Subir Verma - Career Coach

04/09/2026

The deepest betrayal is not when someone leaves. It is
when they leave after manipulating your emotions, telling
lies, giving serious family reasons, making fool of you and
forcing you to question your own kindness.

Sometimes, we genuinely invest in people.

We trust them.
We give them opportunities.
We stand by them when others do not.
We open doors for them.
We believe in their potential even before they believe in
themselves.

And then one day, they decide to move on

That part is okay.

People have the right to choose their journey.

What hurts is when they leave by telling lies, distorting
facts and conveniently forgetting who stood beside them.

That makes me realise a few uncomfortable lessons for
future.

Be watchful of these behaviour:

1. Do not confuse gratitude with loyalty.
2. Do not over invest emotionally
3. Do not ignore character.
4. Do not believe every story told.

Few things to do:

1. Trust but verify
2. Help people grow but do not be dependent and make
them dependent
3. Give freely but do not expect
4. Accept people moving on with dishonesty
5. Do not fight every false narrative and Keep your dignity

Some will remember it.
Some won't.

Some will walk away with gratitude.
Some will walk away and tell a different story.

And, that's ok.

Do not overplay your role in anyone's life.

03/09/2026

03/09/2026

Amongst the responsibilities and endless to-do lists, do not forget the reason we are here…

TO LIVE. ❤️

We spend years chasing the next milestone:

→ One more meeting.
→ One more target.
→ One more promotion.
→ One more crore.
→ One more “someday.”

And somewhere between “I have to” and “I should,” we forget “I want to.”

Life is not a project with an endless deadline.

Work matters. Ambition matters. Money matters. Responsibilities matter.

But so do the things that never appear on our calendar:

☀️ A morning without rushing.
❤️ Time with people we love.
😂 Laughing without a reason.
🌱 Learning something just because it interests us.
✈️ Taking that trip we keep postponing.
🙏 Being grateful for what we already have.

Build your career.
Build your wealth.
Build your legacy.

But while building everything else, do not forget to build a life you actually want to live.

Because at the end, the goal is to have a life worth remembering and happiness.

What is one thing you have been postponing that you should start living today?

02/09/2026

A calculated risk can change our life.
An avoided risk can haunt us for life!!

“Abhi nahi…”
“Thoda settle ho jaane do…”
“What will people say?”
“What if I fail?”
“What if it doesn’t work?”

And slowly, the dream becomes a memory.

What stops us?

1️⃣ Fear of failure
2️⃣ Fear of judgement
3️⃣ Comfort zone
4️⃣ Financial insecurity
5️⃣ Waiting for the perfect time

There is no perfect time to chase what your heart always wanted to do.

D.R.E.A.M. And DO:

D — Define the dream: Be specific about what we actually want.

R — Reduce the risk: Do not jump blindly. Save money, build skills and create a backup plan.

E — Experiment first: Start small. Test the idea before making a life changing leap.

A — Act consistently: Dreams do not change our lives. Daily action does.

M — Make the leap: At some point, we have to stop preparing and start believing in ourselves.

A safe life can protect us from failure.
But it can also precent us from our dreams.

We have one life.

Take the calculated risk.
Chase the dream.
Build the life we actually want to live.

Because when we look back, the question should not be “Why did I fail?” But “Did I try?”

What is one dream you have been postponing and what are you going to do?

31/08/2026

Our brain is excellent at creating stories.
Verify before believing them !!

We often suffer more from the stories we create in our mind than the reality we face.

Someone does not reply to our message.
“They are ignoring us.”

Our boss does not appreciate our work.
“They do not value us.”

A colleague gets promoted before us.
“They must be playing politics.”

A meeting goes badly.
“Everyone is against our idea.”

But maybe… we are simply telling ourselves a story and believing them.

5 things we often get wrong at work:

1️⃣ We assume intent: Someone is quiet → “They are upset with us.”
Reality → They may just be having a bad day.

2️⃣ We take everything personally:
Feedback → “Our boss doesn’t like us.”
Reality → Feedback may actually be about our work.

3️⃣ We mistake perception for reality:
“Everyone thinks we’re not capable.”
Reality → We may be the only ones thinking that.

4️⃣ We create stories without checking facts:
“They did not invite us because they do not respect us.”
Reality → Maybe the meeting simply did not require our role.

5️⃣ We treat one event as a pattern.
“One mistake → We are failing.”
“One rejection → We are not good enough.”
Reality → One incident is data, not destiny.

How can we overcome this:

1. Pause before reacting: Not every thought deserves an immediate action.

2. Separate FACTS from STORIES: Ask: What do we actually know? What are we assuming?

3. Ask, do not guess: A 2 minute conversation can eliminate a 2 week misunderstanding.

4. Look for alternative explanations: If there are 3 possible reasons, do not automatically choose the worst one.

5. Challenge our own narrative: Ask:
“If our assumption is wrong, what else could be true?”

In corporate life:

Assumption creates conflict.
Ego destroys relationships.
Overthinking kills opportunities.

Do not suffer in imagination.

👉 Where do we go wrong most often, assuming intent, taking things personally, overthinking or creating stories without facts? What do you do?