30/12/2025
There is everything wrong with the selective responsibilities of genders and the manipulation that follows it.
Every other day I hear Nigerian women screaming it is the duty of a man to provide everything for their family. Before you open mouth to talk, they will quote the Bible where unmarried Paul spoke on, "he who cannot provide for his family is an infidel." whereas they won't quote the part that says, "he who does not work, let him not eat."
That's not even the main issue. The man will accept to use his teeth to peel the bark of a tree in order to provide for his family, the woman will come with, " he does not cook or wash clothes. He does not even wash plates." Madam are you playing?
You use the law of the fifteenth century for a man and turn around and want the man to treat you as a woman in the twenty first century. Like, are you okay upstairs?
Yes, many Nigerian women are mad in the head. They are totally sick in the brains. They are the reasons why their husbands die untimely and then turn around to blame village people and the Devil.
Your money is your money and his money is for everyone. Are you for real?
A man pays millions to marry you the eighteenth century way and you turn around to say you won't wash his clothes or cook for him because you are not a maid. The bride price, items on the list and everything he wasted money is it a culture that was manufactured in 2025?
Let me tell you women one truth, once a man marries you traditionally, you are bound to obey and respect him traditionally.
You have no say if he chooses to add more fifteen wives if that's what he can cater for.
You will respect and cook for him, wash his clothes and give him segczx anytime he demands it.
You will follow all instructions to the later as he gives you.
If you overstep your bounds, he will punish you as he seems fit.
And you know why? Because of the bride price and over padded marriage list.
Yes, your bride price doesn't make you valuable, it diminishes you to a slave. The moment money is paid to obtain you, you have been bought. And you have to obey your master.
Have you ever sat down to ask yourself why the Western women whose benefits you want to enjoy fought tooth and nail to ensure that money is never exchanged during the marriage process? Do you know that a man can go to prison for giving a woman money after segczx in the UK and US?
You don't know because you are backward. You don't have any reason to demand for equal rights once your bride price is paid because you have been bought and that is the truth. If you ask questions, you will know that the bride price is called "HEAD MONEY."
If I am to have anything to do with you and you begin to quote the yeye fifteenth century law for me, believe me that I would treat you the fifteenth century way. And if you behave like a sensible 2025 woman, I will treat you the sensible 2025 way.
I won't carry the burden of the family on me and when I give you instructions, you begin to tell you have rights, which yeye rights?
Did you pay my groom price?
How much did you give to my family to marry me?
How much monetary value do you contribute into the home that you are demanding for rights?
Did you forget when your parents were shouting that everything in the list must be complete as tradition demands, and when it got to your turn to fulfill your traditional duties you are telling me we are in 2025. E no go better for you and your family for saying such rubbish.
It is high time Nigerian men start treating women based on which law they present to you. If they come religiously, you treat them the religious way. If they come traditionally, you treat them the traditional way and if they are liberal, you treat them the liberal way.
It is because Nigerian women hardly contribute a dime to the marriage that's why they can wake up the next morning and say they are not doing again because the man didn't wash plate the previous night.
Google the statistics of divorce rate and you will see that India have the lowest and that's because in most parts of India, it is the women who pay dowry to the man so they try everything possible to please who their family had handed over her inheritance to.
Check relationships where the woman finds it hard to leave the man in Nigeria, you will find out it is because she has contributed something and doesn't want to lose out.
If you want to enjoy the benefits of freedom and independence and equality in marriage, tell your family to stop selling you off in the name of marriage.
But till then,
Dear men, treat them according to the law they quote to you. What is good for the goose, should be sweet for the gander as well.
