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10/06/2025

Hi Bloga, please I really need your help and advice.

In 2023, I had surgery for a cornual pregnancy. It was a very painful and emotional experience. The doctor told me clearly that I should wait at least 2 years after the surgery before trying to conceive again. He also said that if I get pregnant, I would need to deliver through C-section at around 7 months to avoid complications.

I have been doing everything to follow this advice, and so far it has been 1 year and 8 months since the surgery. But just recently, I had intimacy with my boyfriend, and now I am really starting to feel like I might be pregnant.

I am so scared, Bloga… Not just emotionally, but physically too. I do not know if my body is ready yet. I keep thinking, “What if something goes wrong again?” and I do not know who to talk to.

Please… What should I do? Should I wait? Should I see a doctor right away? I just need some guidance.

Thank you so much for listening.

02/06/2025

Loss Broke Me—But It Didn’t End Me

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02/06/2025

To Anyone Who Has Lost a Child or a Loved One 💔

A week after bringing life into this world, I had to say goodbye to my precious child. That kind of pain… it stays with you. It changes you. And if you have ever lost a child, a parent, a sibling, a partner, or someone your heart wasn’t ready to let go of—you understand the silence that grief brings.
But this post is for you, the one carrying invisible wounds.
To every mother who has held a baby they couldn’t keep…
To every soul who has buried a piece of their heart…
I want you to know:
💔 You are not alone.
🕊️ Your pain is real.
🌸 Your love still lives on.
💪 Your strength—despite the tears—is powerful.
Some days you will feel like you are barely surviving. Other days you will smile through the ache. But every step you take is a step toward healing.
Let’s keep breathing. Let’s keep honoring the ones we lost.
With love.
With courage.
And with the quiet hope that we will meet them again one day.
If you are reading this, I see you. I am with you.
Let’s carry this pain—and this love—together.

01/06/2025

To my followers: I see you. I honor you. I value you.

You’re not just a number — you’re part of this journey.
Whether you comment, share, or just read in silence…
You matter here.

This space is what it is because of your heart, your presence, your quiet strength.
Thank you for being part of this healing and honest community.
We rise together. 🌿

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01/06/2025

🌸 Have you or someone you know experienced a cornual or ectopic pregnancy? 🌸

Cornual pregnancy is a rare but dangerous type of ectopic pregnancy where the embryo implants in the upper corner of the uterus (the cornua). It can go unnoticed longer than other ectopic pregnancies, but when it ruptures, it can become life-threatening.

Common signs include:
• One-sided abdominal pain
• Vaginal spotting or bleeding
• Positive pregnancy test with no intrauterine pregnancy on scan
• Sudden severe pain or dizziness if rupture occurs

Treatment often involves medication or surgery, and emotional recovery can take time. 💔

We want to hear from you.

Have you or someone close to you gone through a cornual pregnancy or any form of ectopic pregnancy?
What was your experience like — emotionally and physically?
What helped you heal or cope?

Your story might help someone who is going through this silently. 💬🫂 Let’s create a space where women feel seen, heard, and supported. 💛

01/06/2025

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01/06/2025

💔 How to Move On After a Breakup (Even When It Still Hurts) | Bloga by Ablaga

Breakups aren’t just about losing a person.
They’re about losing routines. Habits. Expectations.
The future you imagined. The “good morning” texts. The little inside jokes.
All of it.

Moving on feels impossible at first. It feels like something inside you got ripped out.
But here’s what I’ve learned:
You don’t move on all at once — you move on moment by moment.

Here’s how to begin, one step at a time:

1. Feel It All

Don’t fake strength. Cry if you need to. Scream. Write unsent letters. Healing starts when you stop pretending you’re okay.

2. Unfollow Peacefully

It’s not about being bitter. It’s about protecting your space. Unfollowing, muting, deleting — it’s a boundary, not revenge.

3. Let Go of the Closure Myth

Sometimes you don’t get an explanation. Sometimes silence is the answer. You don’t need their permission to heal.

4. Romanticize Your Healing Era

Take yourself on dates. Start a new playlist. Dress up for no reason. Healing doesn’t have to be quiet — it can be beautiful.

5. Talk to Yourself Kindly

You loved. You tried. You showed up. That’s not weak. That’s powerful. Don’t punish yourself for how deeply you cared.

6. Trust Time (Even When It’s Slow)

You won’t feel this way forever. I promise. One day, you’ll hear their name and feel… nothing. That’s not hate — that’s freedom.

Moving on isn’t forgetting.
It’s remembering without breaking.
It’s loving yourself more than the memory of someone else.

You’ll make it through this.
Not overnight.
But eventually.
And beautifully.

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For the hearts learning to start over

01/06/2025

Letting Go Isn’t Giving Up – It’s Choosing Peace | Bloga by Ablaga
Sometimes, the hardest part isn’t losing someone — it’s choosing to stop fighting for them.
Letting go is not a moment; it’s not a sudden snap where everything disappears. It’s a slow, quiet decision, a decision you make again and again — to stop checking their page, to stop holding on to the “what ifs,” to stop waiting for a message that might never come.
And that hurts.
But there comes a point when holding on starts to do more damage than letting go. When the memories become heavy, when the silence becomes louder than their presence ever was, when you realize you’re showing up for someone who stopped showing up for you.
And you know what? That’s when you let go.
Not because you’re weak, not because you don’t care, but because you finally care enough about yourself to say, “I deserve peace more than I deserve pain.”
You’re allowed to miss them. You’re allowed to cry. But you are not meant to stay stuck in a chapter that’s already closed. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means remembering without breaking.
So, if you’re in that place — if you’re in between holding on and letting go — I just want to remind you: Peace is on the other side of release.
Letting go isn’t losing; it’s choosing you.
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For hearts that feel too much, and souls learning to heal. 💔

31/05/2025

Sometimes healing isn’t quiet or neat — it’s raw, loud, and beautifully imperfect.
If you’re in the middle of that storm, remember: your pain doesn’t define you. Your strength does.
Keep rising. Keep growing.
Because the heartbreak you survive today is the story you’ll be proud to tell tomorrow. 💫

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31/05/2025

💔 Some People Don’t Leave… They Fade 💔

Some people don’t slam the door when they leave.
They don’t scream.
They don’t block you or delete the pictures.
They just… fade.
Like a soft sunset — beautiful, painful, and slow.

One day you’re laughing together.
Next day, the messages get colder.
The calls become “tomorrows” that never come.
And the silence becomes the loudest sound in the room.

You check their profile — still breathing, still smiling…
Just no longer reaching for you.

Not every goodbye is loud.
Some goodbyes are quiet heartbreaks —
the kind where you keep rereading old messages
hoping they say something different this time.

But here’s the truth:
When someone starts fading,
don’t beg for brightness.
Let them go.
The right one will never make you feel like you’re asking for too much…
Just by wanting to matter.

— Bloga by Ablaga 🖤

31/05/2025

Saturday Morning Thoughts…

Life won’t always go as planned — and that’s okay.

Sometimes the people we trust disappoint us. Sometimes the dreams we’ve held onto for years fall apart. But here’s the truth:

You’re still standing. You’re still here. You’re still growing.

Not every closed door is rejection — some are redirection.
Not every heartbreak is punishment — some are lessons that make you wiser.
Not every delay is denial — sometimes it’s divine protection.

So today, take a deep breath. Let go of what’s behind you.
Choose peace. Choose growth. Choose yourself.

You don’t have to have everything figured out.
Just keep showing up. Keep believing in better days.

It’s a new day. A new chance. A fresh start.

Happy Saturday, beautiful people. 💛

— Bloga by Ablaga

27/05/2025

Maybe You’re Just Tired of Being Strong

Some days… it’s not strength you need. It’s rest. It’s a hug. It’s someone who looks you in the eyes and says, “You don’t have to hold it all together today.”

Because behind that smile, you’re breaking. Behind the “I’m fine,” there’s a storm of silent battles. You laugh with people, then cry when you’re alone. You keep showing up—for everyone. But who shows up for you?

You’re exhausted. Not just physically… but emotionally, soul-deep tired. Tired of pretending. Tired of being “strong.” Tired of always fixing, healing, surviving.

Maybe no one sees it, but I know you’re hurting. I know you’re carrying pain that no one ever asks about. And it’s okay. It’s okay to not be okay.

You don’t always have to be the brave one. You don’t have to smile through the heartbreak. You don’t have to carry the weight of the world on your back. You’re allowed to fall apart. You’re allowed to feel. To grieve. To break.

Because healing doesn’t start with pretending you’re fine. It starts with being honest—with yourself. With letting go. With crying it out at 3am. With whispering, “I’m not okay.” And finally allowing that truth to be heard.

If this post is your heart speaking… Please know: you’re not alone. Not today. Not ever. ⸻ Follow BlogaByAblaga if you’ve ever felt this kind of tired. Comment a “🕊️” if this touched something inside you.