08/08/2025
We often invest a great deal of time and energy trying to help people who seem perpetually trapped in the same cycles and loops - the same drama, the same self-inflicted chaos.
Thereโs no doubt that offering support to someone in need is a noble and selfless act. Itโs an instinct rooted in empathy. Thereโs no argument there.
But life, work, and relationships sometimes throw us into the orbit of people who donโt actually want solutions. They crave attention, validation, and thrive on dysfunction. They wear their problems with pride, letting their problems define who they are - attracting the same chaos over and over again.
And these are the people who will drain you.
Who will pull you into their emotional quicksand and keep you there.
The ones who embody the phrase โmisery loves company.โ
Youโre far better off letting them go.
They could be your boss. A peer. A time-serving โfriend.โ A client.
Sometimes, they may even talk the talk, and walk an impressive walk; wear lavish clothes, have a sizeable, fancy budget - yet bring nothing but toxicity, disrespect, and ego into the room.
After over two decades in the creative industry, Iโve learned this:
Iโd rather walk away from a lucrative but toxic client than watch my team be undervalued, disrespected, and crushed under unrealistic demands.
Because hereโs the truth no one tells you:
We are ๐๐๐ obligated to carry the weight of problems others choose to create for themselves.
We are ๐๐๐ responsible for fixing what people refuse to acknowledge.
It is ๐๐๐ our role to bite every bullet, mend every ego, or rewrite every narrative.
Some people just love their problems.
Theyโre not looking for solutions.
Theyโre looking for an audience.
Stop being part of their stage.
Reclaim your peace of mind. Own how you choose to manage and spend your time.
Focus on what truly matters - and who actually values you.
