12/07/2026
Sometimes I read or hear people's relationship stories and honestly wonder if they are made up just to attract attention. I often tell myself, "Things like this don't happen in real life." But life has a way of proving us wrong. Today, I have found myself in a situation I never imagined, and I don't even know what to do.
I am a 36-year-old single lady and an accountant by profession. My work keeps me very busy, but I still make time to meet new people because I genuinely hope to find a man, I can love and eventually, settle down with.
For some years now, I have this friend who is married with a child. We are not best friends, but we have built a relationship based on trust and respect. He listens whenever I need someone to talk to, and over time, I also became close to his wife because of the friendship, I share with him. Hoping to help me find love, he introduced me to one of his single friends. The guy is decent, respectful, and the kind of person many women would gladly want to date.
The problem is that my heart is not interested in his friend. The person I cannot stop thinking about and cannot also take my eyes off, is my friend, the married guy himself. I know it sounds strange and I know many people will judge me, but I have tried everything to push these feelings away without success. I now believe he is my man too.
I don't mind being his second formal or informal wife. Sometimes I even find myself wishing if I could become his unknown or secret baby mama, without anyone knowing. I know that sounds unbelievable, but just as everyone has a challenge in life, this is also the burden and cross I am carrying. I value our friendship so much, yet I cannot deny how I feel about him. Is there any way to let him know my feelings without destroying our friendship, or should I bury these emotions forever which is very difficult to do.
What advice would you give me, if I were your sister or friend?
Anonymous Lady