25/07/2026
“I wish you could see.”
My daughter said that to me this morning.
She was telling me about a game she and her brother were playing. I smiled and said, “It sounds like you’re having so much fun.”
She paused and said, “I wish you could see… so you could see the fun we’re having.”
It stopped me in my tracks.
This past month has been different. Usually, if the children want to show me something, I’ll zoom in on my phone, get really close, and with a bit of teamwork and their brilliant descriptions, I can piece it together.
Right now, I can’t.
No amount of zooming, magnification or getting closer changes what I can see.
My son asked me recently, “How long are you going to be like this?”
And if I’m honest, I still don’t really know the right thing to say when they ask these questions.
I don’t want them to feel sorry for me.
I don’t want them to think we’re missing out on life.
I want them to know that even when I can’t see what they’re seeing, I’m still there with them. I can hear the excitement in their voices. I can hear the laughter. I can feel the hugs. I can picture the joy through the way they tell the story.
Maybe that’s the answer.
Or maybe we’re all still learning together.
Either way, I hope they grow up knowing that love isn’t measured by how much you can see. It’s measured by how fully you show up.
And I will always show up. ❤️
ID. Audio Description
A visually impaired Black woman stands indoors beside a display of traditional African ceremonial costumes and cultural exhibits. She has a blonde curly afro hairstyle and is wearing pearl stud earrings, a vibrant abstract floral blouse in shades of red, orange, green and black, ivory culotte trousers, white trainers and a green crossbody bag. She is holding a long white cane in her right hand, with a pair of sunglasses hanging from the front of her blouse. She looks slightly to one side with a calm, thoughtful expression. Behind her are richly decorated ceremonial outfits in gold, red and blue, along with information boards and artwork displayed on the walls.