15/02/2025
Hello everyone
Is it so difficult to be parents for more than one child?
I know it may sound a little new. But these are unsaid words of every sibling.
Parents give their best to nurture their kids uniformly, equally.
But why is it that one sibling has a thing in his/her mind that parents love the other one more.
Love may be more or less but the problem comes when parents forget to give equal respect to the other sibling.
When kids grow they cannot be categorized as elder one, so more respect and younger, so no or less respect.
If this is the case then no younger sibling will ever grow with respect in his/her family just because he/she is younger one.
Elder siblings should be told that after a certain age younger one deserves a respect with behavior as well as words.
The jokes, playing, scolding, standing for each other always remains a part of the bond. But respecting each other should come with right time.
If elder one is saying something bad then they should be made responsible for their wrong doing and take the consequences.
If younger one repeats the same mistake again they should be made responsible to take the consequences.
Some parents consider their elder child to be always right even if he/she does something wrong.
In that case with time the elder one grows so immature in behavior that he/she never thinks twice before disrespecting anyone and even their own parents.
Or, sometimes they have special love for their younger one and don't bother to say anything to him/her even being wrong.
Both cases tend to bring differences among the siblings which is seen in later stages of life.
As I said above,
"Unspoken words of siblings"
After marriage of children, parents start considering daughter-in-law in same way they had considered their children. Why ?
They are from different culture, background, family.
Take time and then react.
Give them equal respect whether they are younger one's wife or elder one's. They both are daughter-in-law. The bond is fragile and can be effected with anything wrongly done.
Now a days when marriages are done in late ages, why not consider respect for a mature daughter-in-law.
Instead of taking time to understand each other, parents start expecting her to accept some unjustified things.
Parenting is a customized learning. All parents shall not have same experience. They have to customize their parenting as per their child. That's why it is not an easy road.
They have to study the child's behavior and with love consider their behavior.
If not considered with equal respect, elder one starts to expect more and takes the younger one for granted in later stages of life and hence they select different paths and are never on same page again.
Indirectly they become different.
Question here is not on parenting but to accept new ways to fill the gaps. Parents often don't retrospect that why are they not close to their siblings.
Note : This may not be the case with all families but many families.