23/09/2025
Date a safe man.
If you're healing from a relationship that left you questioning your worth, or if you're dating again and wondering what kind of love is safe, this is for you.
Please, marry a man who respects you even when he's angry.
Anyone can be sweet when things are easy.
Anyone can be charming when they’re getting their way.
But the real test of a man’s character isn’t how he acts when he’s happy, it’s how he behaves when he’s hurt, frustrated, or upset.
Love is not proven in the good times.
It’s proven in the tension, in the conflict, in the moments when emotions run high.
Because anger is never an excuse for disrespect.
Being upset doesn’t give him permission to raise his voice.
Being frustrated doesn’t justify calling you names.
Being angry doesn’t excuse cruel or demeaning words.
Being hurt doesn’t make it okay to use your insecurities against you.
Let that be clear ....
His emotions do not give him the right to harm yours.
His worst moments should still show his love.
Even in disagreement, he should protect your dignity.
Even in conflict, he should be kind.
Even when he’s hurting, he should never want to hurt you.
A good man doesn’t weaponize your vulnerability.
A mature man doesn’t punish you with silence or threats.
A safe man doesn’t storm off or blow up when things get hard.
He talks. He listens. He stays. He respects.
You deserve to feel safe in love .....
Because a safe love never raises its voice at you.
