09/08/2025
Part 2, Getting to know us as a family.
Sorry it took some days to drop the other part of my write up. I have been extremely occupied.
Let’s get into it….
Then we got married…
I had to relocate to where my husband was based due to his job. (Borno state)
We all know the Unrest and insecurity issues around that area. So it wasn’t so safe for us.
Then we were looking for a way to leave, He’s actually been trying to leave that vicinity even before our marriage but couldn’t secure a Job elsewhere.
As soon as the opportunity to relocate to UK came up, we jumped at it. Atleast it will take us out of an insecure location.
We started the process and with Jehovah’s help, support from families and friends, we relocated. And that’s why we are in the uk today. Not long after we welcomed our twin babies, now big sisters because they now have a baby sister.
We’ve made new friends here and they’ve been very supportive. May Jehovah help me bless them all.
Now back to us, I and my husband.
We faced challenges as new parents, caring for our babies. Working full time , part-time was very frustrating. We were always tired, this made us have little or no time for ourselves, zero social life.
Our lives was a routine, from work to children, to childcare, classes, meetings, field service etc. Nothing more really.
While all this happened we never relent in prayers to Jehovah and he always strengthens us. We continued to have reasons to rely on him because he has never left us for once.
Things we’ve practiced in our marriage
In our marriage we’ve always practiced financial transparency, we don’t hide finances from ourselves. Whatever income we make is for the family. My money is our money, his money is our money.
We practice communication, we talk, we discuss and We plan together, and work towards achieving our goals together.
We try to put our Anger under control, we don’t get angry to the point of being abusive/ insultive both in words and actions.
We both share our views, opinions on issues even when we don’t have same opinions. We avoid being opinionated. We try to use the bible as a guide when addressing issues.
We struggle not to let our spiritual life lag behind, daily texts, field service, meeting preparations, attendance, family worship, childrens study etc. we sometimes struggle in this regard, due to trying to meet other aspects of our lives but we will continue to strive harder.
We try to be reasonable, we admit mistakes, we take responsibilities, we apologise, we reflect and learn from our mistakes. We try to manage our differences by ourselves and maturely.
Do we sometimes have misunderstandings?
Ofcourse yes, but we believe that misunderstandings are bound to come up between 2 people but the ability to manage them well when they occur is very important.
How do we manage our misunderstandings?
We give some time before addressing issues. We don’t try to settle issues immediately they happen.
The reason is so that we are both calm and emotions are no longer high.
This method is something we both agreed on, I could remember earlier in our marriage I always want to talk about issues immediately they happen and I expect my husband to respond accordingly as well, but then, we don’t ever yield any positive results, instead a fresh issue will add to what’s on ground.
We then both decided that we need to give ourselves time before addressing our issues. And we made a lot of progress afterwards at managing our misunderstandings.
I also naturally take things off my mind very easily and quickly, this is another factor that helps me, but my husband struggles with this.
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I don’t know if I have covered all areas, the inspo no too dey. Writing needs motivation and inspiration.
But if there’s any area you would want to know more about, you can please ask questions on my comment section, I ll definitely reply.
I struggled to find a recent complete family pix, this children never settles for pictures, one is ready and the other isn’t.
Anyways some people requested to see our family pictures in my last post, I’m sorry I couldn’t get a recent one. We no get
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