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Sel, about 7 years ago, I have been admiring this guy in my church and even made him, a prayer topic to become my husban...
13/07/2025

Sel, about 7 years ago, I have been admiring this guy in my church and even made him, a prayer topic to become my husband. After few months of making him a prayer topic, he started sitting by me at church and that was when I realized, that there is power in prayers. My mistake or maybe by devine plan was that, I couldn't gather the courage to tell him about my feelings for him. Unfortunately after nearly a year, his wedding was announced at church.

Sel, I was on admission at the hospital for two weeks before I finally recovered from the heartbreak. Fast forward, they got married and 2 years after, I also got married. My confession however is that, even though I am married, I still have strong feelings for him and want him as my man because, my soul can only have peace of mind around him. We do communicate and I learnt later from him, how he also wanted me but things went the other way. Fortunately and unfortunately, his wife died through a fatal road accident and was buried 3 months ago. I am ready to divorce my husband and marry him because I can't see, any other woman in his life again apart from me. How do I get him to understand this, so I can go ahead and divorce my husband?

Anonymous Lady

Pretoria, S.A

Sel, sometimes one can be going through a serious problem and will appear as though, one was dreaming as if it was not r...
13/07/2025

Sel, sometimes one can be going through a serious problem and will appear as though, one was dreaming as if it was not real. That's exactly how I feel with my dilemma at the moment and would need urgent help. My issue is that, I am a lady who is 37 years old and have been in a relationship with my guy for the past 7 months. Even though our relationship is just few months I must say that, I am however in a terrible state, and don't know what to do with my life.

Sel, I have lost count of how many times we've had s*x because it could be in the 1000s, with not less than 7 abortions within these few months. My dilemma is that, I am not seeing any plans for marriage and wish, I could leave him. However, considering how far I have come with the abortions and number of times he has "chopped" me, I feel I rather stay and marry him, despite the uncertainty. I don't know how I got here and I feel bad about presenting myself to another guy in my current state, he doesn't deserve this. What do I do and how do I go about it because, I am totally at my worst moment!!! I need help.

Anonymous

Port Harcourt, Nigeria

Sel, I am lady, I met Bridget back during secondary school and we became best of friends. She was really a good and true...
13/07/2025

Sel, I am lady, I met Bridget back during secondary school and we became best of friends. She was really a good and true friend to me and vice versa. After secondary school however, I was selected to do a degree program in one of the universities while, she went to pursue a diploma in another college. But throughout our studies, we still stayed in touch as best of friends, she would visit me, I also visited her and we helped each other a lot financially.

Sel, I was in my second year and she was going towards the end of her diploma, when she announced she was getting married to a guy I knew from her college, and they had dated for nearly 4 years. When she announced the marriage, it scared me a bit because I thought she was rushing things, since we were still young and besides, was too soon.To be honest they loved each other and it was just on my end, because I was still immature and scared that I was losing a friend. But she explained how much she loved him, and at the end I understood and was truly happy, when she asked me to be her maid of honor for the wedding.

Sel, after the marriage our relationship status started changing as expected. Before, we would talk about everything but we couldn't play like that anymore so eventually, our friendship collapsed.It's been 4 years and I have moved on with a new friend.We are really good friends and she has really been there for me for the past two years when I was at my lowest, due to unemployment. She sheltered me, helped me with some money, and encouraged me to keep applying for work, when I almost gave up.She is now my best friend.

Sel, i am getting married in 4 months and out of courtesy, reached out to Bridgett to inform her. I wasn't really expecting anything but just wanted her to know and whether she attends or not, I would not be bothered. The problem now is she wants to be the maid of honor in her words and I quote " this is good news, I will be the maid of honor it's only fair because you were mine"
Unfortunately, time has passed because I have wholeheartedly asked Maltida to be my maid of honor.I therefore told Bridgett that she can't be my maid of honor and reasons why, and now it's a big issue. Matilda heard about the issue and offered to let her be the maid of honour however, I rejected it .

Sel, what should I do because she has reached out to my mom about how selfish I am. How can I make her see reason politely for the sake of the best years we had, otherwise I am about to loose it with her. Advice needed.

Anonymous Lady

Accra, Ghana

Tonight on Bedroom Matters!!!👇👇👇Sel, I am a guy who is 38 years old and married to a very lovely, caring and respectful ...
12/07/2025

Tonight on Bedroom Matters!!!
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Sel, I am a guy who is 38 years old and married to a very lovely, caring and respectful lady from a religious family. While I am a gentleman and work as Corporate executive, I must say I am also a street boy. My bedroom issue is that, I get motivated with herbs and stuff in bed and my performance is always above expectation. To this end, my dear wife could not cope any longer after complaining to her parents severally, about excessive s*x in the bedroom.

Sel, I came home just this Friday and she was nowhere to be found, and when I called her, the father picked the call to tell me, they have come for her. He went further to say they will however, bring our items to dissolve the marriag because, they cannot watch their daughter die from excessive s*x. I am confused and want to know if excessive s*x can lead to divorce in any marriage. Am I not performing my job as a husband? How do I solve this problem and what remedies are available for me?

Anonymous Guy

Spintex, Accra

12/07/2025

Where are you and how is your weekend going?

Sel, I mày appear to be weird in your judgement however, everyone has their personal interest and I am not an exception....
12/07/2025

Sel, I mày appear to be weird in your judgement however, everyone has their personal interest and I am not an exception. But when challenges occur, we can only seek help and advice and that's the reason, I am on the SelShow for help. Let me say I am a lady who is 36 years old and married for the last 3 years. I must say that one of the major motivations for accepting to marry my husband, in addition to how much I love him, was his generosity and the spirit of giving and helping financially.

Sel, he really helped me financially and my life became very comfortable, so I decided to marry him. Just after a year into the marriage however, I wasn't seeing that giving spirit in him anymore, the way it was before we got married. Looking into the future, I realized he isn't real and might be a miser, and I don't want to give birth to a generation of such people. In view of that, I take emergency pregnancy pills to prevent me from getting pregnant for him as a wife. The hope is for him to get tired of my childlessness to let me go but, he won't. Am I been wicked or justified because my parents seems not to understand my decision for a divorce. What do I do?

Anonymous Lady

Cape Coast, Ghana

Apart from our parents who spent all their times to shape our lives, one set of individuals who played major roles in ou...
12/07/2025

Apart from our parents who spent all their times to shape our lives, one set of individuals who played major roles in our lives also, are Teachers. Wherever you find yourself, either working or not working, that teacher helped shaped your life. Who is that teacher(s) you want to celebrate and what makes him or her exceptional. Kindly celebrate them in the comment session!!!

Sel, I am a lady who is 35 years old, live and work in one of the cities. To be honest, I must confess that I am a s*x a...
11/07/2025

Sel, I am a lady who is 35 years old, live and work in one of the cities. To be honest, I must confess that I am a s*x addict but private and a reserved lady. About some months ago, I visited my mum in the village to see how she was doing, and also to send some drugs and provisions for her up keep. I went to spend the weekend with her as I always will do. During my previous two visits, I was home on a Saturday when someone came to look for my mum.

Sel, few minutes later, she told me that the village chief sent for her. Upon her return, she told me that the chief expressed interest in me. According to her however, it's a privilege if the chief express interest in someone but I declined it, and left back for the city. While on my visit the last time, the chief sent for me and I went out of respect. Even though I was not interested in him, I decided to rather teach the old chief a lesson to stop womanizing, especially with young girls because he is the village chief.

Sel, I therefore arranged a private meeting with him, which he gladly accepted. During just the second round, he fell unconscious so I called for help and he was rushed to the hospital.The news is that, he has a severe stroke. As a result, the other gate is asking him to step down from the stool so they can take over the reign of the kingship in the village. His family is however blaming me for their woes and wanting to take police and court action against me. Have I done anything wrong and is my actions not justified, because mum is very scared about us.

Anonymous lady

Koforidua, Ghana

Sel, I am a lady who is 26 years old and the only child, to my parents. Unfortunately, my mum is late so I live with my ...
10/07/2025

Sel, I am a lady who is 26 years old and the only child, to my parents. Unfortunately, my mum is late so I live with my lovely dad and we are very close. I must say that I am daddy's girl and he treats me like a princess at home. My problem now is that, I always get stomach cramps during that time of the month and always in pain. During these times however, my daddy most of the times change and fix new pads for me.

Sel, on few occasions I was shaving down there but couldn't do it well, so he helped me and I am not ashame because, he is my dad. For sometime now however, I have started dating this guy and I love him. Infact, my daddy even knows about us and very happy for me. The problem is that, I told him my daddy and I are close and sometimes, he does my shaving and change pad for me, when I am in pain and my boyfriend is mad at me. He was talking anyhow about my dad, but I felt he has disrespected him. He also said what my dad is doing is wrong and fighting me. Can my father not do this for me as his lovely daughter?

Worried Lady

Cape Coast, Ghana

Sel, I find myself in a very difficult situation and will need some help, from your platform. I must say we are 2 childr...
10/07/2025

Sel, I find myself in a very difficult situation and will need some help, from your platform. I must say we are 2 children to our parents but my father is late, leaving my mum to work hard to take care of us. The fact is, we are very poor to the extent that, as the first child of the family, I must quickly go and sell some backyard farm produce around the community, after school before we could eat at home. Most times, my brother would have to go fishing, to compliment our diet at home.

Sel, things are difficult for us and I must say, its God who is taking care of us. Thanks to our church pastor and some community elders, who supports our education and by God's grace have finished my community secondary school. Thankfully, I got admissions into a teacher training college to train as a teacher however, there is a teacher in our village who has expressed interest in marrying me and my mum is much happy about it. According to her, even if I marry him, I can still go to the college but I feel, I would be limiting my chances in life to the village, by marrying him even though he is good and helpful in the village.

Sel, two weeks ago, he donated a new bicycle to our village church and one for my brother, and the family, community elders and even our Pastor are all urging me to marry him. I don't want the marriage but it's also difficult, to disobey my family and the elders even though we are suffering. How do I solve this difficult dilemma?

Anonymous Lady

Dakar, Senegal

10/07/2025

So one has £10,000 to invest, what business module in your locality, can run to pay back this money in one year?

Sel, man has gone through difficult times but just as small happiness showed it's face, another issue popped up and the...
10/07/2025

Sel, man has gone through difficult times but just as small happiness showed it's face, another issue popped up and the reason I am here. While in the university, I lost my big brother and it was painful because I was very close to him. While at it, I lost my dad too few years later, making us all very sad. Years on, I finished my education and came home to live with my only brother. One day, the for bell rang and when I went, I met this beautiful lady who came looking for him. She said "hello" and I responded immediately without wasting time. When I told her my brother wasn't around, she left a message for him, and left.

Sel, with time, we became friends and one day when she came to see my brother, she told him, she likedme. One day, i met her around since we all lived in the same area, and asked her to visit me. She did and while the radio played a particular song, she danced, saying that was h seeer favourite song. While joining her to dance upon her request, I however, tried kissing her but she got angry and left. I felt very bad so I went to her house, brought her back, apologised to her after which we kissed. That started our love journey.

Sel, we have been in love for few years now to the delight of everyone, except my only brother who is not happy. It is that serious that, he did not accompany us on the knocking rite for my love. Our wedding is in a month, but he has given excuse that he is traveling out of the country. My mum and families are saying that I should cancel the marriage because it seems, he is not happy about it. According to them, it seems he liked the lady, until she met and fell in love with me henc, his behaviour so I should cancel everything, to bring peace in the family. He is not saying anything but just moody and not interested in anything concerning our marriage. How do I solve this problem?

Worried Guy

Abuja, Nigeria

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