03/05/2026
During a therapy session I once was asked about resilience.
Spoiler alert: I wasn't the therapist.
"๐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐ ๐ข๐ฎ ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ช๐ญ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต..." I said.
I don't recall what exactly the question was, but I recall the bomb: "๐๐ฆ๐ญ๐ญ, ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฎ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ด ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ช๐ญ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต ๐ข๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฌ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ." โ followed by what seemed to be the proof of that reality.
That was for me, the beginning of a chain of personal choices, unknowingly taken with a nervous system anchored to a dorsal response (that state of feeling 'shut down' or stuck).
I felt this new understanding did not belong to me, but I was shocked, I believed it.
๐๐ฆ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ช๐ญ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต: one of the few things I was very much sure about myself, was thrown to the exact opposite side of the spectrum, leaving me with one of my strongest pillars and securities, extracted with no anaesthetic from the core of my being by that simple comment.
To be clear, no blaming here. I am grateful for every single minute of those therapy sessions and the value they have added to my life.
๐๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ก๐๐ฉ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ฌ๐๐๐ฆ๐ฌ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ค๐ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฆ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ, ๐ฎ๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐ฑ๐ญ๐๐ซ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐ซ๐๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐ค ๐๐๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐๐ซ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ๐ข๐ง๐ .
As a consequence, I adopted this new lens and kept taking decisions from a space in which I thought I had to push myself to be more resilient: "Dariana, if you choose this, you're not resilient enough, do this instead of that..." my brain would say.
It took time until the data of my own life contradicted that new, fragile lens.
With my over two decades of experience in hospitality and project management first, and life coaching after, I know first hand that resilience is key to navigate change, pressure, challenges and novelty in our lives.
That's not just high-level performance, but proof of how we all can shift, adapt and tack in the most unexpected ways.
One might be adapting naturally, or master it with time but, it must be clear: ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ง๐ญ.
๐๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐.
๐๐ฆ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ต ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐บ ๐ต๐ข๐ฑ๐ฑ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ด๐บ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ด ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข๐ค๐ค๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ต๐ฐ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฃ๐บ ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ช๐ตโ๐ด ๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ๐ต๐ฆ๐จ๐ณ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ด๐ต ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ต๐ช๐ฎ๐ช๐ป๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ง๐ถ๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆ.
๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ , ๐ซ๐๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐ง๐๐ฎ๐ซ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ง.
There's always a point in life when our resilient side shows up, whether we are conscious about it at the moment of choice, or not.
๐๐๐๐ฃ ๐๐๐ ๐ง๐๐จ๐๐ก๐๐๐ฃ๐๐ ๐จ๐๐ค๐ฌ ๐ช๐ฅ ๐๐๐๐ค๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ค๐ช ๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ฃ๐๐ข๐ ๐๐ค๐ง ๐๐ฉ?
With time, I have also realized that resilience is deeply connected to our values.
Itโs part of the process of naturally flowing in the space defined by our personal values, which equals to being free, in a space defined by us.
Each one has different values, stories, narratives and experiences that guide our movement through this space, and we all move in different ways within it.
In the gap between the learning and the understanding, I walked a path that didnโt completely connect with who I am, until I reframed my goals, choosing my values again, rediscovered myself, learned more.
I found ways to silence the noise, listen to my own guidance, be naturally resilient.
Yet, I am mostly happy of my human journey and those moments when I felt confused, they led me to otherwise unimaginable understandings, and I hope you feel the same.
If you are now navigating confusion, as I was, about whether youโre going to make it through the fog, I am now crafting a resource that I hope will help reframe some aspects of your journey and continue moving with intention.
If this resonates, stay tuned or DM me to know more.