23/06/2026
I need every woman to watch The Polygamist.
Then you’ll agree with me that Men don't change because you love them harder.
The signs are usually there.
The ch€ating.
The lies.
The manipulation.
But when women are in love, they convince themselves that somehow their love will perform a miracle.
It rarely does.
One of the most unkind things you can do to yourself is stay with a cheating partner while pretending you have forgiven them.
Because unresolved hurt has a way of changing form.
What starts as pain becomes anger.
Anger becomes resentment.
And resentment sits quietly waiting for the day it explodes.
Just look at Joyce.
In her quest for revenge against Jonasi, did she stop to think about the ripple effect?
Yes, she wanted him to suffer.
Yes, she wanted him to pay.
But revenge is dangerous because it never stops where you intended.
She destroyed Jonasi.
But in the process, she indirectly destroyed her own son.
While she was focused on Jonasi passing HIV to Lindani, she never imagined that Menzi would also become a victim through Lindani.
The pain she wanted to direct at one person ended up spreading to innocent people.😩
And then there’s Essie. her biggest problem was low self-esteem and lack of self-love.
Because self-love teaches boundaries.
Self-love teaches you that not every relationship is worth fighting for.
Self-love teaches you that being chosen second is not a blessing.
At the end of the day, the people I felt most sorry for were not the adults.
It was the children.
Children who became victims of decisions they never made.
Victims of selfishness.
Victims of adults who put their emotions before their responsibilities.
Which brings me to my biggest takeaway from this movie:
If children are involved and a relationship becomes toxic, the bravest thing you can do is walk away and protect them.
Not every battle must be fought.
Not every betrayal must be avenged.
Sometimes the strongest response is leaving with your dignity intact.
Because when adults go to war, it is often the children who carry the scars.
Have you watched *The Polygamist*? What lesson hit you the hardest?
