14/05/2025
MAKES MARRIAGE BORING
1. THE IDEA THAT MARRIAGE IS WORK
Don't look at marriage as if it's work or a struggle. That attitude will wear you down. Who wants to get out of job and come back home to work all their life? Look at marriage as a journey with your best friend. Approach marriage with the right attitude
2. UNATTENDED ISSUES
Don't pile up issues, address them immediately. Pending issues threaten the joy in your marriage
3. RIGIDITY IN S*X
Try out new s*x positions, let loose, flirt, be kinky, experiment as you remain faithful
4. LACK OF LAUGHTER
Stop being too serious, joke, laugh, tease each other, watch comedies, have fun
5. DOMESTIC TALKS
Don't reduce your conversations to be just about chores, bills, responsibilities and parenthood. Talk about life, feelings, romance each other, smooth talk each other, heighten intimacy
6. NO MORE DATING
Just because you are married doesn't mean that you stop going out on dates. Dress up, go out, do dinners, go for salsa, go for concerts, picnics, vacations. Go out as a couple
7. OVER SPIRITUALISING THINGS
Don't turn everything to a spiritual talk just because you want to show you are Godly. God cares about every aspect of your life, not just your spirit. There is a time for everything
8. SECLUSION
Don't isolate yourselves as a couple, make friends, invite visitors home, have get togethers or a barbeque, see what other married couples are doing, socialize while still remaining faithful, bless lives together as a couple
9. INTRUSION
Do not allow outsiders to come and interfere with what you two are building. Only you two carry the vision for your marriage, not your Pastor, your parents or friends
10. LACK OF STIMULATION
Give each other new experiences. Dress up, look good, read up, grow mentality, make progress so that you are able to stimulate your spouse mentally, s*xually and visually
11. LONELINESS
Yes, you can be married and lonely. This happens when you don't give each other time, when you don't d