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29/11/2025

Thank you to everyone for the support and the quiet messages in my DMs asking for advice.

The amount of energy he has put into hating me, punishing me for leaving, money he has spent fighting me I wonder how his new wife feels - who he shacked up with two months after I left him (as they do because they need a new supply)

This isn't about revenge or hate. My sincerest wish is for him to go do the work and rehabilitate himself. It still wouldn't change my opinion of him or my utter contempt, but it would make our children's lives better and to end generations of families where DV has been the only consistent feature.

My children are now adults or almost, (by law) and speaking about this - is to raise awareness for survivors, there is strength in unity. It's for victims who are still living it; so that another one isn't tracked using a tracking device and bludgeoned to death with a hammer in a school they both work in - like Lilie James who was the same age as my daughter when she was killed - just a baby - DV doesn't have an age limit there is no barrier for entry.

It's in the public interest to have a greater understanding so together we can agitate for change, simply asking people to stand up speak out isn't good enough.

And all abusers are narcissists - it requires a lack of empathy, entitlement.
I would hedge that this abuser has sociopathic tendencies also as defined by the DSM-5

27/11/2025

Is This PMDD or Perimenopause? Understanding the Overlap That’s Wrecking Women Right Now

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Is This PMDD or Perimenopause? Understanding the Overlap That’s Wrecking Women Right Now Struggling with mood swings, rage, anxiety or cycle changes after 35? Learn the difference between PMDD and …

23/11/2025

Yep

21/11/2025

If It’s been one of those weeks, months, years 🤯
… I did what I’ve always done… hid, stayed small, went beige (yuck!)
Because being visible is scary and hiding is safe?!
Life as we know it changing forever. My family’s health, battles with the C word, a dose of peri menopause.. a few battles lost but we’ll win the war 💪
Show up, ask for help & just be real with yourself (as real as a white swimsuit on instagram in November can be!)
Have a cry, take the meds, demand the ducking HRT, get a soulmate, neck a coffee, dunk a Kitkat chunky, laugh, get messy (often) & remember that poor mental health is not an excuse to get a raccoon as a pet (apparently 😏)
Stay Strong 💪
Stay True 💛
Stay visible ♾️

Sorry I went away
I’m back now ♾️

21/11/2025

Is This PMS or PMDD? The Brutal Truth About the Difference

If you’ve ever sat on the edge of your bed thinking, “Is this PMS? Is this PMDD? Or am I actually losing the plot?” — you’re not dramatic, you’re not imagining it, and you’re definitely not alone....

If you’ve ever sat on the edge of your bed thinking, “Is this PMS? Is this PMDD? Or am I actually losing the plot?” — you’re not dramatic, you’re not imagining it, and you’re definitely not alone.…

20/11/2025

Breaking the trauma cycle 💛

18/11/2025

Just look at all these goodies that came with my Collegen subscription
Some yellow sunshine in November
Collegen is my one of my top Shifts to looking after yourself through hormone hell & winter blues 💛💛💛