A fellow traveler of life

A fellow traveler of life Love is a fairy tale that we write ourselves, and only we determine its ending

My story is probably different from most similar stories. I knew about everything before we got married, but I was drawn...
17/09/2022

My story is probably different from most similar stories. I knew about everything before we got married, but I was drawn to my husband-to-be, he was my true love. One day even before we were married he told me: "I have to confess something to you. If it weren't for you, I'd be homosexual. This was in 1961, and it was as if g**s didn't exist then. I didn't have a single homosexual in my environment. It seemed to me to be something of a neurosis. He agreed that that was partly true. At one time he was seeing a therapist, and I assumed: maybe he simply needed some extra therapy. He proposed to me, and we got married. I had no idea that he was suffering, didn't know what he was thinking or fantasizing about men after all. We didn't talk about it. Somehow he let me know everything, and I was simply crushed. There was a sense of terrible loss. On the other hand, I was a feminist and was very supportive of the gay rights struggle, which was just beginning. I told him that I admired his bravery. If I had found out he was sleeping with another woman, it would have killed me. It would have meant that I had been pushed out of the place I occupied-next to him. But I was still an exceptional woman in his life, and that comforted me. But, as with any breakup with someone I truly loved, life could no longer be ex. He was the most important person in my life and continued to be until I had my daughter. My second spouse was not particularly bothered by all this until my former spouse passed away from AIDS in the year one thousand nine hundred and eighty-six. My husband was shocked by my grief. And I had never had such a close connection with anyone else as I had with my first partner. My whole youth, with its strong feelings, was tied to him. There's no changing that anymore.

STEPS TO EXIT THE CARPMAN TRIUGLE STEP one. First, it's important to slow down, return your focus to the here-and-now mo...
16/09/2022

STEPS TO EXIT THE CARPMAN TRIUGLE STEP one. First, it's important to slow down, return your focus to the here-and-now moment, and activate the triggers of the adult ego state: Ask yourself: "What's happening to me now?" Shift your focus to breathing. Ask yourself questions: "What am I playing this game for?", "What right now do I really want? "What does this discord give me?", "What can I do right now?" STEP two. Once you've managed to activate the adult ego state, say out loud (if it's appropriate definitely in your case): "I've noticed that our dialogue is going around in circles, we're too wound up now to solve this problem. Let's cool down and come back to this topic later." STEP three. Right off the bat, you need to shift the focus of attention to yourself. The easiest way to do this is through the body. You can focus on your feet or the way the air enters your nostrils. Step Four. In step two you've got the inner result of why you're playing this game, what you really want. And right now, think about how you can satisfy your childish demands in a more healthy method than conflicting behavior. STEP five. If you routinely play Rescue, take care of yourself and save yourself from wasting energy and time. Stop helping without being asked. STEP six. Now that you are in full awareness of what is flowing, you need to set stern boundaries with your opponent. STEP seven. To get completely out of the drama triangle, you need to move your communication with your interlocutor to a mature 0 mature format.

The average length of a stalker stalk is 2.2 years, so you should prepare for the siege seriously and react as proactive...
15/09/2022

The average length of a stalker stalk is 2.2 years, so you should prepare for the siege seriously and react as proactively as possible. To begin with, any relationship where you feel morally drained, frightened, and have no freedom of choice should be discussed as soon as possible with your loved ones and, if necessary, with a psychologist. If you have realized that you are under the pressure of a stalker, do not act alone and do not try to quietly solve the discord - you need helpers. Depending on how aggressive the stalker is, any talk you have about breaking up is best done not in a secluded place, but with a support group nearby. During the rescue operation, you must secure yourself with someone who is able to fight back the abuser and is not on friendly terms with him (to avoid the risk of excusing the stalker's actions or glossing over the situation). Prepare for some time to hold the siege, at the same time alerting all the friends and family, as well as the police. But the most important thing is to undergo a course of restorative psychotherapy, in order to avoid the risks of prolonged stress and psychological trauma. Hypnosis can become one of the most effective and prompt methods in the struggle with the consequences of a meeting with stalkers and any invaders - as a soft tool of suave correction of psychological health and getting rid of the rooted defensive reactions of the psyche.

10-minute exercises that will increase creativity and mental clarityConstant fatigue, digestive problems, arguments... P...
14/09/2022

10-minute exercises that will increase creativity and mental clarity
Constant fatigue, digestive problems, arguments... Psychologist Benjamin Hardy believes that you can cope with psychological, medical and life problems by tuning the unconscious to solve them.

The unconscious does not sleep, it controls all the vital processes in our body 24/7. What happens at its level affects consciousness and well-being. It is possible to become happier and healthier if you stay alone with your thoughts for 20 minutes every day. Do simple exercises daily 10 minutes before bedtime and immediately after waking up.

10 MINUTES BEFORE BEDTIME
Thomas Edison said, "Never go to bed without questioning your unconscious." Many famous people meditate or reflect on the past day and plans for the future before going to sleep. In this way, they guide the unconscious mind in the right direction so that at night it works for good, not for harm.

Before going to sleep, it is useful to stay in silence and meditate: so you will put your thoughts in order and tune up for sleep. Think of things that require prompt ex*****on, write them down. Ask yourself as many questions about them as possible. The more specific the questions, the clearer the answers will be. While you sleep, the unconscious will process the information so that in the morning you can "produce" an original and effective solution.

10 MINUTES AFTER AWAKENING
The prefrontal cortex is most active right after you wake up. During sleep, the unconscious worked freely, making semantic and temporal connections. In the morning, the brain analyzes what was created during the night and generates ideas.

Josh Weitzkin, former chess prodigy and world taichi champion, talks about spending some time after waking up in reflection. Josh secludes himself in a quiet place, meditates and makes journal entries, recording the thoughts that come to mind. During this time, he experiences a peak of clarity, creativity and learning. Meanwhile, most of today's 18-44 year olds are wasting their morning time. 80% spend the first 15 minutes of the day looking at smartphone screens. They absorb other people's thoughts and ideas instead of creating their own.

Not everyone likes to keep a journal, but morning reflections are very helpful. Think back to the problems you've been worrying about and the questions you've been asking yourself before bedtime. Now that your mind is clear and creative, write down everything you think about them and try to provide answers to the questions posed in the evening.

With practice, you will learn to tune your unconscious so that fresh ideas will come to your mind in the morning
Using this technique, the journalist can come up with an original plan article, the father of the family - to decide how to spend the weekend with his wife and children. In the morning hours it becomes clear how to achieve the goal, there are useful ideas about professional contacts and new projects. Perhaps, at first, the results will not be as desired. With a little practice, you will learn how to tune the unconscious so that fresh ideas come to mind in the morning.

Physical objects are built on the basis of a project, which means that the creation of ideas is always primary. Thoughts are the blueprint for life, which you build gradually, day by day. By learning to set your thoughts in the right direction, you will create the optimal conditions for realizing your goals. Evening and morning practices will help you clarify your goals and identify the paths that will lead you to those goals.

The new suit, a light gray suit, a silk scarf and light gloves, and a checked British suit and a small hat for Isadora. ...
12/09/2022

The new suit, a light gray suit, a silk scarf and light gloves, and a checked British suit and a small hat for Isadora. After the registry office, the young couple went to Duncan's house, where the closest people were invited to the celebration in the evening. Soon the couple left for Leningrad, where Duncan's tour began. Then there were the countries of Western Europe and America. But very quickly Yesenin longed for his homeland, the more that he saw: abroad Isadora is accepted as a star, or otherwise is only her es**rt, a toy of the famous diva, her whim. But even this despite the fact that she tried to promote his poetry. Sergei Alexandrovich saw it all and bitterly told: Once I see a newspaperman on the corner, and on every newspaper my face. My heart even fluttered. That's the glory! Across the ocean. I bought a dozen newspapers from him, rushed home, thinking I needed to send to someone else. I ask for someone to translate the caption under the portrait. They translate it for me: Sergey Esenin, a Russian man, the husband of the famous, incomparable, charming dancer Isadora Duncan, whose immortal talent ... and so on and so forth. I was so angry that I tore the paper to shreds and could not calm down for a long time. So much for fame! Yesenin was not the kind of person who keeps his anger inside, and therefore began a merry journey quickly overgrown scandals and his own claims. A year later the couple returned to Russia, and Duncan was relieved to say to her secretary: Here I have brought this child to his homeland, but I no longer have anything in common with him... They really had nothing more to do: she left on a tour, he after a while to send her a telegram, which said he was married and happy. But to cross out the other one hundred percent of his fate, neither of them was able to. And life apart was not so happy and long ... December 28, 1925 Yesenin was found dead in a Leningrad hotel "Angleterre". Isadora Duncan, who outlived her former spouse by only two years, reacted to the news of his death: "I cried so much that I have no more tears," she telegrammed Ilya Shneider.

In the 1960s, Western culture was far from accepting the importance of the mind-body connection. If you google mind-body...
09/09/2022

In the 1960s, Western culture was far from accepting the importance of the mind-body connection. If you google mind-body connection (in quotes) over the last decade, there are hundreds of thousands of results. And if you enter the period 19611970, five references will come up. Two are in other languages. Of the 3 that are in English, one is an article on Jewish spirituality, the other a synopsis of a court session about some horrible murder. Against its avant-garde nature, some progressive scholars of the time have taken up the subject. One such scholar was George W. Hohmann, a psychologist at the Veterans Administration clinic in Long Beach, California. Hohmann was paralyzed from the lower body and fought in World War II and subsequently injured his spinal cord. Similar injuries can limit the ability to control muscles, but the spinal cord also transmits sensory signals, and therefore victims of such injuries sometimes do not feel the extremities of heat, cold, pressure, pain, as well as the posture and state of the body and even personal pulse. At the clinic, Hochmann routinely interacted with other patients with spinal cord injuries. Hochmann wondered: if the state of the brain affects the experience of emotions, does the weakening of feedback from the body reduce the strength of the emotions experienced by the patient, as was apparently the case with Hochmann himself? To find out, he interviewed twenty-six male patients at the clinic and asked them to compare some of their sensory experiences before and after trauma. In an article, now a classic, he concluded that paralyzed patients actually experienced a significant decrease in the emotions of anger, sexual arousal and nightmare. In recent years, the development of a sensory response in the paralyzed has reinforced this conclusion. Nowadays we know that the brain-body connection is so central to the human condition that if it were possible to cut the spinal cord and other nerve fibers and blood vessels that unite the head with the body, and then carefully stitch the head onto some other decapitated body, the severance of the feedback silhouette between the brain and the body would prove a serious threat to the survival of the new organism. This example seems unlikely and extravagant, in fact such trials have been performed for many years. In addition, head transplant trials have gathered such a long and rich history that one surgeon at Harvard Medical School briefly posted an article on the subject: History of Head Transplants. Overview. The article begins with an account of the first similar test with a dog: done more than a century ago by Drs. Alexis Carrel and Charles Guthrie. The dog could see, make sounds and move, but died a few hours later. Carrel received the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine in one thousand nine hundred and twelve years for his work on transplantation. Russian surgeon Vladimir Demikhov repeated this feat in one thousand nine hundred and fifty-fourth year, he had a dog lived twenty-nine days, but the Nobel Prize was not awarded. In subsequent years, similar operations were performed on mice and even primates. In 1970, the rhesus monkey with a transplanted head lived eight days, and it was considered typical in all respects. All of us have our own definitions of normal, and as someone who has had more than one surgery in his life, I know that when a surgeon promises you that after surgery you will soon be typical, it is better to clarify exactly what the surgeon means by that one word. I, in every case, believe he doesn't mean leaving the operating room as an amputated head. What that surgeon meant was that the monkey was capable of biting, chewing, swallowing, seeing a moving object through his gaze, and that he had an EEG in the image of a waking individual. That was it. All in all, she needed constant medication and constant mechanical ventilation of the lungs, so that the animal would not suffocate. No tree-jumping and no banana-hunting for this monkey, typical by all indications

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