20/12/2025
There are two sides to every story… and you’ve only heard one.
Edit: Just to clarify, this isn’t my personal story. The screenshot is from an anonymous post shared in a Filipino group in India that has been circulating online and was later taken down. I’m sharing it only to raise awareness and encourage empathy and understanding, not to point fingers or pass judgment.
A lot of this screenshot has been circulating online, and it’s heartbreaking and alarming.
At the same time, we should also remember that there are always two sides to every story. What we see online is only one version, and the full truth can only be known by the people directly involved. That said, any form of physical, emotional, or psychological abuse is never acceptable, regardless of the circumstances or explanations.
This situation is not about marrying someone from a different nationality or culture. This is about abuse and control. No woman ever deserves to be shouted at, humiliated, hit, isolated, or deprived of her independence.
Yes, this reminds us how important it is to truly know a person before marrying. Love alone is not enough. Character, emotional maturity, respect, and values matter more than sweet words and promises. As women, we must protect ourselves and think not just twice, but a hundred times before making life-changing decisions especially when it involves leaving our country, our support system, and our financial safety.
But let’s be very clear: abuse is never the victim’s fault. Many abusers only show their true colors after marriage, pregnancy, or once they feel they have full control. Red flags are sometimes hidden until it’s too late.
Kahit di Indian, kahit anong lahi, kahit saan ka pa sa mundo may mga ganitong klaseng lalaki talaga. Abuse has no nationality, religion, or status. That’s why women should always:
• Keep their own savings
• Maintain skills and a source of income
• Stay connected to family and friends
• Trust their instincts
• Never ignore red flags just to keep the peace
To all women reading this: your safety, dignity, and mental health matter. Marriage should be a partnership, not a prison. Love should feel safe, not fearful.
And to everyone watching from the sidelines, let’s be careful with judgment, but also compassionate. Listening, supporting, and sharing the right resources can make a real difference.
