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26/04/2025

The Real Reason Most Women Lose Interest After Wedding.

It’s not because you changed. It’s because the fantasy expired.

Let’s kill the illusion.

You didn’t fall off.
You didn’t stop being attractive.
You didn’t “switch up.”

She just realized the wedding is over—
and reality doesn’t come with filters.

Because most women weren’t in love with you.

They were in love with how you made them feel while you were chasing them.

Once you got her?
She started asking—“Where’s the thrill?”

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1. Her Love Was Never Rooted in Duty—It Was Rooted in Dopamine

She loved the pursuit.
The attention.
The feeling of being wanted.

But dopamine fades.
And once the likes, the engagement buzz, the proposal ring glow die down—
so does her interest.

She was chasing butterflies.
You were chasing legacy.
That’s where you both missed each other.

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2. She Got What She Wanted—Now She’s Bored

You saw marriage as the beginning.
She saw it as the peak.

You wanted to build.
She wanted to enjoy.

So when the selfies stopped trending,
when the vacations turned into school runs,
when you started focusing on the grind—
she started checking out.

Not because you failed.
But because the fantasy was fulfilled.

Now she’s waiting for the next fairytale chapter.

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3. She Was Trained to Secure—Not Sustain

Modern women are experts at getting a man.
Slay. Smile. Submit on demand.
Strategically soft until the ring lands.

But no one taught her how to keep a man.
How to serve without ego.
How to show up when it’s no longer fun.
How to be consistent when life gets real.

Now every conversation feels like criticism.
Every correction feels like control.
Every leadership move feels like domination.

She’s not “losing interest.”
She’s just out of her depth.

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4. She Still Thinks It’s Day One—You Know It’s Day 3,000

You’ve had two kids.
You’ve got bills, school fees, a job that’s draining your soul.

But she’s still quoting relationship gurus:
“Date her like it’s the first day.”
“Keep courting her forever.”
“Be spontaneous.”

I’m sorry, today is not day one.
It’s Tuesday.
Your rent is due.
Your toddler just spilled pap on your shirt.
And the car battery is dead.

Disney lied to her.
Every romance movie ends with “happily ever after.”
No one shows the chaos after the credits.

You thought marriage meant you could be yourself now.
Drop the bad boy act.
Be mature.
Be present.

But she still wants the man who made her tingle on day one.
Not the man who pays the light bill.

You left the game.
She’s still watching the replay.

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5. There’s No Romance Without Finance

If you haven’t figured out your numbers,
you’re setting yourself up to fail.

Most women won’t suffer with a man.
And the few who try?
They’ve got an internal countdown.

She’ll stay while it’s “cute.”
But when the pressure gets real,
and her lifestyle starts shrinking,
she’s gone—faster than the money disappeared.

Love doesn’t pay rent.
Cuddles don’t fuel generators.
And “we’ll figure it out” doesn’t pay school fees.

If you’re broke—prepare to lose both her and your peace.

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6. Her Friends Are the Whisperers of Greener Grass

Once your wife surrounds herself with single mothers, bitter exes, and run-girls?
Brace yourself.

Because girls’ night is no longer about small chops and gist.
It’s about planting seeds of dissatisfaction.

“You’re still cooking for him?”
“Girl, you deserve soft life!”
“You’re too loyal. He’s not even romantic.”

She starts comparing.
She starts doubting.
She starts wondering what she’s missing.

Bad company corrupts good morals.
But bad company with a weak woman?
That’s a guaranteed relationship death sentence.

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7. You Didn’t Do a Background Check—Now You’re Paying Generational Debt

Her mother cycled through four men before settling for one.
Or none.

Now that same mother is her advisor.
Teaching her how to “never let a man control you.”
How to “always have a backup plan.”
How to “never suffer like she did.”

You thought you married your dream girl.
You actually married her mother’s unfinished trauma.

Without strong, virtuous foundations—
a woman becomes a product of pain, not principles.

No present father to model restraint.
No wise pastor to call her to order.
No structure. No self-discipline.

So when things get hard,
she doesn’t dig deeper.
She downloads divorce papers.

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8. When Love Becomes Labor, Most Women Clock Out

She doesn’t want struggle.
She doesn’t want pressure.
She doesn’t want anything that looks like patience.

And the moment love feels like work—
she files for emotional leave.

That’s why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.
They don’t stay through storms.
They cancel subscriptions at the first inconvenience.

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So What’s the Real Reason She Lost Interest?

Because reality showed up—
and it wasn’t as exciting as the fantasy she created in her head.

You were a project.
She was the architect of a fairytale.
The day you stopped playing the role—
she started deleting the story.

It’s not about “you changed.”
It’s about “her dream died.”

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Final Warning to Men:

Don’t marry a vibe.
Marry values.

Don’t chase butterflies.
Plant roots.

Don’t assume a ring means forever.
It only means “for now” until tested.

Because once the illusion fades,
only the real ones stay.

And if you’re unlucky?

You’ll be the husband…
she uses as a stepping stone to her second phase.

Comments are open.
Let the fantasy lovers defend their script.

13/03/2025

You must read 📚

Aunty Abena
Good afternoon,

I just saw the story of that woman whose secret got exposed, and honestly, I don’t understand how she let it happen. What was she thinking? If you’re going to do something, at least be smart about it. She should have known better.

I’ve been married for eight years, but we've been together for 11. My husband had "side adventures" twice when we were dating. We separated after the first one until he begged me to accept him back. The second time, I walked away completely, but he brought his family to plead on his behalf.

But after we got married, it was as if he had a free pass to do whatever he wanted. After repeatedly complaining with no solutions, I decided to stop being the only one enduring, and my husband has never suspected a thing.

How? Because I play my cards right. I don’t act suspicious, and I certainly don’t do things that will make him start investigating. Aunty, men don’t suspect what they don’t see.

Here’s how smart women keep their peace:

A) Timing is Everything
Any outing happens during office hours. Lunch breaks, early closing hours, or ‘work errands’ are the perfect cover. No unnecessary nighttime movements.

B) The Neighbor’s House Trick
If my husband travels, I don’t waste the opportunity. A few houses down the road is far enough. No need for long trips or anything that raises eyebrows.

C) No Suspicious Calls or Texts
I don’t sit on my phone smiling like a teenager. Chats are dry, names are disguised, and there are no saved numbers with funny emojis.

D) No Emotional Slip-Ups
I don’t start unnecessary fights or suddenly withdraw from my husband. In fact, I show him more love. He thinks I adore him more than ever.

E) Gifts and Surprises
If I receive a gift, I make sure my husband gets something too. Balance is everything.

F) Passwords and Privacy
My phone is always unlocked around him, so he has no reason to snoop. Anything important is kept in places he’ll never think to check.

G) No Drastic Changes
I don’t suddenly start dressing differently, using new perfumes, or acting out of character. Consistency keeps everything in check.

H) Keeping the Kids Innocent
To avoid awkward conversations, I ensure that my "friends" treat me as a stranger in public. Only those my husband knows can approach me freely.

I) Using Family as a Shield
The first time I mentioned leaving, my family shut it down. Since they ignored my complaints and told me to endure, this is how I endure 🤭😌. At least I’m still in the marriage, right? And with all the good my husband has done for my family, why should I throw everything away? I’ll stay, but I won’t sit there suffering in silence.

The best part? My children are definitely his. At least I haven’t been reckless in that area. But as for guilt? No. He did it first. He broke our vows before I ever thought of doing the same. Why should I be the only one suffering while he enjoys himself?

So, Aunty Abena, I don’t feel sorry for that woman. If you’re going to do something, do it well.

11/03/2025

Every single person has been created in love. It doesn’t matter their religious or spiritual beliefs. Their simple existence has a purpose. You may have questioned why there are so many differences among people recently. It is so we can learn tolerance, respect, and acceptance. This is one of the most precious spiritual teachings: all are worthy of love.

09/02/2025

Hey ladies, let's talk about an amazing woman who's breaking barriers and shattering glass ceilings! Mrs. Ibukun Awosika, the first female Chairperson of First Bank of Nigeria, has been married with children for about 35 years and she's got some valuable advice for women who are richer than their husbands. She says, it's not about the money, it's about the love, respect, and partnership in your relationship. Don't let societal pressure or financial status define your marriage, instead focus on building a strong foundation of trust, communication, and mutual respect. Remember, a successful marriage is a team effort, not a competition!

05/02/2025

The dynamics of relationships have indeed undergone a significant shift in recent years, particularly among the younger generation. As a relationship advisor with over a decade of experience, I've observed a disturbing trend where many women seem to have lost sight of what it truly means to be a wife and a partner.

In today's society, it appears that the pursuit of financial security has become the primary driving force for many women. The notion of being a good wife and partner has taken a backseat, replaced by a focus on material possessions and financial independence. This shift in priorities has led to the rise of "situationships" – relationships that lack commitment, intimacy, and emotional connection.

Many women today seem to be more concerned with securing a partner who can provide for them financially, rather than seeking a meaningful connection with someone who shares their values, interests, and goals. This approach to relationships has resulted in a culture of transactional partnerships, where love and commitment are seen as secondary to financial gain.

The consequences of this trend are far-reaching and devastating. Relationships built on financial convenience rather than emotional connection are inherently unstable and prone to infidelity, mistrust, and heartbreak. Furthermore, this approach to relationships can also lead to a lack of personal growth, as individuals become more focused on material possessions than on developing their own character and emotional intelligence.

As a relationship advisor, I've seen firsthand the damage that this mindset can cause. Women who prioritize financial security over emotional connection often find themselves in unfulfilling relationships, feeling empty and unloved despite their material possessions. They may also struggle with feelings of guilt and shame, knowing that they've compromised their values and integrity in pursuit of financial gain.

So, what's the solution to this problem? How can we encourage women to prioritize emotional connection and meaningful relationships over financial security? The answer lies in a fundamental shift in our cultural values and expectations.

We need to start valuing relationships built on mutual respect, trust, and emotional connection. We need to encourage women to prioritize their own personal growth and development, rather than relying on a partner for financial security. We need to promote a culture of healthy communication, conflict resolution, and emotional intelligence.

Ultimately, being a good wife and partner requires a deep understanding of oneself and one's partner. It requires empathy, compassion, and a willingness to grow and evolve together. It's time for us to redefine what it means to be a wife and partner, and to prioritize the values and qualities that truly matter in a relationship.

01/02/2025

20/01/2025

Celebrating my 8th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

19/01/2025

It's heartbreaking to see how some modern women prioritize material comfort over true love and appreciation for their partner's hard work and dedication. Pep Guardiola's divorce is a prime example of how a man's sacrifices can be taken for granted. He worked tirelessly to provide for his family, and this is the thanks he gets? It's a sad reflection of our society, where some women value wealth and status over the love and commitment of a good man. I feel for Pep, and for all the men out there who are being taken advantage of by women who only care about their own selfish desires. It's time for us to re-evaluate what we value in relationships and to start appreciating the hard work and dedication of our partners. div

03/01/2025

Ladies do you all agree?