trading your time for money.

You could leave…but you've got youself tied up by the decent salary you're now accustomed to.

So you stay.
You forget your dreams.
You rewrite that email for the fifth time to sound 'less direct.'
You dress like someone else.
You speak like someone else.
You become someone else… just to make it through the day.

And you tell yourself, 'It’s just work.'
But it’s not. It’s a slow erosion of YOU.

Every hour you trade for survival instead of meaning is step away from your fullest potential….

To create. To lead. To rise.

There is another way.

A business that aligns with your soul purpose.

One that pays you for your authenticity.
One that grows with focus not time.

You don't even have to quit your career to build it as it will only require 1-2 hours a day to set up the automation and plug into pre-built systems.

This is what working smart looks like.

10/07/2025

You don’t need the perfect tools, the perfect moment, or the perfect alignment of the stars….

And you sure as hell don’t need a flawless plan.

You just need to start.

That’s the part no one tells you when you’re stuck in your head.

We'll never feel 100% ready.
We'll always think we need more prep, more proof, more confidence.

But confidence is a byproduct of showing up anyway.

Of taking messy action.
Of learning out loud.
Of letting it be imperfect and powerful at the same time.

You don’t need permission.
You don’t need certainty.
You just need to decide:

Because clarity comes after the leap.

Growth comes during the process.

And the version of you who feels ready?
She’s built by the one who starts before she is.

09/07/2025

The first time someone in the office commented on my bubbly personality, I laughed.

They judged my accent like that somehow made me less of a person.

I brushed it off and smiled like it didn’t sting.

By the third time?
I started to adjust.

Quieter voice. Considered outfits. Softer edges.
Watered-down version of me.

I even began to hate the sound of my own voice!

They said:
• Don’t be too opinionated.
• Don’t be emotional.
• Don’t rock the boat in a board meeting.

Translation?
Don’t be YOU.

And I went along with it. For a while.
Because blending in felt safer than being burned at the stake for having too much spark.

What I realised is…
The more we dilute ourselves, the more invisible we become.

It's taken years to shake the comments and the judgement.

But the day I stopped trying to fit in and started showing up as me was the day everything shifted.

Not because I was louder. But because I was finally me.

This online business you're about to create, doesn’t ask you to tone it down.
It dares you to turn it all the way up.

Completely and unapologetically YOU!

What would your life look like if you started showing up in full colour?

Comment MASTERCLASS below if you want to see the exact model I used to build a freedom-led business with our uniqueness at its core.

07/07/2025

They won’t! Other than for selfish reasons!

Society has us believing this is the only way to get ahead. It's not.

That ar****le boss and ridiculous deadlines don't have to be tolerated.

We fear setting a boundary incase we might lose the role but its just part of the scare-mongering.

I know it well and I WISH someone had pointed out the ridiculousness of it all...

I worked 15 years in corporate fashion.
The long hours, the fake smiles, the constant pressure.

Working late or taking it home, not sleeping properly.

Even when the last company I worked for was going under, they asked me to do things that didn’t sit right.

And initally I obeyed… because I didn't feel like I had a choice.

I ignored the exhaustion.
The misalignment.
The knot in my stomach every night.

I thought if I pushed through just a bit longer, it would get easier.

Year after year I kept on going.

Burnout isn’t noble.
It’s your soul waving a red flag.

The moment I finally listened was like my whole world fell apart because I could see the mistake I'd make and how much of myself I had lost.

It's been a journey for me to get to this point but I'm so passionate about getting others out of the system that I'll continue shouting from the rooftops.

Online business and working on your own terms is different...

I don't have to sell my soul.

I can truly be myself, take days off when I want and move in any direction I choose.

It gives me space to breathe.

To live (which I absolutely wasn't doing in the corporate world).

So if you’re still waiting for your boss to GAF…please stop.

Care for yourself enough to walk away mentally and build a buisness on the side until you can walk away physically.

Likeminded people are waiting to support you, celebrate you and ecourage you.

05/07/2025

I didn’t walk away because I wasn’t appreciated.
I walked because I saw how fragile it all was.

The long hours. The impossible targets.

The company collapse that exposed just how little control I actually had.

And even before that, something in me had already shifted.

I was no longer available for politics, fake praise, or doing work that meant nothing to me.

I wanted space.
I wanted impact.

And I wanted income that couldn’t be capped, clawed back, or wiped out overnight.

So I built a business with integrity, automation, and options.

****it

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