12/12/2025
The truth is that I love small human beings. Sometimes I see some people ranting on this app about how men are bla bla and wonder, which men? It's like choosing a black bull for breeding and then complaining later how you loathe black heifers. Choices have consequences.
I came across another person arguing that marriage benefits men only, mbu marriage is a burden to women. Of course, she was not 'sick', she was only taking medicine for the perceived sick.
Marriage is an institution that needs responsible and sober people to run it continuously. It's the people who work, not the marriage itself. It's not like a school that you will close early because there is no capitation. And there is a huge difference between getting married and trying a marriage, those who try it quickly turn into philosophers.
I recall there was a day I was at a joint at 1 a.m looking for bone soup because Makena wanted nothing but soup. She vomited all of it shortly after taking it and I had to prepare tea at 3 a.m. She could not go to the hospital for clinics unless a taxi was waiting for her outside the gate.
Another fallacy is that women carry stomachs for nine moons, so men should sacrifice more after delivery. Go there! Real stomach starts at 6-7 months. At 3-4 months the baby as tiny as a mongo seed.
I could not travel or stay away past 7 p.m. Her pregnancy refused the smell of alcohol and I had to change my drinking hours from 6 pm to 8 am. We even got to a point where I nearly stopped drinking. About two weeks before her parturition I never slept. She would occasionally wake me up claiming that the baby was peeping, but the doctors sent us away. Three times.
A month and a half after delivering she was to go to the salon, because she looked chaotic. However, a day before going to the salon I was coerced to buy a pump so she could leave behind some milk. We all know what it means when women say they are going to the salon, right? Unfortunately, we didn't know how to use the pump. I manually milked her (btw my wife can remove 2 litres of milk, I discovered that day).
To make the day even more dramatic, Hab refused to take milk from a bottle 🍼. But every time he opened his mouth to cry, I poured a little in his mouth. That's how he took 300ml. Being a father means you should be able to solve such small problems without reporting them to the mother, namwe?
Hab is now seven months and the mother is using him as an excuse to go to places where rich people go to waste their money. "Mtoto hafai kukaa kwa nyumba sana, panga umpeleke out," the cunning mother suggests when she is broke and wants a date. And she accompanies us everywhere we go. But I love children and if she is not careful I will give her another one in exchange for the expensive dates.😅
