07/05/2025
“Love the child you have, not the child you
wish to have”
Every child is born with their own personality, strengths, interests, and challenges. As parents or caregivers, it can be tempting to envision a certain kind of child,maybe one who excels in academics, shares your passions, is outgoing, or follows a specific path you value. But children are not blank slates to write your story on. They are individuals with their own journey.
Loving the child you have means:
Accepting them unconditionally, even if they are different from what you imagined.
Valuing their unique qualities, not just their achievements.
Supporting their growth based on who they are, not who you want them to be.
Letting go of control, and offering guidance instead of pressure.
It’s in this unconditional love and acceptance that children thrive. They feel safe to be themselves, confident in their worth, and empowered to grow into the best version of themselves, not someone else’s dream.
Jenny~JA