17/08/2026
I have noticed that some students are very comfortable speaking in class, approaching lecturers and expressing their opinions.
Others are quieter. They listen more, think carefully before speaking, and may hesitate to put themselves forward.
But being quiet does not automatically mean you lack confidence.
Confidence is not about being the loudest person in the room. It is about trusting yourself enough to participate, learn and take opportunities even when you feel uncomfortable.
If you are a student trying to build your confidence, start with these:
1. PREPARE BEFORE YOU SPEAK
Sometimes what looks like lack of confidence is actually lack of preparation.
Read your material before class when you can. Know what you understand and identify what you don't.
You don't have to make a long contribution.
Start with one meaningful question or observation.
2. DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU FEEL CONFIDENT
Many students say:
“When I become confident, I will start speaking.”
But confidence often comes after you start.
Ask the question.
Give the presentation.
Contribute to the discussion.
Approach the lecturer.
The first few times may feel uncomfortable. That's normal.
3. LEARN TO APPROACH YOUR LECTURERS
If you don't understand something, don't struggle silently because you are afraid of approaching your lecturer.
Be respectful and specific.
Instead of:
“Madam, I don't understand anything.”
try:
“Madam, I understand this part, but I'm struggling to understand how it applies to this question. Could you please clarify?”
That shows initiative.
And remember to respect your lecturer's time and use appropriate channels for seeking guidance.
4. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF WITH OUTSPOKEN STUDENTS
Someone who speaks confidently in class is not necessarily more intelligent than you.
And someone who is quiet is not necessarily less capable.
People have different personalities, experiences and levels of confidence.
Your goal is not to become somebody else.
Your goal is to become more confident than you were yesterday.
5. BUILD COMPETENCE
This is perhaps the most important one.
Read.
Practise.
Ask questions.
Accept feedback.
Improve your communication.
The more competent you become, the more comfortable you tend to feel expressing what you know.
You don't need to pretend that you know everything.
Sometimes confidence sounds like:
“This is what I understand, but I need clarification on this part.”
That is academic maturity.
6. START SMALL
You don't have to transform overnight.
This week, try one of these:
• Ask one question in class.
• Contribute one point to a discussion.
• Volunteer for a small responsibility.
• Speak during a group presentation.
• Ask for feedback on your work.
• Introduce yourself appropriately to someone you can learn from.
Small acts of courage, repeated consistently, can change how you see yourself.
Note:
Confidence does not mean you will never feel nervous.
Your heart may beat faster before a presentation.
Your voice may shake.
You may still wonder whether people are judging you.
Do it anyway.
The goal is not to eliminate fear.
The goal is to become capable of acting even when you feel it.
So, if you are a quiet student, don't feel pressured to become the loudest person in the lecture hall.
Build your competence.
Practise using your voice.
Take small risks.
And learn to step forward when an opportunity comes.
Because university is not only preparing you to pass examinations.
It is also preparing you to participate, communicate, build relationships and take your place in the world beyond the lecture hall.
You don't have to be the loudest student to be confident.
You just need enough confidence to use your voice when it matters.
What do you think makes it difficult for some students to speak up or approach people at university?