Rev Debra McNeill UK

20/07/2025

Anyone in the midst of domestic abuse should watch this

20/07/2025

Watching now Breaking the silence Kates story on itv 1 now Kate Knight suffered domestic abuse by her MP husband

22/04/2025

Love this ! What ever way the boy lost his biological father ,this man is ready to give him a fathers love ❤️

22/04/2025

Bringing flowers to someone who is declining from age or illness, or is grieving is a beautiful thing. It is a kind and a lovely gift to receive.

However, there are two things that I want to remind you of:

1. Sometimes when you are not feeling well, but especially when you’re dying, the sense of smell is heightened in a way that some flowers such as Stargazer lilies, or really strong roses can be too much for someone. And if they don’t have a voice to let you know that the smell is bothering them, in many ways, it leaves them suffering in silence. This is a good conversation to have ahead of time with people you love as to what types of scents might bother them or please them.

2. After a few days, the flowers begin to die, leaving dropped petals and leaves on the table or floor, with murky and often smelly water. This can be depressing to witness, especially if you are grieving.

One of the things that I like to do is offer to come over and clean up vases of flowers for people who have received many. I will remove the wilted and browned flowers, clean up the dropped petals and leaves, and change the water.

And sometimes I’ll go through the flowers and pick the best ones and make a beautiful Mandala out of them out on the front step or the back patio, to allow that gift to continue to be appreciated, and seen in a different and perhaps even more beautiful way. And then, after a few days, I will offer to come clean that up as well.

Just a few thoughts I wanted to share.

xo
Gabby
www.thehospiceheart.net

PS this photo is a Mandala I made from a bouquet of flowers that started to change their shape and colors after about a week. But as you can see, they are still beautiful. 

19/04/2025

https://revdebuk.podbean.com/e/moving-forwards-when-grief-is-your-companion-with-steve-hiller/

Easter Saturday is a time of reflection and peace. Here's another episode for you to listen and enjoy as I talk to Steve Hiller about the loss of his mum and sister.



Care for the family
Winston's wish

www.revdebuk.com Rev Debra McNeill is a Minister and Grief Coach In this heartfelt conversation, Rev Deb speaks with Steve about his experiences with grief after losing his mother and sister. They explore the complexities of grief, the impact of relationships, and the role of faith in navigating los...

19/04/2025

www.revdebuk.com Rev Debra McNeill is a Minister and Grief Coach In this heartfelt conversation, Rev Deb speaks with Steve about his experiences with grief after losing his mother and sister. They explore the complexities of grief, the impact of relationships, and the role of faith in navigating los...

05/04/2025

The harder we love
Means the harder we grieve
The harder it is
To go on when they leave

The harder to sleep
And the harder to wake
To know they’re not here
With each breath that we take

It’s hard to look forward
And hard to look back
Stuck in the middle,
Imprisoned and trapped

Where the harder the darkness
The harsher the light,
The harsher this world
That keeps spinning with life

But when that world’s feeling
So painful and hard
And you can’t imagine
Escaping the dark

It might help a little
To know it’s because
The harder we grieve
Means the harder we loved

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Becky Hemsley 2023
Poignant artwork by Tigran Mamikonyan Art

'Harder' is from the book 'When I Am Gone'
https://a.co/d/8549bUL

05/04/2025

Prayer for you

04/04/2025

When I go

By Donna Ashworth

04/04/2025

As a pastoral grief coach the importance of being able to use reflective practice is so helpful . Click on the link below for my free online course on Journaling

www.revdebuk.com

01/04/2025

So very true. The odd thing is, you will never experience one without having experienced the other. Grief is love. 💜🫂💜

01/04/2025

"The hardest part is missing the daily talks with you."

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