03/05/2025
A good lesson from Benjamin Zulu
Nowadays, people don't say it's over. They'll instead exhaust you mentally until you can't take it anymore, and you quit.
They can't initiate the breakup because they would need to explain the decision and own up to their lies.
It's easier to frustrate you until you quit yourself.
Selfish people don't care about the harm they cause as long as they get what they want.
They use your good heart against you, making you invest in them believing you'll go all the way.
They manipulate your patience to make you wait on them while they're just building themselves.
Knowing this, whenever you see that someone no longer cares about your feelings, it's because they're waiting for you to leave.
If you find that the same issues keep cropping up soon after you've discussed them, know that the person has already checked out of the relationship.
Sometimes you don't have a communication problem with someone. You have commitment issues.
They're no longer invested as before, and they hope you get the cue sooner.
They can't take responsibility because of their fragile ego and their selfish need to continue using you while you linger around.
Sometimes, you struggle to let go because you had started behaving as if you were married, and so the breakup feels like a divorce.
It pains twice to be let down by someone you compromised your standards for. Users always want you to compromise for them as proof of your love.
They're not here for the long term but only for the benefits, and that's why they pressure you and threaten to quit if you don't give in.
This threat should be your signal that they're an eater and not a builder. But your loving heart may have already fallen in love, and it gets deceived.
The sooner you accept that you've been duped, the sooner you can start retracing your steps back to healing.
Sometimes, a good heart doesn't want to see the bad in people, and sometimes, it takes such a bad betrayal for us to learn our less
