05/06/2025
Wow this is a WORD 😌😌😌👀👀
THERE’S NOTHING TO BRAG ABOUT IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS A NIGHTMARE BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.
Let’s cut the nonsense. So what if you’ve been married 20 years? If those 20 years were full of cheating, lying, emotional neglect, shouting, manipulation, control, bitterness, silent treatment, or straight-up misery, You haven’t “made it.” You’ve just survived dysfunction.
There’s nothing noble about staying married if the marriage is toxic. That’s not loyalty. That’s quiet suffering dressed up as “commitment.” Some people are out here bragging about “we never divorced” Meanwhile, you haven’t laughed together in years. You sleep in separate emotional worlds. You’ve been roommates in resentment.
Staying together while emotionally destroying each other is not a win. It’s a slow death that you’re too afraid to confront. Marriage isn’t just about staying . It’s about how you treat each other while you stay. Respect. Trust. Kindness. Growth. Partnership. Love.
If those things are missing, then it doesn’t matter how long you’ve worn your rings ,you’re just enduring, not building. So stop performing. Stop faking smiles for the photos. Stop posting anniversary captions with dead hearts.
Because “we stayed married” means nothing if you made each other miserable every step of the way. The real flex? A healthy marriage. A peaceful home. A safe space. Where both people thrive, not just survive.
Emmanuel Mukula - Life Coach !!
