22/07/2025
Why does it feel like you’re carrying someone who should be walking beside you?
Why does friendship start to look like babysitting when all you wanted was someone to share life with?
You remind them of things they should remember. You cover up their mistakes so others won’t judge. You lend money even when it strains your pocket. But deep inside, you wonder why it’s always you doing the holding up.
Friendship shouldn’t feel like constant responsibility. It’s meant to be two people showing up, laughing about nothing, supporting each other without keeping score. But when you’re the only one steady, it starts to feel like parenting duty, not bond.
You tell yourself they’ll change, that maybe they’re just going through something. True friendship is supposed to lift both people, even in small ways. A simple “How are you holding up?” shouldn’t always come from you alone. When care flows only in one direction, it starts to feel less like friendship and more like quiet servitude.
It’s hard to admit, but sometimes walking away is the kindest thing you can do for yourself.
Staying doesn’t just wear you out, it silently teaches them that taking without giving is okay.
So ask yourself quietly: if I stop holding things together, will this friendship even survive?
