03/09/2026
Beliefs.... 🤔🤔🤔
Here's something I've been thinking about...
You'll start to feel truly confident when you begin to believe, inside yourself, that you can do it ..... and stop basing how "good" you are on a score.
Because a score isn't proof of your worth.
It's just not.
You might believe it is, because that's what so many of us have been conditioned to believe from really young. Think school... A*, top marks, gold star, highest score = GOOD.
Anything less = not quite good enough.
And those beliefs don't magically disappear when we become adults. We carry them with us.
Into work.
Into relationships.
Into hobbies.
And yep... into that bloody dressage arena. 🤣
If somewhere inside you believe that a "good" score means you're a good rider, then logically a "bad" score must mean you're a bad rider.
And that's where it gets interesting...
Because not only are you applying that belief to yourself, you're potentially applying it to everyone else too.
Suddenly everything becomes externally validated.
A number.
A placing.
A percentage.
A piece of paper.
Rather than YOU knowing that you are capable.
And that's why internal validation matters so much. That you believe YOU are good enough. You own your worth babes.
reality....
Someone's lowest score might be 65%.
Someone else's might be 60%.
Someone's best might be 68%.
Someone else's might be 72%.
So... who decides who's "good"? 🤷♀️
Because there are approximately 847,392 variables involved in riding a horse around a rectangle. 🤣
The horse.
The rider.
The arena.
The atmosphere.
The rider's mindset.
Confidence.
Hormones.
What you ate for breakfast.
The judge.
The weather.
Whether your horse has decided C is possessed that particular morning.
OMG... the list is ENDLESS.
And someone's 65% might mean more to them than somebody else's 70%.
That 65% might be their personal best.
It might be the first time they stayed in the arena.
The first time their horse relaxed.
The first time they remembered the bloody test. 🤣
The first time they actually ENJOYED themselves.
That's why we have to run our own race.
Set our own goals.
Measure ourselves against where we started .... not where somebody else currently is.
Of course we can want to improve.
Of course we can aim for higher scores.
Of course we can be competitive and have massive goals.
But there's a huge difference between:
"I'd love to achieve 70%."
and
"I need 70% to prove I'm good enough."
One is a goal.
The other has your self-worth attached to it.
And when your confidence relies entirely on somebody else's opinion of you, you're handing them an awful lot of power.
Build the belief internally.
Know what you're working towards.
Celebrate your progress.
Learn from the bits that didn't go how you wanted.
Cheer for other people without their success threatening yours.
And keep running your race.
Anyway....
Support people.
Have fun.
And stop letting a bloody number decide whether you're good enough.
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