11/01/2025
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Part 3 of our B**M class
Comprehensive B**M Terms and Definitions
Core B**M Terms
B**M: An acronym for Bo***ge, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sa**sm, and Masochism. It encompasses a variety of practices, roles, and dynamics.
Dominant (Dom/Domme): A person who exercises control in a B**M dynamic.
Submissive (Sub): A person who relinquishes control to their Dominant partner.
Switch: Someone who enjoys both Dominant and submissive roles depending on the situation.
Consent: A mutual agreement between all parties involved in B**M activities. Consent must be informed, enthusiastic, and retractable at any time.
Safe Word: A pre-agreed word or phrase used to stop a scene immediately. Common examples include “red” for stop and “yellow” for slow down.
Scene: A planned B**M activity or encounter between participants.
Aftercare: The physical and emotional care provided after a B**M scene, such as cuddling, hydration, or discussing the experience.
Hard Limits: Activities or practices that are off-limits under any circumstances.
Soft Limits: Activities that may require negotiation or have certain boundaries.
RACK: Acronym for Risk-Aware Consensual Kink, emphasizing understanding risks before engaging in activities.
SSC: Acronym for Safe, Sane, and Consensual, a common guideline in B**M.
Dynamic: The power exchange relationship between a Dominant and Submissive.
Collar: A symbol of ownership or commitment in B**M relationships, similar to a wedding ring.
Dungeon: A space equipped for B**M activities, often containing specialized furniture and tools.
Scene: A B**M activity or interaction, typically negotiated beforehand.
D/s Relationship: A dynamic where one partner is Dominant, and the other is submissive, either temporarily or long-term.
Sadist: Someone who enjoys inflicting pain (with consent).
Ma*****st: Someone who enjoys receiving pain (with consent).
Impact Play: Activities involving hitting or striking, such as spanking, flogging, or caning.
Edge Play: Riskier B**M activities that require a higher level of trust and skill (e.g., knife play, breath play).
Collar: A symbol of commitment in a D/s relationship, akin to a wedding ring.
Rope Bunny: A submissive who enjoys being tied up.
Top: The person performing the action in a scene.
Bottom: The person receiving the action in a scene.
Pet Play: A roleplay dynamic where one partner assumes the role of an animal, like a dog or cat.
Rigger: A person who ties their partner in rope bo***ge.
Munch: A casual social gathering for people interested in B**M, usually held in vanilla settings.
Vanilla: Non-kinky, traditional sexual activities.
B**M Toys and Tools
Bo***ge Tools
Rope: Used for tying and restraining. Types include jute, cotton, or synthetic.
Handcuffs: Metal or padded restraints for wrists.
Sh***ri Rope: A type of Japanese rope for intricate bo***ge designs.
Restraint System: Under-the-bed straps or furniture attachments for securing a sub.
Discipline Tools
Crop: A short-handled tool with a flexible shaft, often used for light impact play.
Paddle: A flat tool used for spanking; comes in wood, leather, or silicone.
Flogger: A handle with multiple leather or silicone strands for impact play.
Cane: A thin, flexible rod for sharp, stinging sensations.
Sensory Play Toys
Blindfold: Used to heighten other senses by removing sight.
Feather Tickler: Provides a soft, teasing sensation on the skin.
Pinwheel (Wartenberg Wheel): A spiked wheel that rolls over the skin for a prickly sensation.
Wax Candles: Special low-temperature candles for drizzling wax on the skin.
Vi*****rs and Electro Play
Wand Vi****or: A powerful vi****or for external stimulation.
Electro-stimulation Devices (TENS Units): Tools that use mild electric currents for stimulation.
Roleplay and Fe**sh Tools
Collars and Leashes: Symbolize control and submission.
Gags: Devices like ball gags or bit gags to restrict speech.
Costumes: Outfits for roleplay, such as maid or pet gear.
Advanced Tools
Breath Play Mask: For controlled oxygen restriction (requires experience).
Knife: For sensation play or cutting clothing (requires advanced skills).
Chastity Device: Prevents sexual access; worn by the submissive.
Safety Tools
Safety Scissors: Blunt-tipped scissors for quickly cutting rope or restraints.
First Aid Kit: For addressing minor injuries.
Lubricant: For reducing friction during activities like rope play or insertion.
Uses of Toys
Toys and Tools with Definitions and Uses
Flogger: A multi-stranded whip used for impact play. Can vary in intensity based on material.
Paddle: A flat tool used for spanking; comes in leather, wood, or silicone.
Crop: A riding-style whip with a flexible shaft and leather tip, used for precise impact play.
Blindfold: Used for sensory deprivation, enhancing anticipation and sensitivity.
Handcuffs: Restraint tool to restrict movement, typically for wrists.
Rope: Used for bo***ge; materials like h**p or cotton are common for safety and comfort.
Gag: A tool placed in the mouth to restrict speech; types include ball gags, bit gags, and open-mouth gags.
Collar: A symbol of submission, often worn by subs; can include a leash for DS dynamics.
Wartenberg Wheel: A spiked wheel rolled over the skin to create tingling sensations.
Clamps: Devices for pinching sensitive areas like ni***es or ge****ls to heighten sensations.
Cane: A thin rod used for sharp impact play; requires skill for safe use.
Chastity Cage: A device that prevents the wearer from engaging in sexual activity.
Feather Tickler: Used for light, teasing touches to stimulate the skin.
Electrostim Kit: Tools that deliver mild electrical sensations for pleasure or pain.
Hoods: Headgear that covers the face or entire head for sensory deprivation or roleplay.
Spreader Bar: A bar used to keep limbs apart, restricting movement.
A**l Plug: Inserted anally for stimulation, often used in pet play or as a training tool.
Body Harness: Straps worn on the body for aesthetic or bo***ge purposes.
Violet Wand: An electrical stimulation device for sensory play.
St. Andrew’s Cross: An X-shaped frame used for restraining a person during a scene.
Suspension Rig: A frame or device used for suspending a person in rope bo***ge.
Kneeling Pad: A cushioned mat for comfort during submissive tasks.
Weighted Balls: Used for pelvic floor training or additional stimulation.
B**M Furniture: Custom-made items like spanking benches, cages, or throne chairs for scenes.
Humbler: A restraint device for male anatomy that forces submission postures.
Pinwheel: Similar to the Wartenberg Wheel, designed to stimulate skin with light pricks.
Garter Restraints: Garter-style belts with attached cuffs for light bo***ge.
Thigh Cuffs: Restraints that secure around the thighs, often used in tandem with other tools.
Vi****or: A tool for pleasure that can also be incorporated into B**M play for teasing or edging.
Knife Play Tools: Dull or sharp knives used for psychological or sensory play (requires skill and trust).
This glossary and guide can serve as a resource for both beginners and experienced practitioners. Always remember: safety, consent, and communication are key in any B**M activity!
