The SelShow

02/09/2025

Sel, this might sound funny but I am very serious, about getting an honest advice. I am a lady who has been seriously searching and hoping to meet a guy, who would settle down with me in marriage. Luckily, I met one about 3 months ago and we are doing well. In fact, I am happy and glad to have him and moreso as a Christian, I could not hide my joy when he is a pastor.

Sel, my parents are also happy for me because he is a man of God. For a month now however, we have started getting intimate but there is a big problem. My worry and dilemma now is that, the man of God has been pounding me in bed like 'fufu' and I have been wondering, where he gets his strength from. I have discovered that man of God has been using "w**d toffee" and herbs hence the extra power in bed. I am disappointed and confused about everything, is he a genuine man of God and should I go ahead with this marriage?

Anonymous Lady

02/09/2025

Sel, my husband is doing something, which is very annoying. About a month ago while on leave, my husband's brother came to spend some days with us. And one of the days while my husband was at work, he drugged me and had s*x with me.The challenge now is that, ever since I reported the issue to my husband, he has taken no action against his brother. This is hurting me so much because I do not understand why, my husband will do this to me. Does it mean he value his brother more than me?

Sel, this issue is strictly a r**e case and I don't want to let it go free, without any action. But at this point, my husband says, even though what he did was not good, he could not watch his brother go to jail. I am very much confused at the moment and don't know what to do. What should be my firm decision in this issue, going forward

Confused Lady

01/09/2025

Sel, I work as a nurse in one of the government hospitals, and specifically based at the surgical ward. I normally prepare patients for their surgical procedures which involves, most times shaving their private parts and others. About a month ago, I shaved this man and prepared him for surgical procedure however, the length and size of his manhood got me crazy.

Sel, it was such that, I must taste it because it's exactly the type of d*ck I have been looking to have in a while. I took his contact and started communicating with him. After his discharge, we met few times and I told him how crazy I am, about his manhood.
Unfortunately, he has reported me to the hospital and I am currently been investigated. My biggest dilemma is whether to inform my husband about everything before he hears something, but scared of the consequences

Worried Nurse

01/09/2025

Sel, I am the head of credit department of a big financial institution and has been working there, for the past 3 years. My work is going on well until a month ago, when an issue came up and the reason I am here. There was this loan application that came to my department involving a huge sum of credit, been applied for. My unit head brought the application to me because, the MD attentioned it to me. After all the necessary risk analysis, my team raised serious compliance issues.

Sel, in view of this I took time to personally conduct the credit score and discovered same issues. When I brought the issues to the MD's attention, he asked me to manage the issues and approve the loan. I rejected it but later, I got to know that the MD was given a huge sum of money from the client, for us to approve the loan for him. With this the client was given the assurance, of his loan being approved. At this stage, the MD's job is on the line if I decline the loan as the client is very angry and ready to spill the issue. All heads of departments at our last management meeting, were begging me to save his job, so we can manage the issues later.

Sel, I told them I was not interested in the money but doing the right thing. When the MD heard this, he started sidelining me at work and meetings. He is more harsh on me and query me on the least thing. In the face of this, I petitioned the board of Directors and an investigation into the matter, led to his dismissal. Everyone is blaming me for his dismissal. Have I done the right thing or not? What do I do, do I report the rest of the managers who keep treating me as a traitor as well?

Worried Manager

01/09/2025

Sel, about 5 months ago, I got a call to attend an interview, regarding a job application I did to one big private company. The process is such that, you meet three panelists separately in their offices for the interview, with the MD being the final. However, before he started his interview, the HR brought the two score sheets to him, so whoever he scores high would get the job. This was the explanation given to me by the HR, before I started my interview.

Sel, my interviews went well and the HR was impressed. When I got to the MD, we had a good interview session and everything went well. During the session however, I realized he kept looking at my huge melons and I knew what was going through his mind. Realising he got a private toilet in his office, I suddenly asked if I could use the washroom and the plan was to finalise my interview on a good note, in order to get the job. He immediately offered me access to the one in his office. At this point we called his secretary not to allow anyone into his office until he was done with me.I knew at this point that he is a smart man and knows what he wanted so, I called him in and we had a qu**ky to his pleasure.

Sel, he was very happy and told me congratulations and will be looking forward, to working with me. I went home waiting for a call, as to when to start the job but a week later however, the HR called to inform me that unfortunately, I could not get the job. I am highly disappointed and confused. What do I do now, should I go and see him or sue him? I need an urgent advice because I am home and very depressed!!!

Anonymous Lady

01/09/2025

31/08/2025

Sel, I have a 17 year daughter from my marriage of 15 years, and we live together. We have been living a very happy but quiet life for years now, after my wife( her mother) died from a fatal road accident. About 2 years ago, however I met and has fallen in love with a lady, who is currently my love. The issue is that, she also has a daughter who is 25 years old and we are all doing well.

Sel, the issue is that, my late wife and I, managed to build a good and a strong company, which is doing very well. This company is originally, in our plan to be a future property of our children because, we worked so hard to build it. My challenge is that, my fiancée's daughter has been jobless after her tertiary education and has been looking for a job. Initially, I did not want to employ her at my company because of familiarity issues however, my fiancée makes it look as if, I am incentive towards her daughter 's employment issues

Sel, I have therefore tried to get her a job elsewhere, but it is taking too long. In order to stop the talking and complains from my fiancée, I got her employed at my company.But I am getting a lot of reports about her attitude, feeling entitled and not respecting anyone at her office. Already, she feels the company is for her dad so, she behaves as though she is above everyone. After several complaints from my HR, I spoke to her and asked my fiancée to also intervene however, she is getting emotional about everything. What should be my best decision?

Worried Guy

31/08/2025

Hello family, let's do business. Even if you offer services, job advert, selling old stuffs or new ones, kindly post.
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31/08/2025

Sel, as a very strong Christian lady, I believe in the things of God. Somewhere 2 years ago, my man of God told me I was going to get married and that when the time comes, he would give me some spiritual guidance, to perfect everything. At that time, I was already dating a guy but there was no strong commitment from him, towards marriage. Fortunately a year later, he told me about marriage and we got married few months ago. I am very happy about everything however, there is a huge issue to deal with.

Sel, a week to our wedding man of God told me that I needed spiritual cleansing otherwise, I could not have children.And in view of that, has been instructed to spiritually cleanse me theough s*x. According to him, I should not have s*x with my husband even on our honeymoon. I therefore faked my me**es in order to prevent my husband, from having s*x with me. I managed to perform the prophecy but unfortunately, pregnant. I don't wish to give this pregnancy to my husband but according to the man of God, that must be so, according to the spiritual directions. I need to take action before anything happens to my marriage.

Anonymous wife

31/08/2025

May every evil planned for you and your family, become a blessing in Jesus name!!!
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30/08/2025

Sel, words cannot express how I feel at the moment because, I don't know what came over me to do what I did. Facing my parents is also a difficult thing for me to do. What happened is that, about a year ago I met this guy through Facebook, and we started talking. With time things worked out and withing 7 months, he flew down to see my parents and we did the knocking. Due to work schedule, he had to go back. Within few months, both families set the date for our traditional marriage. I was so happy because finally, I was getting married to the love of my life. Indeed, it has been a battle but God is faithful.

Sel, everything went well and the marriage was successful, with his cousin standing in for him for the marriage, I have been staying in his father's big house and have been taking care of him, as a daughter in law, waiting for my husband to come so we can process our travel documents.Unfortunately, it got to a point when he started making s*xual moves towards me, but I was shy and could not resist him for that long. This was due to the respect I had for him and subsequently, started having s*x for months with him. I am currently few months pregnant and he is asking me to abort the pregnancy, but I am scared and refused. He is now saying I should mention another guy as the one responsible, because of the shame.My husband is coming in few weeks and we are all hot. What do I do?

Anonymous Lady

30/08/2025

Sel, may I be concerned with a matter which is giving us trouble at home, or it's just some I should ignore. The issue is that, my husband has been telling me about a female co-worker, who has been sharing her marital issues with him. I guess her husband is very much jealous and acuses her, of cheating at the office..

Sel, when i complaimed about it, my husband says I am being overly jealous, however this is weird. Is it okay for a married woman to be complaining about her marital issues to someone's husband. Is this normal or I am just complaining?

Worried wife