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How Not To FK Up Your Kids 10 episodes that answer all of your biggest parenting questions 💭

With Kitty Hagenbach and Katie Goldfinch🎙️

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You don’t need to be the perfect parent, just good enough 🧡We can’t always get it right as parents…Perfection sets an im...
07/07/2025

You don’t need to be the perfect parent, just good enough 🧡

We can’t always get it right as parents…

Perfection sets an impossible standard, not just for us, but for our children too. If we had to be perfect parents, it would imply our children need to be perfect as well, which is far too much pressure for a growing child.

What they really need is for us to be present, responsive and willing to repair when things go wrong.

This idea is at the heart of our podcast. If you haven’t listened yet, you can find it via the link in our bio 🎧

Kitty 🧡

Every time a child expresses an emotion, they’re learning how the world responds to their inner world 🌍When we meet thei...
03/07/2025

Every time a child expresses an emotion, they’re learning how the world responds to their inner world 🌍

When we meet their feelings with patience, curiosity and care, we show them that they (and their emotions) are safe.

Over time, our responses become the voice they carry inside...

“You’re allowed to feel this”
“You’re not too much”
“You’re loved just as you are”

Kitty 🧡

As parents or caregivers, it’s natural to want to fix sadness, frustration, or tears.But often, what children need most ...
26/06/2025

As parents or caregivers, it’s natural to want to fix sadness, frustration, or tears.

But often, what children need most is for us to simply be with them in the feeling, not to rush it away, but to make space for it.

Sitting with their emotions teaches them that feelings aren’t something to fear or hide… they’re something we can move through, together.

You don’t need the perfect words. Your presence is enough.

Kitty 🧡

Your presence is more powerful than any solution you can offer 🧡In a world that pulls us in so many directions, being tr...
19/06/2025

Your presence is more powerful than any solution you can offer 🧡

In a world that pulls us in so many directions, being truly present can feel like a challenge, but to your child it’s everything.

You don’t need all the answers. You just need to show up.

Kitty 🧡

So often we jump to "what’s wrong with my child?" when behaviours are challenging. What if we paused and asked "what’s h...
16/06/2025

So often we jump to "what’s wrong with my child?" when behaviours are challenging.

What if we paused and asked "what’s happening around them?"

Children's emotions are often a response to their environment, their relationships, and how safe they feel. Curiosity and compassion go a long way in understanding what our children are really telling us.

Kitty 🧡

Children learn best when they feel safe, understood and supported, especially in their most difficult moments.Kindness a...
09/06/2025

Children learn best when they feel safe, understood and supported, especially in their most difficult moments.

Kindness and boundaries can go hand in hand.

Kitty 🧡

Resilience is built through connection, boundaries, and being allowed to feel everything (not just what’s convenient)We’...
04/06/2025

Resilience is built through connection, boundaries, and being allowed to feel everything (not just what’s convenient)

We’re raising humans who can cope, communicate, and thrive.

Kitty 🧡

Children don’t learn emotional regulation from being told to "calm down." They learn it by watching us navigate our own ...
30/05/2025

Children don’t learn emotional regulation from being told to "calm down." They learn it by watching us navigate our own big emotions.

When we show them what calm looks and feels like, their nervous systems begin to learn safety.

Your regulation teaches theirs.

Kitty 🧡

Tears, tantrums, frustration. It’s easy to see these as signs that something is wrong.But often, they’re signs of someth...
27/05/2025

Tears, tantrums, frustration. It’s easy to see these as signs that something is wrong.

But often, they’re signs of something right.

When a child feels safe enough to show you their hardest emotions, it means they trust you and know you're their safe place.

🧡 What helps you stay present when your child is overwhelmed?

Kitty x

You are a mirror your children look into to understand if they are lovable, worthy and safe.The way we look at our child...
01/05/2025

You are a mirror your children look into to understand if they are lovable, worthy and safe.

The way we look at our children, speak to them, or respond to their big feelings all becomes the reflection they carry within themselves.

When we meet our children with curiosity and compassion (even when they’re struggling) we’re teaching them they are still worthy, that their feelings don’t make them too much, and that they are seen and valued just as they are.

You don’t have to be perfect, just enough.

Kitty 🧡

We're thinking about new episodes… and we want YOUR input 👶💬We’re in the early stages of planning some new episodes and ...
17/04/2025

We're thinking about new episodes… and we want YOUR input 👶💬

We’re in the early stages of planning some new episodes and we’d love to hear from you.

What are the parenting questions that keep you up at night?

What would you love to hear covered in a future episode?

Whether it’s screen time, step-parenting, or anything in between, we want to know what’s really on your mind before we hit record.

✨ Drop your questions in stories, the comments, or our DMs and help shape what's coming next. We’re all ears 👂

04/04/2025

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Got questions? DM us and we’ll do our best to answer 💬

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