06/05/2025
Starting over is a one-of-a-kind skill … One that most people avoid.
Not because they don’t need it, but because it’s uncomfortable. And who wants to be uncomfortable when they can hide in a familiar zone of comfort?
Starting over makes you feel like a failure.
But in reality, it’s a quiet form of courage. A courage that people who have not tried will never understand.
Picture this, a woman with two kids…girls…stays with an abusive partner because she’s afraid of starting over. She would rather receive the daily beatings because she’s afraid of moving out into the unknown.
A man with a manipulative wife cannot gather the courage to leave her. He thinks society will judge. He fears that the woman will be all over spreading lies about how she is the one who left him for this or that.
A graduate working as an intern under an abusive boss cannot gather the courage to quit and start from zero. Because society will talk about how thankless she is. She can’t imagine quitting and living in a state where she doesn’t know where her next meal will come from.
And yet…
A young graduate in another part of town just quit their job that was promising six-figures because he didn’t feel appreciated enough.
A mother of six who had recently enrolled her children to a new school has just moved to a new city. She doesn’t know anyone, any school, and her kids have to find new friends.
Life moves on for this woman as she finds a new school for her children by searching and asking for reviews online. She takes her children out on the good days when she manages to get a day job. So they can familiarize themselves with their new environment and make new friends.
A fifty-year old man has left his narcissistic wife and moved in with his six children in a new part of the city. Even though he lost his job a year ago, he’s learned to survive on wages from irregular day jobs as he searches for a stable job. He hopes to start his dream business at least two years before retirement comes knocking.
These people started over not because life forced them to.
They started over because they finally gave themselves permission to chase a more fulfilling life.
They came to terms with the fact that there is no shame in going back to the drawing board when the picture no longer looked like them.
Whether it’s your job, your business, your friendships, your city, or your lifestyle—If it no longer feels aligned, you are allowed to leave and begin again.
Starting over is not weakness.
It’s mastery.
It’s saying: “I’ve grown. And now I get to build something better with what I know.”
So if you’re standing at the edge where the only way up is to first go down and start over, this message is for you.
Start over.
Your future self will thank you for not settling.
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Tell me — is there something in your life you feel called to start over?
Drop it in the comments. I see you. I really do.
