21/07/2025
Let’s talk. Because silence has never saved anybody.
If you know what narcissistic abuse is… if you’ve lived through it, crawled out of it, healed from it, then watching this situation unfold between Blessing CEO and IVD should worry you. Deeply.
Because this isn’t gist. This isn’t entertainment. This is how the cycle begins all over again—and millions of women watching it might mistake it for redemption.
Let’s be real: narcissists don’t change.
They don’t heal. They morph.
New mask, same devil.
It starts with charm. With attention. With over-the-top gestures that confuse your instincts and silence your common sense. And when they finally pull you in, that’s when the unraveling begins..quietly. Strategically. You won’t even notice when you stop laughing.
Now, Blessing says she’s a relationship therapist. That she knows what she’s doing. And I’m not here to question her credentials.
But knowing better and doing better are two different beasts when you’re trauma bonded. Because love isn’t always love. Sometimes, it’s addiction. Sometimes, it’s obsession. Sometimes, it’s the wound looking for who wounded it.
Trauma bonds are real.
And they feel like love. But they’re not.
They’re forged through pain, not passion. Through highs and lows that keep your nervous system on edge. You get addicted to the rollercoaster. And before you know it, you're defending the man who’s slowly breaking you.
Let me hit you with FACTS:
👉🏽 According to Psychology Today, narcissists rarely seek help unless it’s to manipulate others or protect their image.
👉🏽 Research published in Personality Disorders: Theory, Research, and Treatment shows that narcissistic traits are highly resistant to change.
👉🏽 Survivors of narcissistic abuse report long-term psychological damage from PTSD to depression to suicidal ideation.
So yes, people have a right to be concerned.
Not because they’re haters. But because some of us have seen this movie before, and we know how it ends.
And I get it. She waited 15 years. That’s not small. That’s discipline. But discipline is not discernment. And love is not proof that someone is safe.
Let this post not be about Blessing. Let it be about the millions of women who follow her.
Who are watching.
Learning.
Modelling their boundaries based on what she tolerates.
This post is for the woman making excuses for red flags because “he’s changed.”
The one who believes “he’s different now.”
The one who swears that her love will fix him.
Sis, your love is not rehab.
You’re not Jesus.
You don’t have to die for anyone’s transformation.
I wish Blessing well. Truly. But I won’t lie to myself to pretend that this doesn’t look like every textbook narcissistic cycle I’ve ever seen.
And I won’t be clapping while someone dances toward a fire.
Not when I know what that fire can do.
©️Chinainanera
