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The Therapy Couch Online counsellor and Mental Health Advocate

21/08/2025

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Trauma and broken internal warning, or alarm systemTrauma can deeply disrupt our internal warning system-the body's natu...
18/08/2025

Trauma and broken internal warning, or alarm system

Trauma can deeply disrupt our internal warning system-the body's natural ability to detect and respond to danger. Normally, this system (involving the brain, nervous system, and stress hormones) helps us sense threats, stay safe, and return to calm when the threat is over.

When someone experiences trauma, this system can get rewired or stuck, leading to both overreactions and underreactions. Here's how:

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Sometimes anxiety isn't just a "problem" to get rid of, it's a messenger, waving its little arms and trying to tell you ...
14/08/2025

Sometimes anxiety isn't just a "problem" to get rid of, it's a messenger, waving its little arms and trying to tell you something important. It may not have the best way of delivering the message (hello, racing heart and sleepless nights), but it's often pointing to something underneath.

Your anxiety might be saying:

"I feel unsafe." Not necessarily in a physical sense, but maybe emotionally, like you're afraid of rejection, judgment, or losing something important.

"I'm overwhelmed." Too many plates spinning, too much noise, too many demands. Your nervous system is asking for a pause.

"Something here matters to me." You don't get anxious about things that are meaningless to you. The fact that it's causing you unease means it's linked to your values.

"I need clarity." Uncertainty breeds anxiety. Maybe you're craving answers, structure, or a plan.

"I'm holding on too tight." Sometimes we grip situations because we're afraid to let go. Anxiety

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13/08/2025

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Jeanne Karpinski Cubic:JDave FariainEllen Vd Hoeve10Abdul Raseed6:Dorsing Teranga]Marialyn Beldua Arias04John Robinsoneve], Abdul Raseed, Dorsing Terang, Marialyn Beldua Arias, John Robinson

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08/08/2025

Wow what a lovely review from a client. Love it when we can improve people's lives ❤️❤️

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07/08/2025

So true. Sending big love ❤️

Smiling can hide a multitude of things especially your mental heath. So make sure you ask sombody how they realy are aft...
05/08/2025

Smiling can hide a multitude of things especially your mental heath. So make sure you ask sombody how they realy are after they just smile and say "im ok"

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03/08/2025

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DBT COPING הצהרות: WORDS THAT HOLD YOU WHEN NOTHING ELSE CANAs a therapist, I've often witnessed the silent agony behind...
25/07/2025

DBT COPING הצהרות: WORDS THAT HOLD YOU WHEN NOTHING ELSE CAN

As a therapist, I've often witnessed the silent agony behind brave faces. The clenched fists under tables, the masked smiles, the heavy heartbeats trying to sound normal. In those moments, one tool often becomes a lifeline-coping statements.

In Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), coping statements are not "positive affirmations" designed to bypass your pain. They are wise whispers from your inner resilience, affirmations grounded in emotional truth, designed to anchor you when the storm feels too much.

These are not just words. They are psychological lifeboats.
When your thoughts are spiraling,
When you're drowning in shame or overwhelm, IWhen self-hatred or hopelessness knocks at your door, A coping statement becomes your pause, your permission to exist, your bridge back to breath.

Here are some powerful DBT coping statements:

⭐"This feeling is painful, but it will pass."
⭐"I don't have to believe everything I think."
⭐"I can feel this and still choose to move forward."
⭐"I have survived this before. I can survive this now."
⭐"Urges are not commands. I don't have to act on them."
⭐"Just because I feel worthless doesn't mean I am."
⭐"Emotions are messengers, not masters."
⭐"One moment, one breath at a time."
⭐"It's okay to not be okay. I'm learning."

AWhy do they work?

Psychologicall, coping statements gently shift the brain out of the emotional mind into wise mind-a space within us that balances emotion with logic. Spiritually, they affirm your sacred worth, especially when you feel most unworthy.

They don't erase pain, but they create space within it-space wide enough for a breath, a choice, a tiny movement toward life.

And in that space, healing begins.

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23/07/2025

Love it when we get 5 ⭐ reviews from happy clients. If you think counselling could help you tgen please get in touch at [email protected]

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23/07/2025

7 quick ways to help you reduce your Anxiety. Hooe this helps guys.
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