Nikky Oyediran Adesiyan

11/12/2025

💔 A Message From a Hurting Husband: The Cry Many Men Are Afraid to Voice 💔

Today, after sharing a post about postnatal depression, a man reached out to me privately.
His message broke my heart—and opened my eyes again to how many silent battles are happening inside marriages.

He wrote:

“Ma, I saw your post about postnatal depression… and I think my wife is going through it.”

He went on:

“I don’t understand her anymore. She is completely different from the woman I married six years ago. In these six years, we now have four children…”

You could feel the confusion in his words.
The loneliness.
The desperation.

He continued:

“I thought marriage would heal my loneliness. I grew up as an orphan… a child with no family anywhere. When I got married, I finally felt I had someone. The first year was beautiful.”

Then his tone changed:

“But since the children came, my wife has become the opposite of the woman I fell in love with. She cries a lot. She is mentally unstable and withdrawn. I don’t understand what is happening anymore.”

Then came the line that touched me the most:

“I think I need to know more about this postnatal depression… and how to get help. Please help me, ma.”

When I read his message, I paused.

Because behind those words is a man:

who is hurting

who feels abandoned

who feels lost

who doesn’t understand what is happening in his own home

who wants to love his wife but doesn’t know how

who is watching the woman he married slip into an emotional darkness he can’t interpret

And like many men, he thought marriage would heal the wounds of his childhood.
He wanted a family to erase the memory of growing up without one.
He hoped love would cover loneliness.

But now, he is facing a struggle he never prepared for.

🌿 THE TRUTH FEW MEN ARE TAUGHT

Many husbands never learn what pregnancy, childbirth, and repeated hormonal changes can do to a woman—mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.

Many wives suffer silently.
Many husbands misinterpret the signs.
And many marriages break down under the weight of ignorance, not lack of love.

This man’s story is not unique.
His courage to speak is.

✨ WHAT HIS MESSAGE TAUGHT ME

There are men out there who truly care.
Men who want to understand.
Men who want to support their wives.
Men who are fighting their own internal battles and still trying to keep their homes standing.

But they lack knowledge.
They lack guidance.
And they lack safe spaces to ask questions without being judged.

💛 A WORD TO EVERY HUSBAND

If your wife seems like a different person after childbirth…
If she cries easily…
If she withdraws…
If her moods shift…
If she seems mentally or emotionally overwhelmed…

Please don’t assume she has stopped loving you.
Please don’t conclude she has changed.
Please don’t take it personally.

She might be going through postnatal depression—
something many women battle silently while trying to care for newborns, toddlers, and a home.

🌼 A WORD TO EVERY WIFE

Your struggle is real.
Your pain is valid.
Your exhaustion is not weakness.
Your hormones are not your fault.
You deserve help, compassion, and patience.

❤️ A WORD TO COUPLES

Marriage is not destroyed by children.
Marriage is strained by unspoken pain.

If you are going through this season, please seek help.
Talk to someone.
Get support.
Open your hearts to understanding each other again.

Sometimes the greatest healing comes when we realize:

Your partner is not your enemy—
Your season is.

10/12/2025

Every 10th of December is International Human Rights Day.
Happy multi cultural day peeps

10/12/2025

Every 10th of December, we observe International Human Rights Day. ✊🌍
As believers, we stand on the truth that human rights are God-given, because every person is created “in the image of God” (Genesis 1:27).
This means dignity belongs to everyone—no exceptions.

Today, we honor courageous men and women whose lives reflected justice, compassion, and Christ-like courage. Here are a few who changed the world:

✨ Human Rights Activists & Brief Bios

🌟 Nelson Mandela
Fought against apartheid in South Africa, endured 27 years in prison, and later became a symbol of forgiveness, reconciliation, and justice as the nation’s president.

🌟 Martin Luther King Jr.
A pastor and civil rights leader who used faith, nonviolence, and the gospel message of equality to fight racial injustice in the United States.

🌟 Malala Yousafzai
A global voice for girls’ education who survived an assassination attempt and continues to advocate for equal access to schooling for all children.

🌟 Mother Teresa
A nun who devoted her life to serving the poor, sick, and forgotten—living out Christ’s love in the darkest places with humility and compassion.

🌟 Desmond Tutu
A South African archbishop and anti-apartheid leader who preached peace, unity, and human dignity grounded in Christian faith.

🌟 Wangari Maathai
A Kenyan activist who combined environmental justice, women’s rights, and community empowerment, becoming the first African woman to win the Nobel Peace Prize.

Their courage reminds us that:
✨ Justice is a ministry
✨ Compassion is a calling
✨ Standing for the oppressed is Christ-like
✨ And silence in the face of injustice is not an option for believers

As followers of Jesus, may we continue to stand for truth, defend dignity, and shine His light wherever human rights are threatened.

Human rights for all—because God created all.
🙏✨

10/12/2025

Shout out to my newest followers! Excited to have you onboard! Omolola Esther, Aremu Olalekan

05/12/2025

Don’t be fooled by outward looks. Real strength or struggle is inward.

05/12/2025

05/12/2025

💛 A Story Every Couple Needs to Hear: The Battle No One Saw Coming 💛

Today, something happened that reminded me how easily a home can break when understanding is missing—and how quickly peace can return when wisdom enters.

A young man reached out to me, frustrated and deeply hurt. He asked me to speak to his wife because she had been denying him his marital rights. His voice carried pain, disappointment, and confusion. He complained bitterly:

that his wife no longer understands him

that she complains too much

that she pretends

that she is inconsiderate of his needs

I listened quietly and calmed him down over the phone.
Then I asked to speak with his wife. Both of them are in their early 30s—still very young in marriage.

When I called the wife, the moment she opened her mouth, I sensed something deeper. Her tone… her tiredness… her scattered emotions… It all sounded familiar.

Then she told me something that changed the whole picture:
She had just given birth to two sets of twins—only three weeks ago.

In that moment, everything clicked.

As a mother, I know that sound.
I know that exhaustion.
I know that emotional heaviness.

From experience, what I heard in her voice was postnatal depression—the kind many women go through silently, especially when they have little or no support.

This couple lives far from home.
No parents.
No aunties.
No community.
Only the two of them… and four newborn babies.

My heart sank.

If only I lived closer, I would have gone there myself just to help, even for a day. The poor woman is trying to survive, not deny anyone anything.

I called the husband back.

Gently, I asked:
“Did your wife behave like this before giving birth?”
He said, “No. Everything changed during pregnancy.”

Then I asked,
“Do you help her with the babies at all?”
He replied,
“I work. By the time I get home, I’m tired.”

As we talked, I realized he had never heard of postnatal depression before. He didn’t know what it looks like. He had no idea what his wife was battling mentally, physically, and emotionally.

And this—this lack of understanding—is one of the silent destroyers of marriages today.

A woman’s body has just gone through trauma.
Her hormones are shifting.
Her emotions are unpredictable.
Her sleep is broken.
Her strength is gone.
And now she has four newborns needing her every second.

Meanwhile, her husband is feeling rejected, unloved, and ignored.

Two hurting people…
Living under one roof…
Both misunderstood…
Both overwhelmed…
Both needing help…
But neither knowing how to ask for it.

That conversation shook me deeply.
It reminded me how many marriages have collapsed not because love died, but because awareness was missing.

Many women suffer silently through postnatal depression.
Many men misinterpret it as disrespect or rejection.
And homes fall apart unnecessarily.

🌿 LESSON TO EVERY COUPLE

Before you conclude that your partner has changed…
Before you assume the worst…
Before you react out of frustration…

Pause.
Look deeper.
Ask questions.
Show compassion.

Sometimes what looks like disrespect is actually exhaustion.
What feels like rejection might be depression.
What seems like distance may be silent pain.
And what appears like “she doesn’t care” is actually “she is drowning.”

Understanding can save a home.
A listening ear can restore peace.
A little help can heal a heart.
And wisdom—true wisdom—can protect a marriage from unnecessary damage.

✨ IF YOU ARE A NEW PARENT

Please talk.
Please ask for help.
Please support each other.

Your home is not under attack—your season is just demanding more grace.

02/12/2025

🌅 Happy New Month!

May your path shine brighter and brighter just as the morning sun.
Proverbs 4:18

26/11/2025

Hallelujah, For the Lord Most High Reigns

📖 Scripture: Revelation 19:6 (KJV)

> “And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth.”

🔹 Meditation

Heaven has a sound — and that sound is Hallelujah.
Not whispered. Not timid.
But thunderous… unified… powerful.

In Revelation 19, the worship of heaven erupts like mighty waters — overwhelming, uncontainable, unstoppable. Why? Because the Most High reigns.

This verse reminds us that worship is not quiet agreement — it is bold acknowledgment that God is enthroned over the universe, over nations, over kingdoms, over the earth, and over our personal lives.

As we prepare for the worship conference, God calls us into this heavenly sound.
Not a song led by one worship leader,
but a multitude declaring His reign.

When you lift your Hallelujah, you join heaven’s anthem.
When we gather, our voices become like many waters.
Our praise becomes thunder that shakes the atmosphere.
Our sound becomes a witness:
The Most High reigns forever.

🔹 Reflection Questions

1. Is my Hallelujah a whisper or a declaration of God’s reign?

2. Do I worship from a place of revelation — that the Most High truly reigns?

3. What areas of my life must come under His reign as I prepare for this gathering?

🔹 Declaration

> “Hallelujah! The Lord Most High reigns in my life, my home, my future, and my nation.
My voice joins the sound of heaven — loud, powerful, and unified.
The Most High is enthroned above all, and my worship declares His

🔹 Prayer

Most High God,
You reign in majesty, power, and glory.
Let my Hallelujah today rise like thunder before Your throne.
Bring my heart, my mind, and my life under Your sovereign rule.
As we prepare for the conference, let our worship on earth echo the worship in heaven.
Let the sound of many voices become one mighty declaration:
Hallelujah! The Lord God omnipotent reigns!
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

17/11/2025

The Most High, My Redeemer
Nike Oyediran Adesiyan
17/11/25

Scripture:
“For I know that my Redeemer liveth, and that He shall stand at the latter day upon the earth.”
— Job 19:25 (KJV)

💭 Reflection

Job spoke these words while standing in the ashes of loss, pain, and betrayal.
Yet from the deepest place of suffering came one of the greatest declarations of faith:
“My Redeemer lives.”

The Most High is not only the Creator — He is Jehovah Go’el, the God who redeems, restores, and buys back what was lost.
Redemption is the heart of God:

He redeems broken stories.

He restores crushed spirits.

He reclaims what the enemy tried to steal.

He revives dreams buried by disappointment.

The Most High steps into your past, your wounds, and your regrets — not to shame you, but to lift you, cleanse you, and rebuild you.
Nothing is too ruined for Him to redeem.
Nothing is too far gone for Him to restore.

Even when your situation feels dark, your Redeemer is alive, active, and working behind the scenes.
What feels like the end to you may be the beginning of His greatest restoration.

Prayer

Most High, my Jehovah Go’el,
Thank You for being my Redeemer.
Thank You for buying me back with a love that cannot be measured.
Redeem the areas of my life that feel broken or lost.
Restore joy where sorrow lived,
hope where disappointment settled,
and strength where weakness dwelled.
Let Your redeeming power rewrite my story for Your glory.
In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

🌺 Meditation Thought

The Redeemer doesn’t just return what was lost —
He returns it with interest, multiplied by grace.

13/11/2025

Prayer

Most High God,
You are glorious beyond description, and Your wonders fill the earth.
Teach me to be a vessel of Your glory — in my words, my worship, and my witness.
As the conference draws near, let every gathering, every song, and every heart
declare Your majesty among the nations.
Let the world hear our Hallelujah and know that You alone are God!
In Jesus’ Name, Amen