08/12/2025
Silent Deaths: The Hidden Struggles of Men
Every man has three families. The first one is the family he is born into, with parents and brothers and sisters. The second one is the family he builds with his wife and children. But there is a third family that many men forget. This is the group of male friends who walk with him in life.
Many men today do not have this third family. They have no close male friends. Because of this, many men are suffering quietly.
A parent may love you, but they are not part of your daily struggle. Your wife may love you so much, but she may not fully understand what a man carries every day.
When a man leaves his house in the morning, he enters a kind of battlefield. He fights for his family, his work, his health, his faith, and even his own peace of mind. His responsibility is still the same—to protect and to provide.
But here is the problem. When a man shares his stress at home, it does not always bring peace. Sometimes the wife becomes worried and the children no longer see strength in their father. But if the man keeps everything inside, it slowly destroys him from the inside.
This is why men need other men. Not just people to greet in the street, but true brothers. Men who will correct you when you are wrong, laugh with you, support you and tell you the truth. Only another man can fully understand what another man is going through.
A man who walks alone may look strong on the outside, but inside he is breaking. A man without brothers slowly dies inside.
Long ago, we had places like the insaka. Men used to meet, talk, advise each other and teach the young boys how to be men. That is where men found support and guidance. But with modern life, we lost that tradition. Now many men feel alone and do not know where to go.
It is time for men to rebuild this brotherhood. Every man needs a group of real friends—a group that can stand with him and remind him that he is not alone.
So go out and make good male friends. Build connections with men who think like you. If you cannot find a group, start one yourself. Because a man is not strong because he carries everything alone, but because he has brothers who can walk with him.
