Heal My Marriage Podcast

20/07/2025

No marriage survives without mistakes - and no mistake is too big for forgiveness. You won’t always feel like forgiving, but as long as your partner is remorseful, give your marriage a chance.

19/07/2025

Avoiding hard conversations isn’t peace - it’s distance. Silence builds walls. Unspoken resentment turns into cold wars. Talk through it. Love survives where communication flows, not where problems are buried alive.

11/07/2025

After 20yrs of marriage we at stage 6 🙏🏾👏🏽🙌🏾

Which stage are you in right now?
If your marriage feels stuck, it's time for a reset.

02/07/2025

Big shout out to my newest top fans! 💎

Shara Twin Queen

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11/06/2025

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05/06/2025

Wow this is a WORD 😌😌😌👀👀

THERE’S NOTHING TO BRAG ABOUT IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS A NIGHTMARE BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.

Let’s cut the nonsense. So what if you’ve been married 20 years? If those 20 years were full of cheating, lying, emotional neglect, shouting, manipulation, control, bitterness, silent treatment, or straight-up misery, You haven’t “made it.” You’ve just survived dysfunction.

There’s nothing noble about staying married if the marriage is toxic. That’s not loyalty. That’s quiet suffering dressed up as “commitment.” Some people are out here bragging about “we never divorced” Meanwhile, you haven’t laughed together in years. You sleep in separate emotional worlds. You’ve been roommates in resentment.

Staying together while emotionally destroying each other is not a win. It’s a slow death that you’re too afraid to confront. Marriage isn’t just about staying . It’s about how you treat each other while you stay. Respect. Trust. Kindness. Growth. Partnership. Love.

If those things are missing, then it doesn’t matter how long you’ve worn your rings ,you’re just enduring, not building. So stop performing. Stop faking smiles for the photos. Stop posting anniversary captions with dead hearts.

Because “we stayed married” means nothing if you made each other miserable every step of the way. The real flex? A healthy marriage. A peaceful home. A safe space. Where both people thrive, not just survive.

Emmanuel Mukula - Life Coach !!

23/05/2025

The Best Apology You Can Give Your Spouse?

Changed Behaviour

Words are powerful, but actions are everything.

I see it in my coaching sessions every single day - couples stuck in cycles where one partner apologizes beautifully with words, promises change, but then... nothing shifts. The same patterns repeat. The same wounds reopen.

Here's what we've learned after working with many couples: Your spouse doesn't need another "I'm sorry" - they need to see that you've actually heard them.
Why Behavioral Apologies Hit Different.

When you change your behavior, you're saying:

"I value our relationship more than my ego"

"I've been listening to understand, not just to respond"

"Your feelings matter enough for me to do the hard work"

5 Steps to Turn Your Apology Into Action:

1 . Get Specific About the Impact
Don't just say "I'm sorry I hurt you." Say "I understand that when I check my phone during our conversations, you feel unimportant and disconnected from me."

2. Own It Completely.
Skip the "but" statements. "I was wrong to dismiss your concerns" hits different than "I'm sorry, but l was stressed."

3. Create Your Action Plan.
👉🏽What specific behavior will you change?
👉🏽What will you do instead when triggered?
👉🏽How will your spouse know you're working on it?

4 . Make It Visible.
Change that your partner can see and feel. If you've been dismissive, start asking follow-up questions. If you've been absent, create phone-free time together.

5. Stay Consistent When It Gets Hard.
The real test isn't week one - it's week six when old patterns try to creep back in. This is where marriages are either transformed or stay stuck.

The Truth About Change:

Changing behavior is uncomfortable. It requires you to catch yourself mid-pattern, breathe, and choose differently. But every time you do, you're making a deposit into your relationship's trust account.

Your spouse has probably heard "I'll change" before.

Show them instead.

What's one behavior you could shift this week to show your partner they truly matter?

Remember: Growth requires going beyond good intentions to changed actions

23/05/2025

The Four R's" (Realize / Recognize / Respond / Resist) -

Passing your trauma over to your children can Hurt them more than anything,accepting what you have been through healing from the trauma is necessary for your family growth!

Welcome to Heal My Marriage Podcast this is Pedro & Tara Goddard your Host📍Topic: Breaking the Cycles of TraumaLetting go of childhood trauma is a journey t...