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02/09/2025

Why is it people with the biggest hearts always get treated like s**t.

To people who are cheating don't ever think your getting away with it.

The truth always comes out.

If you don't want to be with the person your with do the right thing and end it before moving on.

No one deserves to be cheated on. No-one deserves to be someone's 2nd best.

Life is short and if you have kids it's not just about you.

It's about the whole family. As a society we need to change and stick up for people.

Who is at home looking after the children while you play away.

Who is the one doing all the loving and caring. Then will be classed as abusive and a monster.

As a society we have to put a stop to this.

If you know someone is cheating tell them straight its wrong and it's certainly not fair on the children.

You can put as many photos on as you like to hide the truth but some people know the truth.

Sorry for rant but I hate seeing good people hurt.###

02/09/2025

I have taken a bit of a back seat from all the parental alienation and made a decision that its time to get on with life.

10 years of fighting in family courts and seeing the system for what it truly is.

I will continue to share different things and will always carry love in my heart for my 3 wonderful children.

Thank you to everyone who has supported me on my nightmare of a journey.

To anyone who has gone through or going through parental alienation I send you strength, love and big hugs.

You have got this never think of giving up especially on life one day your children will need you once again.

So thank you once more love to you all.###

23/08/2025

Today is one of those difficult days without my shadow.

Weddings are always special occasions with two people joining together and sharing their love with the people who are attending.

Today this couple are a very special couple.
Who have been through so much, who have loved and supported each other through the good and the bad times.

There love shines through and you can see how much love they have for each other.

When we talk about love, relationships it's so important we make the right choices.

It's important to find a sole mate, your best friend. Its about building each other up through the good and the bad times.

Love is about having a person who will have your back 100%.

When I look back did my ex have my back, would she run through walls for me, would I trust her with my life. Answer has to be no.

Now I have a partner who ticks all of those boxes and many more. Do I feel controlled or 2nd best no not at all.

It's no good swiping left or right to pick your perfect partner. It takes at least two years to get to know a person and then its still a bit of a minefield.

So back to today it will be another day when memories with my son could of been made.

A day I could of dressed him up and made him look like a million dollars.

A day he could of stood and felt good about himself. Yes even at 10 years old he would feel like a million dollars with a massive smile on his face.

He could of been having fun with other kids and making memories.

So today is a bitter sweet day two people getting married who really love and care for each other.

Me, my partner, my best friend and sole mate taking on the world together.

Then my shadow alienated against me. The memories cut short but in spirit who will still be standing next to me.

The love will still be carried in my heart.

Today I will have tears of all differnt emotions.
But knowing I have the love of my life next to me I know everything will be fine.###

23/08/2025

At 52 yesterday I sat in a beauty salon waiting for my partner and had to listen to the girls talk about relationships and friends.

Oh my god if this is the way that the next generation think then children stand no.chance whatsoever.

The way they look at guys, the way they talked about everything from how the should dress oh my it just sounded like total control.

These women are the next generation mothers. I don't normally talk about parental alienation about men and women as it happens to both parents.

But what I was listening to yesterday means that parental alienation is just going to get worse and worse.

More and more children are going to have broken homes.

How I managed to keep my mouth shut or not walk out i will never know.

People should be free to be able to make choices not to be controlled.

All I want is to listen to people being happy.###

23/08/2025

I want to know do people really understand how the family courts work.

Share your views about how you have found the family court system.

Do you think the courts made the best decisions for your child.

What was the worst thing about family court.

If you had a choice again would you go through the family courts again.

I just want people to share their stories to show other people they are not alone and we are all here to support each other.###

21/08/2025

Well now I have finally walked away everything seems to feel a bit strange.

Just over three months since I walked away from all the drama of the family courts.

Do I have any regrets about walking away.Well the answer is that is definitely no.

Am I glad that the drama and control had stopped 100%.

Do I miss my 10 year old son. Yes 100%.

I miss not being able to give him a childhood of adventure, happy memories and unconditional love.

But life does go on and at the age of 52 I finally have found peace.

I fully understand what life is all about and will never change the person I am for anyone.

Life is not about how much money you have or what job you do.

Life is about doing your best, knowing you did things for the right reasons.

It's not about lies, accusations, winning or losing its about giving, caring and loving with all your heart.

I feel sad because my children have missed out on so much.

They have missed time with grandparents, cousins, extended family and suffered divorce which is life changing for everyone.

We head into a bank holiday weekend. So enjoy it with or without your children.

Everyone deserves to be happy.###

17/08/2025

As a alienated parent I think all of this is what hurts. When life gets tough its not being able to guide our child/children. Its not being able to give them a hug when they most need it. You never stop loving and caring for your child even if you don't see them. Stay strong my friends.###

If I’m Not Here Tomorrow…

If I’m not here tomorrow…
Who will understand my child the way I do.
Who will know their favorite song,
The way they twirl their food when they’re nervous,
The little dance they do when they’re proud of themselves.

Who will feed them when they’re hungry—
Not just with food,
But with patience, with warmth, with love poured into every bite.

Who will hold them when they say “I’m fine,”
But their eyes say otherwise.
Who will cover them at night
When they’ve kicked off the blanket in their sleep.

Who will feel their pain before they say a word.
Who will sense the storm behind their silence.
Who will pray over them the way I do—
Whispers into the night,
Tears soaking the pillow,
Hope wrapped around every word.

Sometimes… I can’t help but worry.
What if they get sick and I’m not there
To sit beside them,
To be their strength when they feel weak.

What if the world gets heavy,
And I’m not around to remind them
That they are brave,
That they are enough,
That they are loved beyond measure.

I know I can’t control everything.
I know life moves, no matter how tightly I hold on.
But still… these thoughts live quietly in the corners of my heart.

Because no one will ever love my child the way I do.
No one will notice the little things the way I do.
And that—
That is what scares me the most.

15/08/2025

How many of us have gone through this or are going through this. We need to all come together and protest about the family courts. Peter or anyone in your management team that reads this please make this happen.###