08/08/2014
Difference Between Love, Infatuation and Lust
Whether you're in a relationship already or whether you're admiring someone from afar, sorting out your feelings can be a real challenge. While there's no clear, fool-proof way to decipher your feelings for someone, there are certain ways to make the distinction clearer for yourself. Follow these tips to help yourself to know the difference between love, infatuation and lust.Ad
Method One of Three:
How to Recognize True Love
1Examine whether you treat the object of your interest as a person or a thing.You care for this person even knowing his or her faults. You are committed to sticking together even through the most difficult circumstances. You can tell this person anything about yourself, even if the truth doesn't flatter you, and you know that your partner will accept you. Just know that there is no way to make a person love you however actions do speak louder than words. If you are the one always giving and getting very little in return. You might consider asking a trusted family member or friend that has your best interest at heart what they see. Most of the time those on the outside are more likely to see things that you don't because love is blind.
2Evaluate how secure you feel.You know that your partner will stand by you no matter what, and you are prepared to commit to your partner for the rest of your life.
3Think about how long you've been in the relationship.You have known the person for a long time, and you can't imagine life without him or her. You want to know everything about the person and want to spend time to get to know them on a deeper level.
4Observe how sex affects your feelings.After you have sex with your partner, you feel closer to him or her. For you, affection and post-coital cuddling are just as important as sex, although you love to keep the flame alive. Sex is not the most important part of your relationship and you would still want to be with them even if did not involve sex or you had to wait for them.
5Analyze the way that you're thinking about the other person.Something funny has happened to you at work, and you can't wait to tell your partner. Alternatively, you've had a bad experience, and you want to talk to someone who will understand. If your partner is the first person that you think about when you want to share your innermost thoughts, then you may be in love. You have mutual respect for each other.
6Look at how you handle conflict.When you have an argument with your partner, you keep working until you're able to find some common ground. No argument can erase your commitment to one another, and you appreciate your partner speaking the truth even when it's painful. Even if you don't agree with your partner you will always take their side and defend them in front of your family and friends.
7Consider your feelings about moving the relationship forward.You feel comfortable with your partner, and you feel a strong bond of trust. Moving in together or getting married feels natural and logical. You want to introduce them to your family and friends.
